Homeownership and Early Inheritance can go hand-in-hand
Leaving a Legacy Series
Is giving your adult children an early inheritance
to achieve home ownership a good idea?
We hear a lot about how it is difficult for today's adults to purchase their first home or move up to a larger home due to home affordability and higher interest rates. Adult kids today who are 40 or younger never experience the high interest rates that many of their parents are familiar with. Some of you may recall interest rates in the high teens from the late 70s and early 80s. The refinance boom in the mid 80s helped people get into homes with interest rates as low as 10% - 14%. So much has changed since then,
Owning a home hasn't always been easy but it was different and we were different. Our grown kids have different expectations and responsibilities than we had. It isn't always a right and wrong difference, just different. And I know what some of you are thinking, our parents didn't help us get a home. Many of us didn't have parents who helped us go to college, get a car, or pay for a cell phone. I get it. I didn't either. But, times have changed.
If you're fortunate to have built more than enough wealth to see you through your retirement years, you may be wondering if helping your adult children by giving them early inheritance is a good idea. Let me preface this with I'm not here to give financial advice or legal advice. I am sharing some of what I'm seeing today and giving you something to think about and perhaps investigate with your financial advisor and CPA.
Buying a first home can feel out of reach for many young adults, especially with rising prices and tight inventory. For some families, a financial gift from parents can make the difference between waiting years to buy and stepping into homeownership now. If you are a parent thinking about helping your grown child purchase a home, here are some clear and practical ways to support them while keeping everyone on solid financial footing.
One option is a down payment gift. Lenders allow gift funds from family members, but they do require documentation. This usually includes a signed gift letter that states the money does not need to be repaid. Your child will also need to show a paper trail of the funds moving from your account into theirs. While the process is simple, it must be handled correctly so the lender can approve it without delays.
Another path is offering an early inheritance. This approach lets you pass on funds while you are still living, and it can help your child buy a home at a time in their life when it matters most. Families often choose this when they want to see the benefits of their gift in action. If you go this route, it is smart to speak with a financial advisor or tax professional to understand limits, timelines, and how it fits into your long-term planning.
It is also helpful to talk openly with your child about expectations. Some parents give a set amount. Others match their child’s savings. A few families prefer to help with closing costs instead of the down payment itself. There is no single right way to help. What matters most is making sure the arrangement supports your child without putting strain on your own budget or future needs.
Keep in mind there are tax rules around gifting. In many cases, you can give a generous amount each year without owing federal gift tax. Even if you exceed that limit, it often counts against your lifetime exemption rather than triggering an immediate tax bill. Still, checking with a tax expert can prevent surprises and help you choose the best strategy.
For parents who are in a comfortable financial position, helping with a home purchase can be a meaningful legacy. It gives your child stability, builds long-term wealth, and strengthens their start in the housing market. With good communication and proper planning, this type of support can be a gift your family appreciates and builds on for years to come.
Brokered by Carla Freund of Keller Williams Legacy
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