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Truly Knowing Yourself Is Hard Work

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Real Estate Agent with Dirt Road Real Estate SA676002000

Knowing yourself is hard work. Each of us have different life experiences that often prevent us from truly knowing ourselves. As the years age us, we have additional opportunities to understand those past and current life experiences and how they impact the knowledge we have or think we have about ourselves.

As the years go by, you get to know yourself better and learn what works for you.”

Marie Helvin

In my executive consulting practice, I had the hard and raw data that people knew what they didn’t do well over 92% of the time. However, these same individuals from CEO’s to Salespeople to even private individuals, did not know what they did well. 

Miguel Cervantes shared these words of wisdom in the novel Don Quixote:

“Make it your business to know yourself,

which is the most difficult lesson in the world.”

We are bombarded with promotions of products to make us beautiful, healthy, more alert, etc. Often, I think some of these folks are seeking the quick fix as a means to avoid knowing their selves.

As a poorly self educated philosopher (that was my first minor in college), I often find the words of past philosophers relevant as human nature does not appear to have changed much over time.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

Aristotle

“To find yourself, think for yourself.”

Socrates

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. “

Lao Tzu

Then there are the more contemporary thinkers.

“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakes.”

Carl Jung

“There is no substitute for accurate knowledge. Know yourself, know your business, know your men.”

Lee Iacocca

"To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker…is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.”

Eckhart Tolle

My sense is these words by Carl Jung capture the essence of knowing yourself.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”

Carl Jung

I believe I can say at this point in my life I do truly know myself and even better I am satisfied and happy with that knowledge.

To thine own self be true.

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Leanne M Smith, The Grit and Gratitude Agent Who Goes the Extra Mile Because Life Begins Where the Pavement Ends.

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Leanne M. Smith, MS, GRI, rCRMS

2018 KGVAR Rookie Realtor of the Year-55+
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Hello Leanne... good food for thought to start off a new week. One good thing about  getting to a certain age is I make no apologies for who I am.

Jun 15, 2026 09:23 AM
Leanne Smith

Well you and me both.  Speaking for myself, yes I am old and my filters now include emotional intelligence. Never apologize for who you are if you know who you are and are willing to acknowledge and accept any consequences.

Jun 15, 2026 09:31 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I enjoy sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Author, Golfer, Traveler, Retired, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Leanne,
Not only is it difficult to know ourselves, but our perspective of ourselves changes over time as well. Experiences that once seemed like failures may later be viewed as valuable lessons, and qualities we once took for granted often become strengths we learn to appreciate. The older I get, the more I realize that self-discovery isn't a destination, it's an ongoing journey. Each season of life reveals something new about who we are, what we value, and what truly matters. To thine own self be true indeed. ❤️

Jun 15, 2026 11:32 AM
Leanne Smith

So true about how our unknown strengths emerge as we gracefully age. Thank you for contributing to this ongoing dialogue. 

Jun 16, 2026 12:08 PM
Lise Howe
RLAH RE LLC - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

The older I get, the more I appreciate the value of self-awareness. Knowing who you are—and being comfortable with that person—is a tremendous gift. Thanks for sharing this, Leanne😊

Jun 15, 2026 01:13 PM
Leanne Smith

When I was active in my consulting practice, self-awareness was a key issue as it is directly to knowing oneself.  You are most welcome for sharing this and enjoy your week. 

Jun 16, 2026 06:58 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Hi Leanne, some "perty smart fellers" if I don't say so myself. Jeff 😊

Jun 15, 2026 07:54 PM
Leanne Smith

Yes the wisdom that travels through the millennia is always quite impressive. 

Jun 16, 2026 06:33 AM
Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner
Denver, CO
Enjoying Every Day to Its Fullest!

Leanne, being older, and now fully retired, I am good with myself, and being single too.  

Jun 16, 2026 02:40 AM
Leanne Smith

As it has been said "To thine own self be true." Thank you and good morning.

Jun 16, 2026 06:29 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

As Carol Williams said, self-discovery is a journey. I find I am knowing my current self better as time goes on. 

Jun 16, 2026 05:34 AM
Leanne Smith

I am in that same boat. As we grow older, for the most pat we know ourselves better. Good morning.

Jun 16, 2026 06:25 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

If we don't know ourselves, it will be difficult to know others, haha.

Jun 16, 2026 05:44 AM
Leanne Smith

Very true and very succinct. Thank you and good morning.

Jun 16, 2026 06:24 AM
AZ Mortgage Broker: Michael George
Mortgage Broker - Phoenix, AZ
Providing low rates on purchase & refinance loans.

But what if you hate yourself? Kidding, but as I grow older, I do feel like I get harder on myself. Like, "why can't you ever find your phone, dipshit?". Stuff like that. :)

Jun 20, 2026 08:01 AM
Leanne Smith

My sense is forgetting where you placed something might fall in line 100 of getting to know yourself. 

Jun 20, 2026 02:59 PM
Jeff Sorg

LOL, don't despair, AZ Mortgage Broker: Michael George ! I'm pretty sure Socrates lost his sandals once in a while.

Jun 20, 2026 10:13 AM
Jeff Sorg
Palm Springs, CA
A Timeless Perspective for the Modern Market

Hi Leanne,

That statistic from your consulting practice is incredibly telling. We spend the first half of our careers looking outward by chasing the next transaction, comparing ourselves to others, and trying to fix what we think is broken.

We shouldn't look for sanctuary outside of ourselves, but rather look within.

    • The Buddha

Our true strength doesn’t come from correcting every flaw; it comes from leaning into our authentic strengths.

Jun 20, 2026 10:12 AM
Leanne Smith

Fortunately for me I have always been fairly aware of who I was and what I could do.  As I aged I am very content.  So enjoyed your Buddha quote, thank you. 

Jun 20, 2026 03:01 PM