This subject is so much a part of our everyday lives that we take it for granted thus giving it a back seat. It has been done to us & we have done it to others. So, what took place? Why do we do this? What is the purpose of it & is it part of what makes us a better person or binds us to an unhealthy situation. Let's detail this subject
POINTING THE FINGER DEFINED: to openly & deliberately accuse or blame with emphasis on more than just one person or circumstances, whether true or not
who's next?
AT WORK
Your job is important to you, or you wouldn't be there. Something happens that causes a stir or pause in the workplace. It is usually a negative event with consequences which automatically puts everyone on the defensive. If a general event, we watch & learn. If the finger of fate points to us, we explain, deny & react
RELATIONSHIPS
When two people come together, growth visits along with the risks & trials of learning as we go. When one sees something that is not quite right, it behooves the team to speak-up. If it is a specific address, the finger is loosened & lots of reactions kick-in. MY FAVORITE: I point the finger at my wife; she double points it back to me. I have learned to laugh but it does increase the work needed LOL
CONSEQUENCES
Someone gets fired & the finger goes to work! They start letting go of everything that bothered them while going out the door, no one is spared. If an employer, you have a disgruntled employee. If fellow workers, they are accused & exposed
DISGRUNTLED DEFINED: deep dissatisfaction driven by anger from things not going your way.
WORTHY NOTE: Close cousin of the disgruntler, is the troublemaker who enjoys the look on your face or your deer in the headlights or defense posture triggered when the "finger" is on the job, working, & creating mischief & worse
WHAT ABOUT HIM or HER?
Finger pointing unleashes harsh & curt examinations of one or more people when an incident takes place. Personal or professional, blame drives the bus. Whether any of it is true, we don't know but we are off & running while fingering to find out.
WITHHOLD
The fickle finger is usually propelled by a common force we all possess i.e. what we hold in or a secret life or judgment. It hides until people start pointing fingers & then it comes out in a torrent of blame, accusations, discontent & "by the ways".
WORTHY NOTE: If we do not hold things in & instead let them pass or we address them in the moment they appear, withhold is defeated. Your finger is at rest while the other persons is going at warp speed. Good! One of us has to stay neutral to help us grow, recover & evolve. Two fingers going at it? Pure chaos if not checked
PROBLEMS
Rather than solve our problems, take responsibility & grow or learn to do this, we blame! The finger comes out taking precious time & space away from the growth or gain. Human nature inherited this behavior from the dysfunction (uncorrected, unexplored or corrupted) self. In some people, it can be substantial until known
SAY IT OR DO IT
Another counter to the roaming finger is the simple, in the moment action taken & our ability to speak up on what is occurring. If you have something to say, now is the time. Something to do, likewise. If you don't, then the finger has a chance at a later time & complicates, & distracts causing us distress & loss of a worthy moment
IMAGINE
Living a life of no blame, accusations & anger driven-nonsense for a moment. Now, if you see or engage the famous finger pointing it here & there, you have some work to do. If the finger doesn't appear, carry on & consider helping others
THE FINGER of TRUTH
When finger pointing is done properly, in order & in line with well-chosen words, proof of action or a loving kindness, that truth goes to work for the good however, having a wagging, on the loose finger in the face is not angelic at first glance LOL
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