Tuesday Truths....Burning that Bra Didn't help everyone

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Today.....August 26th is Women's Equality Day.  The 19th Amendment was certified as part of the U.S. Constitution on August 26, 1920.  This Amendment gave women the right to vote, and supposedly we were to have equal rights.  In our country women today are "mostly" equal to men.  There are still discrepancies in pay, and opportunities, depending on where you live, but on the whole life is much better for women.

Before Equality


I remember my Grandmother's pride when she would tell us about being the first Woman hired at McGraw-Hill to earn the same salary as a man.  She was a mechanical engineer, and had a fascinating upbringing.


I remember whining about things that I didn't think were fair in life, usually when it came to my brother or his friends being able to do more than I was allowed to do.  My Grandmother would be very stern and tell me that I wasn't her Granddaughter if I was going to whine.  She expected me to follow my dreams, work hard, and never let anyone tell me I couldn't do something.  Women were equal in her eyes.


Then I had my mother...another very strong woman.  She raised 5 kids on her own after her marriage failed.  I remember her working 2 jobs, and also knew she gave up her own dreams once she became a parent.  She had wanted to be a PE Teacher, but apparently they had to move around a lot as my father was in the Service.  My mother taught me not to let anyone take advantage of you in business.



I was raised to be a strong woman, but not everyone is.  I know many women that believe the man is more important, and his needs are more important.  Well, to me this is such a strange concept.  Overseas I ran into this a lot.  Some of the countries are very Patriarchal, and it's amazing to me how women are treated.  Even today.

  The Good Old Boys

During my time in the Peace Corps I was shocked at how women were treated.  My friend over there was whining one day that she needed a man because her car was on empty.  What?  I asked her why she just didn't pump the gas herself (this was in 1997) . 

 It was such an ordeal that even though I wanted to laugh, I couldn't.  For years my friend would say with pride that she learned to pump gas. Pumping Gas was such a trivial thing to me, having grown up Independent and Strong, and Equal. But in a country that doesn't value women it was; although it was not just cultural, but a lack of self esteem brought on by culture.




Women in Development

Yes, because of the 19th Amendment and because of the strong women in my life I was able to help many other women overseas in their quest for a better life.  Whatever our station in life, or nationality, as women we need to help each other realize we are indeed equal. 

Sometimes though Cultural Influences are difficult to overcome. Working within the confines of the laws of the Nation are important, and all American Women can thank their parents and Grandparents for the suffering they went through in order for us to be equal today.


If you need any further evidence of how far we've come in this country look at the Presidential Race......never before had a Woman even been considered, let alone almost get her Party Nomination. Never before have we been able to be all that we can be.....

The United States is further along than many countries, however there are still a lot of women that are marginalized. 

Here are some of the issues still affecting Women around the World.

Human Trafficking-This has been, and still is a major issue.  Women and Children are sold for the sexual pleasure of others, sometimes in their own country and sometimes they are smuggled into another country. This degradation occurs with such regularity that it is one of the worst crimes against women and children, yet in America we rarely hear about it.

Prostitution-Young girls  (boys too) are sent out onto the streets by their parents, or caregivers to earn money.  Pimps take in Street Children and Prostitute them out.  And even in affluent countries like America prostituting the unwilling takes place. 

 Domestic Violence-Across the world women are abused, every minute of the day.  In many Societies women are not considered equal.  So if their husband beats them, or brother, or any other male, there isn't anything they can do. 

Education- Women do not have equal access to education in many countries.  The man is assumed to be the one that needs to be educated, one reason being so he can provide for his family. 

Justice/Legal-  Women's rights are not universal.  Many women do not have equal protection under the law.  Men are allowed to accuse a woman of any crime, and the woman cannot fight back.  Women are still excluded from owning property in some countries.  They're killed for supposedly " not honoring" their husband, genital mutilation is still practiced, and many are forced into early pre-arranged marriages.



Today, August 26th, as an American Woman I am very grateful for the women that fought for our equal rights.  Also,today as a Woman I am saddened that these issues are still as prevalent as they were during my time in the Peace Corps (1997-2000)


Women's Equality Day for America.....Women everywhere should also be equal....

By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty



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Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Century 21 Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI

A very detailed story and it surely should mean.....everywhere. I have lived all over the world and I do believe that the majority of women elsewhere are still second class.

Aug 26, 2008 04:49 AM #1
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Sally- I know one of the Countries you lived in, and indeed women there are 2nd class citizens.  I worked hard with the Women In Development Organization to help women through seminars, workshops, mentoring, etc.  That was one of the most fulfilling times of my life, as well as one of the most frustrating.  We still have such a long way to go, globally :)

Aug 26, 2008 05:12 AM #2
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Kathy, I didn't know it was Woman's Equality Day and sad to see that these issues are still going on--and I KNOW they are.  At the hospital the other day because I fell, my son was with me and they asked him to leave the room.  I couldn't imagine for WHAT but she asked about domestic violence.  It's so prevalent, she said, that they ask every patient no matter what they come in for.  She also told me that teenage girls are often abused......what a very sad thing to hear.  I'm grateful you wrote this to call attention to things we often don't think about.

Aug 26, 2008 06:21 AM #3
William Johnson
RE/MAX Associates - La Jolla, CA
San Diego Real Estate Voice, GRI CRS e-Pro CDPE

Hi Kathy, I am not sure but would guess it is Ok for a man to comment here. Women's suffrage was a movement that I did learn about but even after that movement the greater awareness of 2nd class citizen status was still apparent. Hopefully most of that is gradually disappearing in todays culture in our country but vestiges of it still are plentiful throughout corporations and other industry. Other countries particularly in the eastern part of the world still cling to the 2nd class status and it is very sad to see. Since it is often tied to to religious beliefs, it will be slow to change and the resistance is dramatic. But I believe there is great hope in our younger generations that as they mature, parity will be the norm and not the exception. Higher level education had clearly been responsible for the best parts of the evolving change. The glass ceiling is slowly but steadily being shattered here.

Thankfully at least in our modern world, we have overcome many aspects of this though we still have a ways to go.

Your post was informative and hopefully many more will be more aware. Well done Kathy.

Aug 26, 2008 06:27 AM #4
Julie Q. Fuelling
Keller Williams Katy @ Cinco Ranch - Katy, TX
Real Estate Consultant

How fitting that Hillary will speak tonight at the Democratic Convention!

Julie Fuelling



Aug 26, 2008 06:54 AM #5
Leslie Prest
Leslie Prest, Prest Realty, Sales and Rentals in Payson, AZ - Payson, AZ
Owner, Assoc. Broker, Prest Realty, Payson,

I was raised with a Mom who taught school, as did my Dad. My Dad did housework and was a better cook than Mom. So I grew up with equality. But I'm afraid that it is pretty much human nature that where you have differences (and male/female is a very fundamental difference!) you also have predjudices. Doesn't mean we shouldn't keep whittling them down, though.

Aug 26, 2008 07:01 AM #7
Sweet Viscape
Arlington, VA

Hi Kathy,

I agree with Julie.  It does seem fitting that Hillary should speak tonight.  It's very fitting for the occasion.

Thanks for the great blog.



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Aug 26, 2008 08:06 AM #8
Pam Jank
Coldwell Banker Schneidmiller Realty - Coeur d'Alene, ID
Your Coeur d'Alene & North Idaho Real Estate Pro

Kathy, I didn't even know.  Thank you for such a detailed tribute.  I am also very grateful.

Aug 26, 2008 08:58 AM #9
marti garaughty
garaughty.com - Montreal, QC
a highly caffeinated creative type...

 Hi Kathy... re "My Grandmother would be very stern and tell me that I wasn't her Granddaughter if I was going to whine"...

 Isn't it funny when we look back at some of the things our parents/grandparents did that seemed "mean" at the time, were actually some of the best things that ever happened to us. ;-)

Aug 26, 2008 10:05 AM #10
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Carole-Sorry that happened to you, and I sure hope you're OK from that fall :)  Yes Domestic Violence is very prevalent, and so many women stay believing the line that it'll never happen again.  And Boys are abusing girls as you learned....so as Parents what are we tecahing our sons?

William- When I was the President of the Women in Development Committee, we had men as well as women on the committee.  We also held some camps for Boys Leadership to teach them about equality, and issues that affected Women as well as men. If the boys never change their mentality then how could we expect the laws to change since it was men that made them?

You are welcome onto any Post on any subject.....that would be pitiful to write something and exclude one gender over another :)  Hope all is well with you, and thanks for commenting...I too believe that education will help eradicate some of the issues, not all, but some :)

Julie- Absolutely......very fitting ;)

Leslie-Good point....and I would agree that it doesn't mean we have to give up trying for equality, at least for some of the issues that I have stated, and that many people around the World are working on.

Misty- Yes, I can't wait to hear the speech....this has been a very Historic year in more ways than one.

 Pam- Thank you for taking the time to read this and comment.  It only takes that one person to make a difference sometimes. 

marti-You are so right.  I was reading someones Post...Rebbecca L's I think, and she was talking about some of the sayings we've inherited and passed down.  In her case she saw the hurt that can be perpetrated by them, in my case I saw the character building. 

I honestly believe that we wouldn't have such a nation of whiners right now if more people didn't look at everything as "you hurt my feelings".....sometimes they might just need to be hurt.  Change never occurs without some type of uncomfortable feeling or behavior.

Aug 26, 2008 10:15 AM #11
Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist
Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC

You know I like quotes and one that comes to mind something like this....

"Men of quality are not threatened by women of equality." (Author unknown to me).

I was always told and taught that I could be and do anything I wanted to do, but not without sacrifices and hard work.

Aug 26, 2008 10:49 AM #12
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Cynthia- Your quote is perfect...look at the 2 guys that came and commented...both quality and good reputations :)  sounds like your upbringing had all the ingredients for success :)

Aug 26, 2008 12:57 PM #13
Fran Gaspari
Patriot Land Transfer, Inc. - Limerick, PA
"The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ


As a proud father of three beautiful girls (inside and outside)...I would like to underline that for Christians we read from Galatians 4:7..."There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus"...!!! Thanks,   Fran 

Aug 26, 2008 01:35 PM #14
Martha Brown
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc., Annapolis MD 21403 - Annapolis, MD
Your Homes Around Annapolis Agent

kathy- A very fitting tribute for a day that many do not know even exists. Equality is and will be an  ongoing process as it evolves with time. We all pray that the strong women in all parts of the world are able to experience and change their world as we have ours. 

Aug 26, 2008 02:33 PM #15
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Fran- You are so right.  And I really hope that your girls grow up to a more tolerant world.  One that values everyone.  Thanks for your comment.  You have just passed Cynthia's Men of Quality test LOL :)

Martha- Yes, it is an ongoing process....even here in America we have a lot of problems, it's just that on the whole we're ahead of many of the countries.  Tonight Hillary Clinton made History, and tonight she said it so well......it is because of all the women before us and their sacrifices that has given us the equality we have now.

Aug 26, 2008 04:55 PM #16
Neal Bloom
eXp Realty - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate


I can't say whether I prefer women to burn those bras but I would never want to burn my jock strap....oh by the way...I never owned or wore one anyway...maybe once in PE back in high school:)

Aug 27, 2008 12:15 AM #17
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