Motivational Monday…Acceptance
Years ago, a friend was going through a difficult time in her personal life. I spent many late nights on the phone and countless hours in person being her shoulder to cry on.
After months (and months), it occurred to me that unless and until she accepted what was, she was never going to move on with the rest of her life. She was stuck!
She wasn’t alone. Reality can be a tough pill to swallow for many of us at different times in our lives. And yet, if we aren’t willing or able to accept the change in our lives, we become like an anchor to the one thing we can control…US!
Being willing to accept the new NOW, doesn’t mean we approve of it, or that we’re giving up. It means that we’re acknowledging the change and are moving forward.
If you are going through this, allow yourself some time to have the PPMs (Poor Pitiful Me’s)...wishing what was or replaying the past. Then that’s it!
My friend? I asked her what was going on…she was not calling anyone or interacting with us. She said, “Kathy, I can’t get out of my own way.”
Once she admitted that, we were ready for some productive conversations. I helped her focus on what her future could be…all of the possibilities. We talked about what she was looking forward to; what was on her wish list that she wanted to check off.
If you have a friend (or you) who is unwilling to accept what is, find a way to help them discover the positive days that await them.
Acceptance doesn't mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there's got to be a way through it.
You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.
Commonly attributed (possibly misattributed) to C.S. Lewis
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