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Pathway to Serenity

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Bed SerenityIn all our busy lives whether that means working transactions as Realtors, presenting a home as a Stager, buying a home, selling a home, commuting into the office, fixing the broken printer, dealing with our children's problems, handling a health issue, there is more stress out there it seems these days than we know what to do with.

I do believe you can find peace amidst all the chaos. Some days it is not easy for sure. Sometimes you think you have consecutive black cloud days hovering over your head.

So I've served up today some reminders for you. That it doesn't have to overwhelm you. We all want calm. We want restfulness. Here then are tips for a:

                   

                                    

                                          Pathway to Serenity

1. Solve the problem that is nagging at you. Don't go around or through it. Fix it.

2. Stay away from the grouches. Identify them and drive your boat away from them. They are a drain.

3. Also, identify other sources of negativity in your lives. Words from people, their actions, a bad commute time of day. Steer clear of as much negativity as you can. It is something that wears your body cells down.

4. Know crystal clear what "you cannot control." A big part of the serenity prayer. That which you cannot control you cannot change. Acceptance is the key here for serenity.

5. Take time for prayer or meditation. Nothing soothes the mind like quiet thought.

6. Get away. Find your quiet spot. Find your relaxing zones. If you can swing it, practice mini-vacations. Real vacations, not ones in your mind.

7. Be Blessed not Stressed. Say thank you A LOT!! Thank your friends for being there. Thanks in your mind for all you may have going for you (health, home, children, finances, laughter, your strengths, etc.) You cannot say thank you and be stressed at the same time.

8. Lastly, do something for others ALL THE TIME. The universe works this way. If you are helping others in their lives it will circle back to you and take the pressure off you. Why this works I'm not sure but it does. Give a smile, and guess what, all of a sudden you are smiling back from them.

Remember the sun is shining past the clouds. It always has. You just have to believe that in your heart. That image should let you know that in the big picture everything will be fine and you will have that

                        PEACEFUL EASY FEELING

Barbara Carter
Century 21 Alliance Realty Group - Highland, NY
Serving Your Real Estate Needs in the Hudson Valle

Gary, these are all great tips. Sometimes we get so caught up in the problems that we forget that there are actions we can take to correct the stresses. Thank you

Aug 25, 2008 07:15 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Chris Ann: Stay away from negativity.

Pam: Steering clear of negativity will INCREASE your energy!!

Susan: Prayer and meditation is GREAT for your mind. I've got real good about picking up on negativity and drive myself away from it. You get good at it after awhile, as it is a sense. Thanks for the notification on the spam. I got rid of it.

Debbie: There are those that suck our time away but the energy drainers are the worst.

Aug 25, 2008 07:16 AM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

I'm a natural grouch, I guess, because even though I see the beauty and serentiy of that almost-a-Norman Rockwell painting I also see the dog hairs on the sheets and the need to keep a clean house! LOL

Aug 25, 2008 10:25 AM
Linda Breeding
Keller Williams Realty - Pinehurst, NC

Love the post Gary, and the "Peaceful Easy Feeling". Meditation will rejuvenate, that's for sure. And true, love your friends. Always thank them for the things they do for you. They can make the sun shine in your day.

 

Aug 25, 2008 12:53 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Gary - Everytime I want a little entertainment or an inner smile, all I need do is visit your blog!  Thank you for creating Nirvana for all that visit your space on ActiveRain!

Aug 25, 2008 02:38 PM
Cathy Lee
CL Design Services Home Staging - Danville, CA
ASP, IAHSP, RESA Danville, CA

This is such a special Eagles song.  My son and I saw them at the new Nokia theatre a few months ago and they sound as good as ever!  Your blog is so good and inspiring.  Those who give, gather. 

Aug 25, 2008 03:51 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Barbara: I cannot believe you are a natural grouch. You are too sweet.

Linda: Loving and thanking are friends keeps that bond with them strong.

Myrl: Well thank you. I got nirvana just from reading what you said.

Cathy: Another Eagles fan terrific. I like that phrase you came up with, very good. Those who give, gather.

Aug 25, 2008 04:15 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Gary, It is SO important to stay away as much as possible from those who bring you down all the time....the grouches of the world is SO right!  They're out there and I stay away.  Great post (the jacuzzi sounds terrific too :)

Aug 25, 2008 04:27 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Hi Carole: Down with grouches, up with Jacuzzi's. You have my vote.

Aug 25, 2008 05:02 PM
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

That reminds me of a Normal Rockwell painting!  Oh to sleep the sleep of a baby/child..........with puppy in his arms.........ahhh........I miss those days!

Aug 25, 2008 07:01 PM
Adam Waldman
Westcott Group Real Estate Company - Hauppauge, NY
Realtor - Long Island

GARY - I think that the hardest one is dealing with things that are out of our control, at least it is for me.  That is something that I need to work on more.

Aug 25, 2008 09:40 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Gary, looking at the cute kid asleep with his dog had me add one:  don't sleep with your dog if he's a two year old Labradoodle!  The last time I did, I woke up in the middle of the night choking on feathers from a pillow he chewed up!  And sweet post!

Aug 26, 2008 06:43 AM
Jeff&Grace Safrin
F.C.Tucker 1st Team Real Estate - Valparaiso, IN
SpousesSellingHousesTM

Wonderful Post Gary - brings to mind the serenity praye change the things you can and be wise to know the difference of what you can & cannot change!

BTW r Just noticed you represent Flower Mound area - Jeff has an ol friend who moved there years ago!

Sincerely,

Grace 

Aug 26, 2008 09:28 AM
Lynn Afton
Greenridge Realty Oakmont - Big Rapids, MI
REALTOR® Near Big Rapids, MI, Mecosta County

Serenity - just the word gives me a peaceful, easy feelin'!  Thanks for the post, Gary.

Aug 26, 2008 10:18 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Liz: This one does look like a Norman Rockwell painting I agree.

Adam: With things out of control it is letting go and acceptance.

Patricia: That's a funny story of yours with the Labradoodle, feathers everywhere and of course choking LOL. I wish I had a camera.

Grace: The Serenity Prayer has much wisdom in it. Yes, I'm the Flower Mound kid.

Lynn: We all need Serenity, and to carry it with us in turbulent times.

Aug 26, 2008 10:34 AM
Michelle Hall
Century 21 Hecht - Denver, NC
Gary, this is so true. I never knew how much negativity took out of you and affected you until I made it a point to try to think more positively. I grew up around negativity, and til this day can't really talk to my mom much because she has such an "I can't"/ "I'm a victim" personality. It is hard to break away when you live with negativity.
Aug 26, 2008 10:58 AM
Judi Downing Real Estate Properties in Charlotte & Union Co
Keller Williams Realty - Indian Trail, NC
I find that I must try to stay focused and keep my train on track. Lately it has derailed more times than I need. I just head back for the track and continue to move forward.
Aug 26, 2008 11:22 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Michelle: Drive your life away from negativity the best you can. It's tough when it's your own family members. Then you just have to walk outside. Less negativity, more serenity. At least you can choose who you want to be friends in your life. Fire the pity party friends.

Judi: I like your image of the track and derailing and getting back on track. In the boxing world they say "keep getting up" after getting knocked down. Persistence pays off in the end. It really does. No quit in this dog.

Aug 26, 2008 11:36 AM
Mara Hawks
First Realty Auburn - Auburn, AL
Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL

1. gotta work on that

2. check

3. check

4. check

5. check

6.  have to get better at this!

7. check

8. we can always do a little more

Thanks Gary!

check

Aug 27, 2008 03:34 PM
Irene Woodworth
Color and Redesign Academy & Redesign Boise - Garden City, ID
Color-Redesign-Staging, Trainer & Motivational Speaker - Idaho

Hi Gary,

Thanks for another wonderful and enlightening post.  Our family is addicted to peace.  When we don't walk in it we start looking at what we need to get it back.  Learning to stay away from negativity and negative people is something that I continually work on.  It is okay to share our burdens with one another sometimes, but to complain and whine is another thing.  We have learned to take small breaks or pauses throughout our days.  We just need to pause and unplug and be still, thankful or just enjoy the moments.  Even with those very challenging days.  Of course, prayer and knowing that God is watching out for us, is such a comfort and a relief!   

~Have a Colorful Day!

Aug 30, 2008 02:28 PM