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Lessons from a Personal Move

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Sand 'n Sea Properties TREC #547752

I know many of my fellow Active Rain colleagues have experienced recent moves. I am currently involved in a personal home move as well as a move to a new city. Whew! Moving certainly reminds us of what our clients experience. It reminds us of what being on the other side is like.

As I wrapped dishes in packing paper, searched for boxes that had mysteriously disappeared, and wondered why I ever kept so many "important" things, I was reminded of something I think every real estate professional should experience from time to time. Our clients aren't just moving houses. They're moving their lives.

That old chair isn't just furniture. It's where a father read bedtime stories. The kitchen isn't just a room. It's where birthdays were celebrated, holiday meals were shared, and difficult conversations took place.

The guest bedroom isn't simply extra square footage. It's where grandchildren stayed, parents recovered after surgery, or lifelong friends gathered.

This move reminds me that every client deserves the same patience, empathy, and reassurance I'd hope someone would give to me. And behind every moving truck is a chapter ending and another one about to begin. Because of this, emotions are real.

As real estate professionals, we have the privilege of walking alongside people during one of the most significant moments of their lives. May we never become so familiar with the process that we forget how monumental it feels to the people we're serving. After all, we don't just sell homes. We help people navigate change. And that's a responsibility worth carrying with care.

 
 
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Yes indeed, Paula. I've walked in the shoes of my clients who move, be it locally, regionally, nationally, internationally, many times. My clients know that because I've walked in their shoes that I have great empathy and sympathy for what they are going through.

Jul 28, 2026 07:35 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Hi Nina, Whew. Still in moving mode, and I am wiped out!

Jul 29, 2026 07:08 PM
Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner
Denver, CO
Enjoying Every Day to Its Fullest!

Paula, having gone through a recent move(a big one), we definitely have empathy for our clients and know what we put them through.  Good luck with your move.

Jul 28, 2026 08:40 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Yes, you have gone through a recent move that was HUGE. 

Jul 29, 2026 07:09 PM
Kelly McGovern
Realty Concierge International - Bellingham, MA
Working with Kelly is a good move

Moving is challenging in so many ways. You never realize how much stuff you have until it’s time to pack it all up!

Jul 28, 2026 08:53 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

I know, Kelly. Way too much "stuff". I've been in purge mode.

Jul 29, 2026 07:09 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Paula- I've moved about 11 times and it's not my favorite thing to do!  It's a good thing for agents to move because it is a good reminder of what their clients are going through. 

Jul 28, 2026 07:30 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

That is a lot of moving, Kathy. Wow.

Jul 29, 2026 07:09 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Moving provides a tremendous walk down memory lane, haha.  Even reorganizing something within our homes can provide that as well.  I have been reading more lately, so my bookshelf was stuffed full.  I bought a new bookshelf and started rearranging; what a walk down memory lane it became, and I found books that I want to read that I didn't even realize I owned, haha.

Jul 29, 2026 05:53 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

You are so correct, Brian. Memory lane for sure!

Jul 29, 2026 07:10 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - crrli.com. We are Lic. Assoc. Broker/Lic. RE Salesperson - Plainview, NY
We List/Sell Long Island Real Estate Successfully!

Sometimes we can forget what work really is involved in moving, even though we work in this market every day.!

Jul 29, 2026 02:14 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Yes, it is easy to forget the stress that is involved with moving.

Jul 29, 2026 07:10 PM
Jeff Sorg
Palm Springs, CA
A Timeless Perspective for the Modern Market

Walking in our clients' shoes by literally wrapping the dishes and sorting the memories is the best cure for transactional apathy. That empathy is what separates a professional from a click-to-close transaction coordinator. Safe travels and best of luck settling into your new location!

Jul 29, 2026 03:15 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Transactional apathy! What a brilliant way to put that!

Jul 29, 2026 07:11 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Paula is a fine line to walk while helping clients make a move and takes patience and truly caring about the clients. Makes me smile thinking about all the clients we helped out with navigating a move.  I wish you guys a peaceful and non-eventful move.  Can't wait to hear about your move and new area!  We haven't moved in 28 years but we may be doing so as we want to be on a golf course.  

Jul 29, 2026 04:11 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Wow, Anna. That is a long time to stay in one place. Hope you are feeling well!

Jul 29, 2026 07:11 PM
Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

Good morning Paula,

Good post and great reminder of what we go through with a move. They say a move is just as hard on a person as a divorce and a death. Good luck with your move and new chapter of life.

Jul 30, 2026 04:46 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Thank you, Steve. It's been a hum-dinger of a move thus far. Whew!

Jul 30, 2026 07:20 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Such a valuable information.

Jul 30, 2026 08:56 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Apex Realtors, LLC ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Educating. Encouraging. Serving.

Good morning Dr. Paula McDonald ,

Isn't it amazing how much stuff we accumulate? I'm sure you are wiped out and out "hot" temperatures aren't helping either! Good luck with this next chapter..its so exciting!

Jul 30, 2026 09:44 AM
Dennis Neal
Exp Realty of Southern California, Inc. - Big Bear Lake, CA
Your Home Sold in 21 Days or We Sell It For Free

This is a very important reminder to put ourselves in the clients shoes. I love the style, short and to the point with no fluff. Great post.

Jul 30, 2026 09:53 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.WarrenCountyOhioRealEstate.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

We've tried to prep for our move that will (someday) happen.  The biggest challenge will be moving our furries.  The bees we have a professional beekeeper taking care of them and he'll transport them to us when its time, so at least that part will be relatively easy.  I moved some of our extra bee boxes during my last delivery run to our new home, so they're stashed in one of our two on site shipping containers we bought.

Jul 30, 2026 01:08 PM
Steffy Hristova
HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 602.710.8161 - Tempe, AZ
Tempe AZ Realtor - Your Home Close to Your Work!

Paula, you are so right, moving is always emotional, and change, even a happy one, is stressful. May your move be smooth, with no rush! 

Jul 30, 2026 06:24 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It could be something so simple as re-labeling to help your brain relax a little.

Jul 31, 2026 12:42 AM
Brenda J. Andrew
Aqua Terra Real Estate, LLC. - Willis, TX
Broker/REALTOR in N Houston & Corpus Christi

Good morning Dr. Paula McDonald .  This was such a great read this morning.  After doing this for so long, I can see that I had lost that and it’s been 5 years since I’ve done a move.  It’s one thing to understand the stress people go through selling and buying, but thinking deeper about the meaning of the memories they are leaving behind and trying to get everything out, downsizing, etc. I need to put this as a remind and also share with others I work with.  Have a great day and hope all went well for your move!

Jul 31, 2026 07:04 AM
Randy Mitchelson,APR
Trusted Marketing & Public Relations Advisor - Bonita Springs, FL
First Impressions are made at First Click

We moved a lot earlier in our careers due to corporate relocations. One thing we learned to help with a better moving experience is to give each member of the crew a $100 bill when they arrive. And tell them there's another $100 bill waiting for them at the other end. And cater their lunch on moving day too. They will handle your possessions like it's their own and bend over backwards for you when you treat them with respect.

Jul 31, 2026 09:18 AM
Kris Collis
Clarks Summit, PA
Classic Referral Group

A good reminder that many of us can deeply empathize with clients over moving. Prior to marriage and real estate, job related moves occurred every 2-3 years. Then it was travel opportunities :)), today not so much :))

Jul 31, 2026 11:40 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Paula! Well, as you saw in my 250 post, I moved a lot as a child. Once I landed in Charlotte, I've moved 8 times in 40+ years! I can more than empathize with you at the moment. I also believe that the older we are, the more challenging moving is. Remember to take time to get rest and eat healthier than you ever have! It's the best way I can tell you to get through this. I don't think I've heard where you are moving? In state? Out of state? 

Big hugs!

Aug 08, 2026 07:44 PM