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Thankful for a Loving Mother

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Thankful for a Loving Mother

My mother was a child of the depression. My grandparents immigrated from Ireland products of the oppression at that time against the British.  Mom had 3 sisters and 2 brothers.  In addition to becoming citizens of the USA, my grandparents sponsored other relatives to immigrate.  Their home was a boarding house in Mom's youth.

My father served in the United States Army.  Together they purchase a home for me, my sister and my brother in Queens County NY.  Unfortunately, Mom became a wdiow at the age of 32 and had to support 3 children and a mortgage working 3 different jobs.

Mom taught us all skill sets that served us well into the ages.  We learned how to cook, shop, clean home, manners and had time to participate in activities like Girl Scouts, the church band and so forth.

It was heartbreaking for her to have a rebellious child like me.  Overtime we learn to forgive, adjust and share at a difference consciousness as we face each decade of our life.  We make choices and live with the consequences of those choices.

In later years our priorities alter based on our level of health and happiness.   I am fortunate to have spent quite of bit of time traveling together.

I can attest to ageing with disabilities and learned along the way how to make the process more fun. We never know when your maker will call you home nor how we will grieve the great loss. 

It's been 8 years since that loss, and it still feels like yesterday.  Until we meet again Mom.  I sorely miss you in my life.  I am grateful for the time we shared together along our journey. 

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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Eileen---a fond remembrance.  "Aging" - our own as well as observing  and experiencing in others can be beneficial in our personal continuing education. 

Nov 23, 2025 08:09 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 ,

Loved your post! My mother grew up in one of her mom's sister's home as her parents died in the Plague. She had a rough life as her sisters went elsewhere to live. She lived in an apartment in HS by herself, as she worked to save money for college. She made it and graduated. I wish I had known more of her hardships when I was growing up and maybe we wouldn't have butted heads so often.

Nov 23, 2025 08:26 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Eileen, I can relate about the loss of my mom that taught me how to cook, how to treat people and be successful at anything I would do.

Nov 23, 2025 08:33 AM
Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
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Your mother’s story is powerful and beautifully told. She carried more responsibility than most people face in a lifetime, yet she still managed to raise children who were capable, resilient and grounded. That kind of strength leaves a deep imprint.

Your reflection on forgiveness, changing priorities and learning to navigate life’s seasons hits hard because it is real. Losing a parent never fully softens. Eight years or eighty, the love stays close. The grief stays close. The gratitude stays close.

Thank you for sharing her legacy. It is clear she shaped you in ways that will keep her present for the rest of your journey.

Nov 23, 2025 08:43 AM
Eileen Burns 954.483.3912

ty Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518 

Nov 25, 2025 09:10 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Sunday morning, Eileen. Thanks for sharing this family story. I am among those who owe a great deal to their mother.

Nov 23, 2025 09:03 AM
GilbertRealtor BillSalvatore
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

Wonderful story, Thanks for sharing, enjoy your weekend, and here's a GOOD LUCK to your favorite Football Team 🏈! Bill

Bill Salvatore / Arizona Elite Properties

Nov 23, 2025 09:28 AM
Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner
Denver, CO
Enjoying Every Day to Its Fullest!

Eileen, our moms could have been related!   We had 3 girls, dad wouldn't pay child support, and mom and 3 jobs.   Your mom and my mom were saints, and both are missed.

Nov 23, 2025 02:37 PM
Kelly McGovern
Realty Concierge International - Bellingham, MA
Working with Kelly is a good move

I'm happy to hear you both travelled together and spent some quality time.  Those memories live on.  She'll live forever in your heart and always be close in mind.  I always thought that if you speak of those who we've lost that it keeps them alive.  

Nov 23, 2025 02:47 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 my mother like yours gave up a lot to provide me and my siblings with the life we have today.  My mother never worked a job outside the home until her and my father packed up a few belongings and four kids to come to America.  The cushy life she knew stopped the day they boarded a plane to America.  She spent the rest of her life working in a factory for minimum wage and taking care of what would become five children, and I never once heard her complain.  Mothers are special people, and sometimes we do not realize how special until much later in life.

Nov 23, 2025 03:24 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I am sure that your Mom was a wonderful person and filled with so much love for everyone around her!

Nov 24, 2025 05:37 AM
Patricia Feager
Referral Specialist - DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Licensed to April 2027

Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 - my parents were also children of the Great Depression. They had hard lives too. Most of the neighborhood children I played with lost parents while we were kids. Baby boomers were not as special or lucky as many would like to think about us. Most of my friends had only one parent, and there were many kids who lived with relatives.

For you to lose your father at such an early age in life was very hard on you. I know it had to be, by the tone of how you wrote this blog post. I'm guessing your mother just did exactly what was expected of her and raised you and your siblings as best as she could. I was also very young, about the same age as your mother when became a widow. My kids fought for their independence, and it wasn't easy on them or me.  

I hope you don't mind me sharing that, Eileen. Because I know, there are no two families who have the same experience. Many similarities (like my dad, and spouse were Navy and Army). 

I can relate to your mother. My kids, most likely relate more to you. Children don't expect one parent to die. For me, it was hard to compete with someone no longer alive who became more perfect as my kids got older. But in time, they turned out well-rounded, smarter than their friends, and learned at an earlier age to be more independent. 

Your story, Eileen is yours alone. It takes courage to write about the past. You are very intelligent and a great communicator. I am glad you are a member of ActiveRain. Truly, you are appreciated.  

 

Nov 24, 2025 08:59 AM
Eileen Burns 954.483.3912

I fell your tears Patricia Feager 

Nov 25, 2025 09:11 AM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
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What a heartfelt share, Eileen Burns 954.483.3912. It's filled with strength and tenderness that lingers long after reading. Thank you for opening up about such personal memories, they carry a quiet power that touches deeply 🙂. Your words remind us how love and resilience shape every chapter of life.

Nov 24, 2025 12:16 PM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
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Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 
What a wonderful tribute to your mom!
All the best - Lynn

Nov 30, 2025 12:54 PM