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I Shop; Therefore I am... Are you a shopaholic?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Buyers' Choice Realty

Is your closet overflowing with never-worn clothing, the price tags still waving in the breeze? Is your attic bulging with boxes and boxes of shoes that have never touched pavement? Do you buy new makeup weekly or compact discs by the fistful?

You might be a shopaholic.

Studies estimate that as many as 17 million Americans, better than one in 20 of us, can't control our urge to shop, even at the expense of our job, our marriage, our family and our finances.  Although men and women alike suffer from this affliction, women seem to be the ones more scrutinized for this.


Unlike the previous generation, today's young women spend their money on themselves, not their families.  And increasingly, these spending habits are getting more and more out of control. 

The irony is that often, it is women who display utter self-control in every other area of their lives (career, diet, exercise) who, when it comes to spending, do not see restraint as a virtue.

"It's easier to go out and buy a Prada outfit or some Jimmy Choos than to be at home and cook meals for a family," says Dr Paul Marsden, consumer psychologist at the London School of Economics.

"It's instant gratification. Women today are time-poor. If they have time-consuming careers, they don't have time to get gratification in other areas of their lives, but they want to feel good about themselves. Shopping is a quick-fix solution.

Do you use "Shopping Therapy" as a quick fix?  Do you know someone who does?   Please do share!

 

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Mara Hawks
First Realty Auburn - Auburn, AL
Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL

I enjoyed shopping a lot more when I was younger. I don't seem to so much anymore.

Aug 05, 2008 04:56 PM
LS Rogers Realty
LS Rogers Realty - Richardson, TX

I'm a recovering shop-a-holic. In my defense, I had every intention of wearing the ones with the tags as well. Now with a 16-year and declining market in my area, you learn to re-focus.

Aug 05, 2008 05:00 PM
Dave Philipp
Lyon Real Estate - Sacramento, CA

I always found I liked to shop more when I had no money...now that is not the issue, I think I just got cheaper in my middle age!

Dave

Aug 05, 2008 05:01 PM
Katharine Carey
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA

Trunda- Does your sixteen year old borrow your clothes? It helps when you leave the tags on so they won't wear them:)

Aug 05, 2008 05:03 PM
Vickie Nagy
Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Palm Springs, CA
Vickie Jean the Palm Springs Condo Queen

I'm not a shop-a-holic, but I do occasionally use it for therapy when things are really going downhill.

Aug 05, 2008 05:04 PM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Mirela:  I have found that the further we go into this present less-than-wonderful market... the less I have to worry about being a shopaholic.  No money... no shoppee.

Aug 05, 2008 05:05 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Trunda:  By re-focus, do you mean you actually get to wear the ones with the tags still on? 

I hear you on the 16 year old.  I have one myself and I will confess:  SHE IS EXPENSIVE!!!

Dave:  That's funny...  the Murphy's Law of Shopping...

Mara:  I wonder why?

Mary:  Just HOW do you do that? 

Aug 05, 2008 05:06 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Karen:  That's good!  I think the problem occurs when we use the shopping to assuage the pain of...  less money...

Vickie:  I'm with you!  I call it "Shop Therapy".  Love it!

Katharine:  Tried that one!  It doesn't work!  Certain brands are more affected than others.  My Bebe's just seem too "restless" for my closet...  they somehow like my daughter's closet better...

Aug 05, 2008 05:13 PM
Katharine Carey
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA

Darn.. thank goodness they can't wear my shoes anymore, unless they are my havianna's... I need to pack those... for my trip..  oh Girrrrlllsss

Aug 05, 2008 05:17 PM
Dagmar Sands
Real Estate International, Inc. - Johns Creek, GA
International Real Estate Agent, CIPS, FIPC, ABR

I think women use shopping as an escape from time to time.  When I feel I have a rough day and
need to get away, I can run over to Macy's just to see what they have new.  I used to go out after
every closing and purchase something nice for myelf when I was younger.  That way I felt rewarded
and inspired to work day and night to get to do it again and again.

Aug 05, 2008 05:37 PM
Raylene Lewis
Century 21 Beal, Inc. - College Station, TX

I buy clothes for my kiddos as therapy. Matching outfits and accessories make me feel better and I forget about the bad day...a pretzle and icee at the mall help too! lol

Aug 05, 2008 05:43 PM
Judy Greenberg
Compass - Long Grove, IL
Compass- Long Grove -Buffalo Grove

I love to have nice clothes, but I hate the process.  I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm overwhelmed at malls.  I would never have said that in my 20's or 30's.   Do you know any good personal shoppers?  lol

 

Aug 05, 2008 11:22 PM
Robert Rauf
CMG Home Loans - Toms River, NJ

I have a friend that calls it "Retail Therapy" when she goes shopping...  And in some cases it is a bit more productive than an actualy therapist! 

 

Aug 06, 2008 03:10 AM
Robert Rauf
CMG Home Loans - Toms River, NJ

I just noticed that this was your 300th blog, What a Milestone!!! Congratulations Mirela.

Aug 06, 2008 04:15 AM
Sylvie Conde
Sutton Group-Associates Realty Inc., Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Broker, Toronto Real Estate

I hate shopping, I hate shopping malls, I hate 'specials'/'sales'. I only shop when I have to, and I only shop for groceries every week, because I have a kid to feed, otherwise I probably wouldn't do that on a regular basis either.  I definitely don't need 'insurance' for that disease. :)

One of my best friends here, however, even has safe deposit boxes at the bank, to hide some of her 'finds' from her husband ... (I think that's really sick, but she can't help it ... he golfs and she shops, usually for jewellery).

Aug 06, 2008 05:41 AM
Debbie Malone
Londeree's Real Estate & Property Management - Lynchburg, VA
From Lynchburg To The Lake (434) 546-0369

Mirela, I LOVED the cartoon! I am such a bargain hunter, if I can't find it at a yard sale for 90% off, I have to ask do I need it (most of the time!). I just found a new Vera Bradley wallet and two Ipod cases - for $10 at a yard sale. We work too hard to waste money, I'd rather save it for a vacation.

Aug 06, 2008 06:31 AM
Lori Franks
Real Estate Consultant - Brookings, OR
Brookings, Oregon

Mirela- It's all about shopping. When I went to Paris I went to all the designer shops! Only window shopping...but shopped till I dropped!

Aug 06, 2008 08:56 AM
Antoinette Scognamiglio, GRI, ASP
Coldwell Banker Realty - Mountain Lakes, NJ
There's no substitute for EXPERIENCE!

Mirela, I was a horrific shop-a-holic in my 20's when I had absolutely no responsibility to anyone but myself (what a breezy time that was!).  I'm still pretty easily swayed by SALE signs but for the past couple of months have been throwing out my coupons from Macy's and Lord & Taylor.  Trying to convince myself that the best sale is where you save 100% by NOT GOING INTO THE STORE...not an easy feat!

Aug 07, 2008 02:11 AM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Antoinette:  I like that: 

you save 100% by NOT GOING INTO THE STORE...not an easy feat!

Aug 08, 2008 10:15 PM
Chris Dowd
Windermere Gig Harbor - Gig Harbor, WA

I am such a shopaholic that people call me to see if they got a good deal, or where they can find something. Hey.....that gives me an idea.....maybe I should be a realtor/personal shopper. Hahaha!!!

Aug 09, 2008 09:53 AM