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Let it flow - Don't force.

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Real Estate Agent with Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 PA License - AB067198

Several years ago I was introduced to the author John Strelecky, he has written several books starting with "The Why Cafe. I began there and read several of his other books as well, these include Return to the Why Cafe, Life Safari, The Big Five for Life, The Big Five for Life continued and Ahas! Moments of Inspired Thought.

Many if not all of these have become worldwide best sellers. They are easy to read and whilst simple, carry many life lessons worth learning.

One of the stories that sticks in my mind is about the sea turtle. The narrator was telling how he learnt the lesson about going with the flow, not fighting the current through the actions of the Sea Turtle. The Sea Turtle swims very hard when the waves flow in the direction they want to go, and rest when the waves flow in the opposite direction. Then when the waves change direction again they have the energy to swim really hard again.

Let it flow - don't force.

It is a life lesson, we can struggle very hard with something because we are working against the current, we get tired, burnt out, exhausted and eventually give up. 

I remember another story about a fly buzzing against a window trying to escape a room, it flew for hours, then resting and flying again at the window. When in fact the door next to the window was open, it just needed to fly a few feet to the left to exit, but it only flew at the window banging against the glass again and again till it tired and collapsed on the window sill.

Sometimes a different perspective will help us find a new way, or a different method to achieve our goal. We just need to step back and look at it anew.

What are you struggling with today? Maybe a walk in nature will give you time to get a fresh perspective. To see where you are fighting the current, working against the flow. How can you let yourself not force what you are hoping to achieve?

Have a great week.

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Nick Vandekar
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Nick, when things get too frustrating, it is time to get up, walk away and come back with a clear head, and usually works out best.

Nov 10, 2025 12:19 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Hi Nick... I learned to stop stressing so long ago, I can't even tell you what I might be struggling with.

Nov 10, 2025 01:25 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Nick and thank you for sharing a interesting blog with us here in the Rain.  Make it a start to a good week.

Nov 10, 2025 03:57 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Nick,

So many life lessons but this is one to make sure to get a handle on! Sometimes when struggling. Take a break...step back and maybe even come back to it. A different perspective can make all the difference. 

Nov 10, 2025 06:43 PM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Great suggestions! Sometimes I think I am swimming upstream, then i look around at my environment and I need to re-evaluate--nothing worse than thinking you are way ahead whenin actuality you have been running in place! Ha! 

Nov 16, 2025 10:42 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Nick- I love this!!!!  Just this last weekend, I was trying to figure something out and getting nowhere. I tabled it until yesterday and it worked. 

Sometimes we have to stop, take a breath and assess what's going on. 

Nov 10, 2025 07:01 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Going with the flow is certainly the easiest path, but I find that going with the flow these days will more often than not lead us down the wrong path, haha.

Nov 11, 2025 05:37 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Joan Cox that is a good practice.

Nina Hollander, Broker a lesson well learned.

Will Hamm thank you, hope you are staying warm.

 

Nov 11, 2025 08:07 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Dorie Dillard Austin TX we can sometimes feel we are almost there so stick at it, but leaving and coming back is always a wise step.

Kathy Streib very true Kathy, I wish O had learned this when I was much younger.

Brian England it  is much harder to go against the flow and to stand your ground for your values and principles but one should never lose sight of those.

Nov 11, 2025 08:10 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Being a Southern California beach boy, we quickly were taught the lessons of NOT fighting rip tides.  As your post indicates too much energy used on a useless endeavor.  Many drownings caused because swimmers were unaware.  m

Nov 11, 2025 01:41 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho yes, my son taught me that when we visited him in N. Carolina.

Nov 12, 2025 07:10 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Nov 15, 2025 06:54 PM
Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Beautiful reminder, Nick. It’s amazing how often we wear ourselves out pushing against something that just isn’t moving. Stepping back, shifting a few feet, or simply letting the current carry us for a bit can open the door we couldn’t see before. Thanks for the perspective today, much needed.

Nov 16, 2025 07:22 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Retired Real Estate Broker

Life doesn't need to be needlessly hard and a few quiet moments to sit back and really look and think at what is in front of us may well show that open window to the side.

Nov 16, 2025 07:37 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Hi Nick--I really think that if we all re-evaluate our circumstances on a consitant basis we would not find ourselves in a muddle in the long run! So, it's unfortunate to see someone struggling with their lives, when in fact a new lens on things will give new life to a bedraggled soul, if they would only look around and evaluate from a different perspective...

Thanks for your wise words!

Nov 16, 2025 10:53 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Kathy Streib thank you as always

Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518 glad it helped.

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 exactly sir.

Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA thank you, appreciate the comment.

Nov 16, 2025 11:26 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Nick going with the flow is something I thankfully learned at a young age.  The story was exactly what your photo depicts......going downstream and going with the flow.  It so much easier!  And boy has it ever come in handy this past year or so.  Flow!!

One of the other sayings was - What you Resist Persists! Let it go!

Nov 16, 2025 02:54 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Anna "Banana" Kruchten I like that, after my divorce, I was thinking of moving to Europe and was seeing someone, I felt things changed between us and at first did not want them to. But, then I saw in my imagination me trying to hold onto a hot air balloon and realized i needed to let it go. When I did I felt so much lighter in my self I knew it was the right thing to do.

Nov 17, 2025 06:55 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I agree, Overall  And I do think you’re on something. They’re not wrong

Nov 17, 2025 11:42 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

One thing to add is that this would be like trying not to try and therefore trying becomes a bit of a trick thing with a bit of a learning curve..

Nov 17, 2025 11:44 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Laura Cerrano I think what influenced me to write this was some words I was reading about Taoism and letting life and energy flow through you rather than blocking it.

Nov 18, 2025 08:00 AM