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Friday Fun…Nope, You Can’t Go Back!

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Friday Fun…Nope, You Can’t Go Back!

 

You know the saying “You can’t go home again.”?  It’s true. This week, Larry and I were out running errands, so we decided to drive by two of our previous homes. 

 

It’s been 39 and 30 years since we lived in either of the two houses. Oy vey, what they’ve done to one of them! It was painted an ugly, dark army green!  It would probably list at over 1 million! (It was not anywhere near that when we sold it) but my first thought when I saw it was "ick."

 

Our other “old” home (and one of our favorites)  still looked good. It’s understandable that in the 39 years since we lived there, houses have been torn down and rebuilt.  Because of land values, the houses are now “gigantor” contemporary homes. I felt claustrophobic driving through.

 

I loved every moment we lived there, but if the homes were on the market right now, I’d pass. 

 

Home is people. Not a place. If you go back there after the people are gone, then all you can see is what is not there anymore.

Robin Hobb, Fool's Fate 




What about you…have you revisited your former homes? What did you think???

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Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner
Denver, CO
Enjoying Every Day to Its Fullest!

Kathy, funny reactions!   I usually tell people not to drive by after they sell.  The new owners rarely keep it up like you did!  Before I left the US I had a home in Broomfield (45 min from where I lived, but was up there), so drove by my very first home.   Almost didn't recognize it, but didn't look bad.

Jul 10, 2026 04:23 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner  In FL, my neighbor's home was bulldozed for a much larger two-story. Our home next to theirs wasn't torn down but had a lot of external changes. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:12 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Kathy... I regularly drive by my first two homes in Charlotte... happy to report there have been no negative shocks!

Jul 10, 2026 04:33 AM
Kathy Streib

Nina Hollander, Broker that's reassuring.  Houston has grown a lot and the traffic where we used to live is even worse (if that's possible.)

Jul 10, 2026 11:13 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Kathy Streib same here with traffic, Kathy. When I moved to Ballantyne in 2001 there was not one single traffic light in the area... now there seems to be on every two blocks and more coming!

Jul 10, 2026 12:54 PM
Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

So true. A former house may hold wonderful memories, but time, changes, and the people who shared it are what made it feel like home.

Jul 10, 2026 04:43 AM
Kathy Streib

Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518  You're right. I have wonderful memories from my homes but that was then. I'm making wonderful memories every day.

Jul 10, 2026 11:32 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Yes, I drove by my child hood home years ago and it had been repainted and they changed landscaping, removing my mom's rose gardens and trellis. I just looked on google maps and they have added a shed and a paved pull in area on top. Nothing earth shattering!

Jul 10, 2026 04:48 AM
Kathy Streib

Kat Palmiotti the first home Larry and I had was a "starter" home. We drove through it several years ago and it's changed so much!!!

Jul 10, 2026 11:34 AM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Thanks for sharing Kathy!!! I love this quote!!!

Home is people. Not a place. If you go back there after the people are gone, then all you can see is what is not there anymore.

Robin Hobb, Fool's Fate

Jul 10, 2026 04:50 AM
Kathy Streib

Sham Reddy CRS isn't that a great quote, and it's so true. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:34 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathy. We sold a home in 1990 that still looks the same as when we lived there. Our buyers still reside there and it looks different with the maturity of the landscaping. That said we both agree that we could not live there presently. Our tastes have changed but the memories are clear and enjoyable. The times they are a changing. 

Jul 10, 2026 05:05 AM
Kathy Streib

Wayne Martin It's funny how we think we never want to move, and then we do, and we make that new home our home. I loved the home we had in Leesburg but it was huge. There is no way we could live in that now. And, the master bedroom was on the second floor. My knees would be screaming. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:36 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Friday morning, Kathy. I has been a long time since we went by our old homes

Jul 10, 2026 05:06 AM
Kathy Streib

Roy Kelley That might be a fun trip for you!

Jul 10, 2026 11:36 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Retired Real Estate Broker

I recall after getting licensed that I was showing the house we grew up in and the memories were many especially as the closet with the height marked was untouched inside and all was there

Jul 10, 2026 05:07 AM
Kathy Streib

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 Larry turned one of the bedrooms into a paneled study in our favorite house. There was a wall with leaded glass cabinets including a hidden space that he stored his rifles and shotguns in. We moved them when we moved but forgot to tell the new owners about the hidden cabinet. We've always wondered if they discovered it. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:51 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I enjoy sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Author, Golfer, Traveler, Retired, Wenatchee, WA

Good morning, Kathy.
The last home Max and I owned has gone to He!!. It is so sad. The people obviously have no pride of ownership. I shudder to think what the inside might look like. Occasionally, when in the area, I drive by our old childhood home in Portland... or I should say what used to be our home. It has been torn down, and the lot is still vacant. The area around it has been developed with big apartment buildings. I suspect that's what will go on that big lot too.

Jul 10, 2026 05:21 AM
Kathy Streib

Carol Williams I have a feeling we'll see more of that, or the huge mcmansions on smaller lots. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:52 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Apex Realtors, LLC ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Educating. Encouraging. Serving.

Good morning Kathy,

I'm sure it seemed funny to drive by your two past homes and see how they looked! I've not done that as we lived in other states and I'm not going back there! I should check them out on google maps....hadn't thought of that!

Jul 10, 2026 05:30 AM
Kathy Streib

Dorie Dillard Austin TX that would be interesting to do!!   See what they look like on Google. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:52 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I remember clients of mine who sold their home and moved to a different place.  Every week after it sold, they would drive by and see what the new owners were doing with it.  Of course, they didn't like what the new owners were doing with it, haha.

Jul 10, 2026 06:02 AM
Kathy Streib

Brian England previous owners rarely do!!  LOL  In one of our homes, the new owners knocked out an exterior wall by the driveway and added a sitting area. I'm not sure why because all they saw was the driveway. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:54 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I have moved quite a lot (22 times if I have counted correctly). One home stood out the most. It was a Tudor in Scarsdale, NY (Westchester County just north of the city). No interest in living there today.

Jul 10, 2026 06:35 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty wow..that's more than I have. I thnk my last count was 11 or 12. 

Jul 10, 2026 11:54 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - crrli.com. We are Lic. Assoc. Broker/Lic. RE Salesperson - Plainview, NY
We List/Sell Long Island Real Estate Successfully!

Kathy, When our kids were little, we took them to see the apartment that Larry grew up in. When we got there, they said "how did you live there with all the windows broken and missing? Haha!

Jul 10, 2026 06:53 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 that's priceless!!!!!   It's funny because some of us wonder how we lived in some of our childhood homes!  What? no microwave?? LOL

Jul 10, 2026 11:56 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy I have only owned one other home than the one I have presently live in for the last 45 years.  I have not gone back to see the previous house since we sold it because it is in another state, but I would love to do that someday.

Jul 10, 2026 02:46 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Sand 'n Sea Properties - Galveston, TX
Galveston, TX 936-203-0279

I do like to drive past the homes we've lived in. Love all of the memories in each one of them.

Jul 14, 2026 08:31 AM
Lise Howe
RLAH RE LLC - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

I've only owned two houses that I lived in and I still own both of them - I have only sold one investment property so I can still go visit most of my homes

Jul 18, 2026 04:53 AM
Candy Stevens, EA
Number Cruncher LLC - Overton, NV
Helping Clients Resolve IRS Problems

I just drove by the house I lived in.  I would buy it in a minute and move back!

Jul 20, 2026 10:12 AM