A Dozen Roses 💐 and a Motel Key 🔑 - Slow Down, Cowboy!

I have LinkedIn, but I haven't used it much over the years.  I have heard that it has gone downhill quite a bit, haha.

     You are right about seeing it more. Should think about where is this "relationship" going to head before playing footsies Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® CRS,ABR,PSA,RCS-D, CFSP.

     Is it good for both parties? Are we building something for life for both or a one night stand? Full court press and then ghosted.. who has time for that. "Not tonight, headache" happens with that approach.

Good morning Thomas,

You nailed it on your post! Great analogy....relationships take awhile to form. I don't like to be inundated with a sales pitch the minute I meet someone and I see it a lot on many social sites.

We live in a society where people don't want to wait 3 minutes for their egg, they want it in 2.  There will come a day of reckoning and the patient ones will just smile.

A memorable analogy that makes the point clearly. Effective networking has always been about patience, consistency, and genuine interest in the other person’s goals. When conversations move too quickly into a sales pitch, the opportunity to build trust is often lost before it really begins.

In real estate, especially, relationships are built over time through helpful information, follow-up, and shared experiences. Making thoughtful “deposits” first tends to create stronger long-term connections and referrals. Slowing down the process and focusing on earning the next conversation is usually a more productive path than trying to force an immediate result.

Like Kat I also have accepted an invitation and the next thing I am getting emails about this and that to do with their business with invitations to book a meeting. Yes, not the way I think it should be done. The ones I like most are those pitching to the mortgage industry, which I am not part of at all.

Hi Thomas,
This is a great analogy to how some people network. 
You said it perfectly:  "The best networkers understand something simple: people can feel the difference between genuine interest and opportunistic intent."

Good morning, Thomas... what a great analogy. In recent years I get all sorts of invitations on LinkedIn to connect and a minute later they are trying to sell me something. I've gotten very good at figuring out when that might happen and no longer accept those invitations.

Boy you are speaking to the choir! Congrats on the feature.  People truly do not understand what business they are are and sales pitches without listening is not the business.  

Hello Thomas - there's much value in this post.  

Thomas, I love your analogy on this. And yes, you hit the nail on the head. Too many garden hoses are turned on full throttle, that are so annoying.

I couldn't agree more, when I first hopped on Linkedin 15+ years ago and someone wanted to connect, I always asked them to meet me for coffee and see how our connection can be mutually beneficial, now I get daily requests to connect with an instant "buy this" or "I can build you a better web site" 

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® CRS,ABR,PSA,RCS-D, CFSP You double nailed it, specially in our profession, it is important to care for people before junping the gun. I have myself received many offers on LinkedIn to connect, but I have become more cautious in the past three or so years and to whom I connect with

You had me worried with a headline like that! But it's 100% accurate. Someone "friended" me on Facebook, a friend of a friend kind of thing. Almost immediately they popped into my in-box to share their awesome amazing product - networking opportunity with me. Thanks but no thanks, lady. I don't even know you!

You can get a little bit monotonous with that lot if you’re not too careful, but you have to put your personality and your actual intentions and actual passions behind all this or it won’t work quite as well.

So true, I receive many texts each day, a text, not a personal call, but a 5 or 6 line text about a Mortage and new rates of the day and let's chat now, with my boss. .lol...SPAM ! 

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® CRS,ABR,PSA,RCS-D, CFSP I have disconnected with Linked-In for this exact reason. When I retired from RE and went full-time Notary Public I was accepting all requests to connect. I got tired of the spam in a hurry and now I just delete all requests.

That set up an imbalance that’s not that great. Do you aware of all this kind of thing and just your best to be yourself.

"A lot of people have forgotten that real networking is about making deposits before expecting withdrawals."

SO TRUE!

cannot agree with you more...today's networking methods have deteriorated - especially LinkedIn!!