What a great way to avoid having to look at oneself & circumstances than conveniently finding a fault with another. When a defective person is on the move, what they do or don't do is public & obvious just by observing let alone hearing what comes out their mouths. Having faults is not a new concept. In fact, we are born into this system & I will define "fault" for you so you can appreciate its worth
FAULT DEFINED: An obvious weakness, defect, or mistake that implies or supports a negative outcome position for the subject fault.
IT'S YOUR FAULT
First see you then me
When a statement to be, an investigation or dialog begins with an accusation, we now shift to a defensive posture instead of a review, where what takes or took place all comes out for examination. It's no one's fault until proven to all involved
WORTHY NOTE: For those that are a member of the "fault police" force, be sure to self-examine for credibility's sake. Then, perhaps address the speck elsewhere?
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
If you want to lose intimacy, create chaos & hidden or open resentments, go ahead & point out another's "wrong" to make your point right. Fault-finding does that. You can find fault with anybody, but the question begs: why would you do this?
RAISING CHILDREN
This is one of the best examples of the subject matter. A child is born. It does or does not do what you expect thus beginning the fault systems. As the child experiments with life, something new to them, guidance, correction & counsel must take place for the nurturing to stay healthy. Blame & harsh punishment support the fault systems. An error for a child is ignorance driven for the most part
EMPLOYER-EMPLOYEE
Imagine finding fault at work with either your boss, co-worker or business model. How long do you think it would take for moral to plummet to new lows, teamwork collapse, mission derailed, & company lay-offs or even bankruptcy to visit? We instead have periodic assessment on how to improve via instruction/direction
WORTHY NOTE: When I worked for a medium sized operation that was employee driven by customers too, when we had to correct a fellow worker, it was a delicate matter usually with a witness present. We had to list five goods for every bad to brought up, or hidden agendas, divided loyalties & resentment behavior kicked-in
THE ONE WHO FINDS FAULT
Even if the one who finds a fault has a cause to do so, this is not a matter to take lightly, rush into or build a strong case for no. The opposite is required as in finesse, presentation, timing, & what is to be gained or lost. THINK: Choose your battles
WORTHY NOTE: When handling an issue for children especially among siblings, they are quick to point out errors, mistakes & worse about brother or sister
THE FAULT MUST DIE SCENARIO
In personal & professional relationships, some error or fault that takes place have to be stopped without explanation less their continued use further compounds the people involved making for a difficult situation when it was less difficult. Later, or after the fact, discussion takes place. Stopping infection from going gangrene is a preventative measure followed by an offset or an encouragement to move on
WORTHY NOTE: Jesus had to handle one of these fault sessions that involved life & death scenarios by not arguing, denying or diffusing by stating that those of you without "sin" (fault, problems, lack of purity etc.) cast the first stone of conviction
CORRECTION IS NOT EASY
Having to approach a friend, a loved one, family member, co-worker & even a stranger is not easy but necessary. Groundwork or foundation is required but sometimes that doesn't take place for various reasons. That's why apologies were created which may involve healing time. Go slow but go if you must & remember:
THE UNIVERSAL LAW
It is written that even though one possesses all the God-given gifts, knowledge, wisdom & even does charitable acts, without love being the driving force behind it all, there is no gain to be had. Love is non-negotiable, first, last & in-between
LOVE ONE ANOTHER, is no myth. Perhaps a reminder? Never a warning!
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