My Best Close Ever and Forever

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

This is a love story… so how do I relate it to blogging and real estate? I guess you could call this the “take away close.”

When I was very young and very single, I worked at the hospital with a friend named Sandy, who was very bright and very cute. She, too, was a registered nurse just like me. Sandy came in one day and said: “I’ve got someone exceptional that you have got to go out with.”

Well, I had a policy back then: No Blind Dates. My social calendar was full. I said to Sandy, "If he’s such a catch, why don’t you go out with him?" She answered, "I would love to, but he won't even give me the time of day." So I was intrigued and wondered how she ever talked him into calling me?

Lee RomeThe first time Lee called, we talked for more than an hour. I found out that he was much older, married, divorced, had a 10-year-old son, and flew an airplane. He figured if any one of those things were a turn-off, he would find out right up front. (I later found out he had a No Blind Dates policy also.)

We made plans for Tuesday for a late date to go out for a drink. Why waste an entire evening on a blind date? If we didn’t like each other, we would only have to spend a short time together.

 But then my plans changed. An old flame stopped by my hospital (I was head nurse of Pediatrics and OPD).  We had not seen each other for a couple of years, Steve asked me out, and I accepted. 

So I called Lee and told him about my date. I told him that I knew this guy, I like this guy, and I had not met Lee.  Later, Lee thought he was lucky not to have to go on a blind date, but I think he might have been a bit intrigued that someone would actually break a date with him. He agreed to Wednesday night.

Well, Steve stayed in town another day and then another and asked me out for...you guessed it… Wednesday and then again Thursday night. Again I broke dates with Lee. We finally went out on Friday night for a late drink and what we both thought would be a short date. We wound up closing the joint. We talked for hours. 

Lee and MargaretLee and I dated for almost two years! But in his past conversations told me he would not marry again, would not use the word "love,"  and was not interested in having another child. Now understand that I was a Pediatric RN, I adored kids, and wanted four boys! For two years, we went out together, and for two years, I continued to see others. The more together we were, the less I wanted to be apart.

My friends were saying..  "fish or get off the yacht." I knew that an ultimatum for Lee was not the answer...no chance was  I going to push him away. When I was ready to talk with him, the words would not come out... but the tears did. This was a first; he had never seen me cry and was at a loss for what to say.

Then he spoke those now famous words on January 16th, "You have to let me get used to loving you." 

Remember, "Love" was a word he would never use.

So with that one sentence, I started planning for our wedding. Lee never  ASKED me to marry him. Well, not until our 25th anniversary, and I still have not given him an answer! We have been married for 14675 days. 

So how does this relate to real estate? Be prepared. Watch those signals. Really listen to those words. There are many ways to CLOSE the deal. This was my best close ever and forever!

Do you have a special closing story?

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Comments (103)

Anonymous
Zippy

Margaret, on your 25th wedding anniversary, when he asked you to marry him, how did you respond?

As I read your BEST CLOSE EVER, I remember that day at Tulkoff's when I stopped by the horseradish factory to arrange to bring a tour group through the plant, and your LEE was in the office. I had no idea who he was, beyond someone who worked at Tulkoff's.

I was introducing myself to Phil, the owner, whom I'd never met before, and 'selling' my idea to bring a group through the plant. Phil was concerned about safety and insurance and contamination and "best practices" in a food plant. I tried to sell my qualifications as historian, native of Baltimore, winner of "BEST TOUR GUIDE" from Baltimore Magazine.

I described the size of my group, and time we would arrive. And Phil talked about the problems of parking a motor coach and hazards like what if someone fell while on his property.

Well, if I have any sales skills at all, I know how important it is to listen to the other person. I had to respect Phil's position as owner of the plant. I realized that I had to guide this conversation into NEUTRAL, away from she who asks and he who does not say "YES!" I had to take a different tack. I took a deep breath, left some silent space, and said that I was a Sinai nurse and Lee saved the day. "My wife is a Sinai nurse. Do you know her?"

I've brought groups to Tulkoff's ever since, even to the new plant. And on my big birthday, a huge beautiful bouquet of flowers arrived from Phil.

Aug 06, 2016 01:15 AM
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Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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@zippy  I told him I would have to think about it. My plan was to say yes on our 50th anniversary. As you know we only made 47 !

Aug 06, 2016 11:50 AM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

wonderful story; truly wondeful. Sometimes Cupid works in very strange ways.

You were lucky for the 47.

Sep 26, 2016 02:28 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Claude Labbe I was so lucky and knew it! Very thankful for what I had.

Oct 22, 2016 02:39 PM
Elyse Berman, PA
Best Connections Realty, Inc. - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland What a wonderful story!  And what a perfect match!  Some things are just meant to be.  You and Lee were just meant to be.  

PS - I met Richard on a blind date.  (Sorry for choking on the phone.)

Jan 12, 2017 01:34 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Elyse Berman We were definitely meant to be! What a wonderful life we had! I am so lucky. Good talking to you today.

Jan 12, 2017 03:18 PM
Dianne Goode
Raleigh Cary Realty - Raleigh, NC
Realtor/Broker

A lovely love story!  "What's meant to be will find a way"  : )  Love the photos, too.

Mar 04, 2017 10:53 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Thanks Dianne Goode and I enjoyed our conversation today!

Mar 04, 2017 01:15 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Damn, woman! You're right. He was fabulous. And so were / are you!

Jun 01, 2018 11:26 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

I love this love story, Margaret! You were both so lucky to have found one another and your lives were so full for 40+years - what every girl dreams of!

Love & hugs my beautiful friend.

Jun 01, 2018 08:56 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Damn Candice A. Donofrio He was fabulous and.. We were fabulous together!

Jun 01, 2018 09:18 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Of that I am certain! 🥂
Jun 01, 2018 09:26 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Debe Maxwell, CRS This was written almost ten years ago. And it was so much fun watching Lee's smile as he read the post and the comments. 

Jun 01, 2018 09:30 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Thank you for sharing such a personal story.  It's funny how things work out, that's why they say never say never!  Good for you . Did NOT know you were a nurse  Learned something new today :)

Jun 09, 2018 02:59 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
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Jan Green My favorite post...written ten years ago! Thank you. There are quite a few RNs who are AR members.

Jun 09, 2018 05:47 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I wasn't a part of ActiveRain when this story was first published, so I missed the story of your meeting Lee. I love that you broke the first few scheduled dates and then wound up married. That just makes me believe even more that when two people are meant to be together, it will happen regardless of what gets thrown in the way. Great close!

May 30, 2019 03:25 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Kat Palmiotti My best close ever. What a wonderful life we shared...so very thankful.

May 30, 2019 07:09 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Margaret how did I miss your story all these years!  I love it.  You meant it when you said - don't settle and you didn't!

Apr 17, 2021 09:06 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

My wife and I are a recycled couple and both agree that we were meant for each other. Now 35 years latter we still look at each other like the first day

Apr 18, 2021 04:38 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Margaret,

What a beautiful story!  When we do not compromise, life is so much more meaningful and fun...A

Apr 18, 2021 07:07 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

I am just checking this post written about my amazing date January 16 th. 

Ron and Alexandra Seigel 

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, Phoenix Broker 

Ed Silva 

Jan 17, 2022 11:53 PM