We All Have an Opinion...

Sally,  Well said post. I ran across one earlier today that I was VERY SORRY I had clicked in to. I found the author's criticism and complaint far too harsh and it pained my heart. There is a time and place and this wasnot the proper forum for her unkind words. I hope she read this post.

Not voice an opinion?  LOL!  I just gave a talk to an investment club and offered one of many ways to "protect your assets" (i.e., keep from getting sued).  One of the top ten ways to avoid getting sued is to stop talking so much!  Nice post!

Sally- you said:

#1 is something we have all seen here.....and it's not becoming at all.  Power Struggles, Ego, lack of good communication skills....whatever it's not becoming.  I have cringed sometimes at the way some people will comment back.......

Sometimes I wonder if folks have really read the posts, don't you? Actually, many times the questions they are asking are already in the comments from AR or others. IF it is a issue or post you are concerned about you should read ALL the comments before asking the same thing again, IMHO.

So true Sally.  Fact is, not every opinion has to be opined.  Not every idea has to be broadcasted and not every question has to be answered. 

In real estate practice, I've learned that it is often to say as little as possible.  Never, never, never voice an opinion or belief about religion, politics or folks' appearance unless you are on very safe ground and there is no way of knowing what that is unless you've lived with someone for years.

There's nothing wrong with giving your opinion on something but sometimes people take it too personally so I might just keep it to myself. I won't even get involved with an opinion on religion....I believe what I believe and I think that whatever you believe in is your business as long as it doesn't hurt others.

No question about it- except, for some of us, the "fine tuning" is a work in progress! Steering clear of controversy in the form of politics, religion, etc. has always been my MO with anyone that has chosen my services- that's not what they're paying me for.

Sally, what a great way to make this point. We can't work at making that point strong enough. I always appreciate your work.

Sally I try to remember "Do no harm".  If telling you my opinion will do no harm I will (if asked).  I am not so narcissist to think that you really want my opinion.   However, not sharing my opinion could do more harm in some instances.  Either way it is not always what you say but how you say it.

Sally, so true, like the old saying "Opinions are like hiney holes (for better use of words, usually A$$, grin) everybody has one". Just learning how to express them is the challenge. Great post.

Hope your hubby is doing well, chiropractors are never fun.

Duane 

Sally, We all need to be totally cognizant of what we say because it can possibly offend others. 

Staying away from politics and religion is an excellent start.  Thank you for the beautiful and eloquent post.

Sally- I have to tell you a funny story. We were on a listing appointment and right before they signed the listing agreement they asked us who we were voting for. They are small business owners so I had a pretty strong feeling of what their concerns are and they had mentioned concerns about higher taxes, so I said to them, as soon as you sign the listing I will tell you:) So they did, and I told them since I knew we were on the same page about taxes. We had a really big laugh after that:)

Now as far as the seriousness of this post, I wish someone who just left me 3 very nasty emails on AR would have read this post, she really hurt my feelings and then I had to go on, I am only human after all , and sticks and stones do hurt.

Sally,

It takes a lot of discipline to just keep quiet sometimes.  We have friends who do not share our political preferences so we always remind ourselves not to talk about politics.  As usual, I enjoyed your post.

How you talk to people is so important.  Even if you disagree you can always be nice.

WooHoo, I guess you know I have no problem voicing my opinion. I do however always try to do it in a nice way. And if I'm wrong or someone disagrees with me I prefer they tell me. I need to know. Who knows I amy even be wrong.   Ok scratch that last remark:)

Woo Hoo, Another superb writing. I find myself not expressing as many opinions as I once might have. I can read other opinions and just accept that they are different than mine and respectfully disagree or in many instances just let them go.