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Lessons Learned from Giants

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Lessons Learned from Giants

I have been very fortunate in my life to have been able to benefit from the wisdom of others' greatness. When I first started selling real estate, I was young and naïve. I didn't know much about the housing market or even marketing. I had to rely on watching other agent's success to try and find clues that I could learn from.

Early on in my career, my first mentor was my trainer, Garth, who taught me early on that good old-fashioned hard work would be my key to thriving and surviving in the real estate industry. He also taught me that doing thing right the first time would save me a lot of time along the way. He had a lot of great advice, but I was hungry for more. I knew that if I wanted to become a true expert, I'd have to watch the experts in action.

There was another agent in my office, a gentleman named Jeff, who seemed like everything he touched was gold. He was the number one agent in our entire marketplace and always on the go, always busy. When I was just getting started, I would rarely see him, but he made an impression, because when I did see him, he was always very intentional. He always had someplace to go, something to do - yet he would always take just a moment to give me little nuggets of wisdom. And I decided to study how he did it, I wanted to know what it was that made him so successful.

So, I said to him one day, "I would love to shadow you," because I wanted to learn from the best. And I remember the words he told me, "Kid, I don't have the time to babysit you, but if I ever see you following behind me, I'll know you're shadowing me."

And that gave me the permission I needed to drive and follow him where he went. I watched what time he came to the office. I watched how many listings he brought. I looked at every piece of marketing he did - I would tour every one of his listings just to see what his flyers looked like. I watched this man like a hawk. I wanted to learn his patterns and figure out what made his business tick. He was focused and on a mission. He'd be in neighborhoods straightening up signs, going into the MLS, going to Chamber of Commerce meetings, city council meetings, stopping by the business planning department. Maybe that sounds a little creepy, but I was just getting started and it was one of the best things I ever did.

And what I learned about him was the same thing that I learned from Garth, and that was that Jeff was a good old-fashioned hard worker. He started early and stayed longer than most. Most of all, he was not afraid to try new things. This was one of the most important lessons that I ever learned in business - how to combine hard work with innovation.

Innovation comes from learning new things, being the first one to be at that new seminar, the first one to learn new information, a new system, a new piece of software. The first one to see market trends - like being the first to dig into middle housing even before Washington State had started drafting bills.

For example, today, I'm studying AI and how AI will change real estate. I'm studying the latest building technology so that I can stay ahead of the learning curve. I am adding learning into my daily routine every day and I have done that throughout my career for over 30 years.

Even if it's for 20 minutes, I'm going to learn something new every day. I'm going to read something that I don't know enough about. I'm going to grab a paper and read an article. I'm going to go to a class. I'm going to go on YouTube and watch somebody teach me something about something. Having a learner's mind, being a hard worker, and being ethical along the way has absolutely been my key to success.

Today, I pass on that moment from early on in my career. I stop when somebody asks me a question. I answer a call when somebody needs to talk to me. If there's a text message and somebody's hanging off the phone because they need some advice, I'll answer it. Just like my own path many years earlier, I had people that were there for me and that's why I give it back.


portrait of Denise Lones

By Denise Lones CSP, CMP, M.I.R.M.
The founding partner of The Lones Group, Denise Lones has over three decades of experience in the real estate industry. With agent/broker coaching, expertise in branding, lead generation, strategic marketing, business analysis, new home project planning, product development and more, Denise is nationally recognized as the source for all things real estate. With a passion for improvement, Denise has helped thousands of real estate agents, brokers, and managers build their business to unprecedented levels of success, while helping them maintain balance and quality of life.


The Lones Group, Inc.

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GilbertRealtor BillSalvatore
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

Thanks for sharing, make it a great Friday and enjoy your weekend! Bill 

Bill Salvatore, Realtor- Arizona Elite Properties

Oct 24, 2025 11:25 AM
Denise Lones

Great to see you GilbertRealtor BillSalvatore - Have a great weekend too. Denise

Oct 24, 2025 11:53 AM
Kelly McGovern
Realty Concierge International - Bellingham, MA
Working with Kelly is a good move

And now you are the teacher .... great story!

Oct 24, 2025 02:17 PM
Denise Lones

Kelly McGovern Three decades and still going strong! Hello from Bellingham, WA - Denise

Oct 24, 2025 02:52 PM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Denise, oh so true,  good ole hard work, no matter the field is of the utmost importance in success.  m

Oct 24, 2025 05:37 PM
Denise Lones

Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho And not just the hard work, but what kind of hard work. Being smart about working hard, staying up on the market, getting my lead outreach done consistently, and so on. All the things I regularly preach on here at ActiveRain, but behind it all is the willingness to work hard. - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 08:49 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

HI Denise- I love this.  You were blessed to have had "Giants" who took the time to share with you what they knew...or share with you via their actions. And now, you're returning the favor. And, yes...learn something new every day. Make the time and take the time!!! 

And thank YOU for the sharing you do here.

Oct 24, 2025 06:24 PM
Denise Lones

Kathy Streib Thank you! Coming back after the weekend and discovering all these comments is a nice way to start a Monday morning! Hope you had a great weekend - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 08:51 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

As Yogi Berra once said, "You can learn a lot by just listening". Those Giants had some good stuff to share. Jeff

Oct 24, 2025 06:26 PM
Denise Lones

Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI Business role-models are pretty important, especially in real estate. - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 08:53 AM
Adam Feinberg
Elegran - Manhattan, NY
NYC Condo, Co-op, and Townhouse Advisor

Curiosity, Kindness, Working intelligently and rolling up your sleeves and working hard- all traits that don't involve special skills- but when used together are likely a decent indicator of someone that can succeed in this business. There is no real special ingredient for most of the successful agents, but it's a combination of least some of these traits (and more).  

Oct 25, 2025 08:52 AM
Denise Lones

Adam Feinberg Maybe they are not special skills, but not as commonly found habits everywhere. Hope you had an amazing weekend - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 09:05 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello and thank you for sharing this great information in the Rain here.  Hope you are doing good.

 

Oct 25, 2025 09:41 AM
Denise Lones

You're always welcome Will Hamm - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 09:05 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Oct 25, 2025 06:12 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Author, Golfer, Retired Broker, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Denise,
I'm glad Kathy featured this post because I missed it. We can learn a lot by watching successful people. I do wish there were a required mentorship for new agents. I think the reputation of the industry could be improved, and our fall-out rate reduced.

The industry is constantly evolving and those who aren't constantly learning are falling behind. Here is how I sign my books:
Always...
Believe in yourself,
Dream big & 
Keep Learning !

Oct 26, 2025 06:18 AM
Denise Lones

Carol Williams I noticed your fun Halloween-themed picture. Glad you are having fun. All my best - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 09:07 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Denise - sometimes there is much to be learned while in the shadows.  Talk about absorbing greatness in action and behavior and not just a lot of trash talk being tossed about. Wow - meaningful water cooler-type discussions can lead to better things. 

Oct 26, 2025 06:41 AM
Denise Lones

Michael Jacobs Over decades of coaching real estate agents, for most it isn't enough to just observe and be around good role models - though it certainly helps - accountability helps create new habits and opens new opportunities faster. I encourage agents to find a mentor that won't just "show them the ropes," but who will hold them accountable too. Jeff, in my story above, he had a lot to teach - and I had the personality to learn by watching - but he was too busy to be holding me accountable and "babysit" me. That strength had to come from somewhere else. - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 09:14 AM
Michael Jacobs

Denise Lones - a combination of experiences can help push us forward. 

Oct 27, 2025 10:33 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Denis,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her Sunday Series as I missed it! You were indeed fortunate to have some "Giants" or mentors to follow. Learning from the best and surrounding yourself from the best is definitely the best education you can receive! Love that you now give back..your turn to be the example and educate others.

Oct 26, 2025 06:59 AM
Denise Lones

Thank you Dorie Dillard Austin TX. Wishing you a fantastic week - Denise

Oct 27, 2025 09:16 AM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

What a powerful share, Denise Lones. Thank you for opening the door to your early lessons and the grit behind your growth 🙌. The way you’ve woven mentorship, curiosity, and real-world hustle into a lifelong learning mindset is both inspiring and refreshingly real. Appreciate you putting this out there... it’s the kind of wisdom that sticks.

Oct 27, 2025 09:14 AM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

Hello Denise Lones  I really enjoyed reading this post. Learning by listening and observing is the key to success in many ways. And now you giving back what you have learned is lovely! what goes around comes around! Thank you!

Oct 28, 2025 12:06 AM