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Stuff Your Sorries in a Sack!

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Stuff Your Sorries in a Sack! 

 

For many people, an apology will not be accepted, no matter how sincere the other party might present or request on repeat. Some may see it as an excuse that doesn't cut it. To them, "I'm sorries" are worthless and easily discarded. 

 

In a memorable episode, George Costanza on the TV Show Seinfield said, "Stuff your sorries in a sack, mister!" as a way of rejection. When asked what it means, he says it's an expression, which brings me to ask the question...Why?

 

Of course, I researched the answer:

It's an exaggerated way to tell someone their "sorry" doesn't cut it, the apology is worthless and should be bagged up and discarded. Similar to "Save your apologies" but nicer than, "You can take your sorry and shove it." 

 

My Advice:

Think about the importance of effectively relaying information and how it may affect the other party. Similar to playing chess, make sure those thoughts are 2 steps ahead and emotions held back to avoid unecessary drama or misunderstandings in business and personal settings.

 

 

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Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

Interesting perspective. An apology only goes so far if it isn’t backed by changed behavior, and that’s usually what people are really looking for.

Your point about thinking ahead before speaking is the key takeaway. Clear communication on the front end prevents a lot of situations where apologies are needed later.

A good reminder that how we handle conversations—both before and after—can either build trust or create tension.

May 04, 2026 06:41 AM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Thanks for sharing Great wisdom and advice Wanda!!!

Think about the importance of effectively relaying information and how it may affect the other party. Similar to playing chess, make sure those thoughts are 2 steps ahead and emotions held back to avoid unnecessary drama or misunderstandings in business and personal settings

 

May 04, 2026 06:50 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Monday morning, Wanda. Thank you very much for sharing your experience and advice.

May 04, 2026 07:25 AM
Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Evolution - 447 Boston Street, Suite #5, Topsfield, MA - Topsfield, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Good Morning, Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! 

Some people do make it a habit to always be sorry for something, especially when jumping into a conversation people are having... (I'm sorry for jumping in, I'm so short people don't see me". Then proceeds on an entirely different topic than what was being discussed) 

May 04, 2026 07:46 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!  Sometimes an apology is necessary and needs to be accepted with grace -😎

May 04, 2026 08:21 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! I know people that would need more than one sack for their sorries.  ☺️

May 04, 2026 09:04 AM
Kelly McGovern
Realty Concierge International - Bellingham, MA
Working with Kelly is a good move

Like you said, it’s chess, not checkers. Stay two steps ahead, keep emotions in check, and you avoid having to stuff anyone’s “sorry” in a sack in the first place. A little awareness goes a long way in both business and personal relationships.

Great post-insightful with a perfect dash of humor!

May 04, 2026 04:51 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Glad you were able to help her turn off those insignificant "sorries" and encourage her to become more confident, Nina Hollander, Broker. Everyone could used good mentoring at times in their lives!

May 04, 2026 04:54 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Sincerity is necessary in all relationships, Kat Palmiotti. A lack of, can destroy them!

May 04, 2026 04:55 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

We can decide what best suits us, Wayne Martin, that is the beauty of being individuals and understanding our own tolerance levels!

May 04, 2026 04:57 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

A mistake happens once, Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518, the same repeated behavior is considered intentional, especially when nothing is learned. Those people might consider carrying a sack around with them!

May 04, 2026 05:00 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

You're so welcome, Sham Reddy CRS, glad you enjoyed the message!

May 04, 2026 05:01 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Wishing you and Dolores a wonderful Monday evening, Roy!

May 04, 2026 05:01 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Seems to me, those types are not sorry but intrusive and only want to be heard, Doug Dawes. That does happen a lot!

May 04, 2026 05:03 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Yes, an apology, when sincere, it is well-received, Hannah Williams, most of the time. if someone repeatedly acts out, it may not become accepted!

May 04, 2026 05:13 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Haha! Send them several sacks for their sorries, George Souto!

May 04, 2026 05:14 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Using humor helps get the message across, at times, Kelly McGovern. No sorry sacks here!

May 04, 2026 05:15 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Wanda- what I really don't like is a non-apology. In a feeble attempt to apologize to me, they said "I'm sorry that you took it that way" or something like that. There was no remorse shown for what they did. 

May 04, 2026 05:59 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Last week, I received an apology similar to that and it left me frustrated for the lack of sincerity that was felt. People like that should not even bother, Kathy Streib!

May 04, 2026 06:33 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I always appreciate a heartfelt apology, but when it happens time and time again, it loses its muster, haha.

May 05, 2026 05:41 AM