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Which wolf do you feed?

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Real Estate Agent with Casa Tierra Realty

An elder Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, A fight is going on inside me. It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, pride, and superiority. The other wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This same fight is going on inside of you and every other person too. The children thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, Which wolf will win? The old Cherokee simply replied: The one I feed.

This evening (September 12th) on Bill Moyer's Journal, Mr. Moyers made reference to this apparently well known (but not to me) story.  It made me think of the many postings I have read on ActiveRain as well as the "talk radio" I frequent, most of which I am in disagreement with, indeed, often disgusted with.  I think of what I hear from those who profess to be Christian but who spiel venom on a daily basis (I'm thinking of Limbaugh and Hannity) against the Democrats.  And I conclude that it may be impossible for us to ever come together again.  I like that Obama talks about the electorate as not being "red" or "blue" but Americans all.  I think that John McCain feels the same although maybe does not express it as explicitly.  We are truly fortunate that we have two candidates who are inspirational and each of whom will lead us well when the opportunity comes. 

I am also reminded of our Realtor Code of Ethics and think how well this folk wisdom applies to us in our every day lives and activities.  It seems to me to be a corollary of the "golden rule".  In our individual hearts, we need to know which wolf we are feeding.

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Jane Page Thompson
Aiken Properties - Aiken, SC

Bill, thanks for your encouraging thoughts and words.  I have printed out the story.

Sep 18, 2008 07:42 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Thank you for sharing this wonderful story. I pray we all take heed to it's content and feed the right wolf and for those that choose to feed the wrong wolf that they do it out of a compassionate heart.

Sep 18, 2008 07:59 AM
Jon Wnoroski
America's 1st Choice RH Realty Co., Inc. - Green, OH
Summit County Realtor

Bill, thanks for your comments.  We deal with which wolf to feed on a daily basis.  Most often we feed the right one and make moral decisions.   We establish our code of ethics at an early age and as parents we nurture that code within our children.  We live our lives based on our beliefs and make good decisions accordingly.

Sep 19, 2008 02:05 AM
Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe Broker

Linda Mae,

I suspect that "those that choose to feed the wrong wolf" do not have compassion.

Jon,

I suspect that with the recent events in Washington, we are going to find a whole bunch of people who have been feeding the wrong wolf.  You may be called upon to share your insights.

Sep 23, 2008 04:07 PM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Bill,

What a great story!  Thanks for the post.

Mike in Tucson

Sep 28, 2008 05:25 PM
Greg Gorman
John R Wood Properties - Naples, FL
Naples Florida Real Estate

Hi Bill-

The story is a great reminder that "...what we look for in life, we often find..." Whatever direction we're facing is the path we on...meaning we'll end up in the place where we are focused. Choose to be positive and gratiful even with the challenges life brings to us. We can't choose our curcumstances, but we can choose how we respond. Thanks for sharing & greetings from Paradise.

Realtor Greg Gorman & Realtor David Burke Present Naples Florida Real Estate

Sep 28, 2008 09:39 PM
Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe Broker

Greg,

What a appropriate quote on your part " ...what we look for in life, we often find ...".  It seems to me that the recent economic turmoil in our country is a perfect example.  Our politicians and our CEOs are looking only for power and money.  They found it ... but then we found out they cheated; they violated their public trust.  So, why did we drop our insistence on campaign finance reform, term limits, etc?

Sep 30, 2008 09:53 AM
Alyce Martin
The Realty Group, LLC - Albuquerque, NM
Albuquerque - THE Place To Be!

Bill - hello to Santa Fe.  Get ready for some serious tourist traffic - Balloonfest starts this weekend.  Your post holds a very simple yet powerful message - and while we are all spinning and trying to find our equilibrium, this parable can be the bubble in the level.  Take care.

Sep 30, 2008 10:22 AM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Hi there, Bill,

I liked this story enough that I came back to see what's next!  Time for a new story.  LOL

Mike in Tucson

Oct 05, 2008 04:45 PM
Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe Broker

Mike,

OK, I'll try a "new story" for you, since you care so much.  Harlan McKosato, a Sauk/Ioway and the only native American commentator that I know of, commented today on Sarah Palin's husband's publicity that his grandmother was Yup'ik (Eskimo).  His point is that, to be a "real Indian", "you have to remain connected to your tribe and to your tribal family; that's your first line of defense.  If you don't have their support, you are likely to be viewed as a fraud.  Second, support fundamental tribal rights because in the end your actions speak louder that the words of others." 

Oct 05, 2008 05:16 PM
Sarah Nopp
South Sound, WA

This is a great post. I hear from so few people who are willing to identify positive attributes in both candidates. Thank you

Oct 06, 2008 04:34 AM
Elizabeth Nieves
The Elizabeth Nieves Realty Group - Durham, NC
Bilingual Raleigh - Durham North Carolina Real Estate Team

Being Cherokee...I've heard this story many times before. It is so very true that what we feed the most will be the strongest. The thing is...that with ALL the negative stuff going on around us in the world...we get fed a whole lot of secondhand garbage. We have to feed our spirits the GOOD FOOD on a regular basis to be strong enough to stand against the ugliness. GREAT REMINDER! GBU!!

Oct 06, 2008 10:57 AM
Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe Broker

JERRY,

Interesting observations and perspective.  Feeding the "good wolf" requires a few more attributes like, don't let the bastards get you down; that many will abuse the rest of us for their own gain; good guys don't always place first; many will through stones at you knowing that you can't get to their "glass house".  As long as you are happy and contended with who you are, none of the other matters.

Sarah,

Why is that?  Either one of these guys will do the best for our country.  All this negativity is unbecoming of both of them.  Unfortunately, Karl Rove proved that it works.  What are we Americans thinking?!

Elizabeth,

I am delighted to hear that this is, indeed, a folk story of your tribe.  Being from New Mexico, I have a fondness for and appreciation of our native Americans and their perspective on the world. 

Oct 08, 2008 03:45 PM
Jim Crawford
Long & Foster - Fredericksburg, VA
Jim Crawford Broker Associate Fredericksburg VA

It also begins with which we choose to believe.  Sometimes we are predisposed to our own predjuduces and are not as open minded as we think we are.  It is said that even if th perfect candidate were to run on a third party ticket.  15% of democrats would not vote for him /her  nor would 15% of republicans vote for him / her.  That is a large number of closed minds when you add it up at 30% straight party line voters that cannot think of voting outside theit party lines.  Not very open minded.  Try lobbying sometimes, and you may change the way you think on who the best choice is.

Oct 08, 2008 04:46 PM
Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe Broker

Josh,

Thanks for the posting; I thought this message had run its course.  Of course, not all Christians nor all women nor all Muslims should be judged by the terrorist acts and improprieties of the few.  But the point is that many extremists in all religions tend to minority view points, be that denying freedom of choice to women by Christians, or denying religious freedom to other relilgions by the extremists of the Muslim commuity.  If we are truely"Christian" or truely "followers of Muhammed", all extremism is to be denounced by the moderate followers of both religious persuasions.  By not speaking out, the extremists are further empowered.

Nov 26, 2008 12:41 PM
Terry Miller
Miller Homes Group - Tyler, TX
Miller Homes Group and Tyler Apartment Locator

Thanks for the great advice. I will check back often. I really like the blog. I am new at blogging but I am beginning to learn quite a bit from reading blogs like the ones I find on Active Rain. If I can ever be of help just let me know.  

                                                                 Thanks, Terry

                                                                  Of "Now What?"

Dec 01, 2008 01:59 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Thanks for sharing that great story - I have never heard it either, but it makes for some great imagery!  I will remember it.

Jan 07, 2009 12:07 PM
Richard Stabile
Re/Max Real Estate Limited - Oradell, NJ
Bergen County New Homes Builder Realtor

Touching thought.

That is something to think about. We are in control of who we are and must work on it all the time.

Richard

Jan 07, 2009 01:04 PM
Mike Jones
SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC (BK-0907366, NMLS 145171) - Tucson, AZ
Mike Jones NMLS 223495

Bill,

These wolves have been around since September, and they've only been fed 28 times.  Just when they're about to go on a rampage, someone comes along and feeds them another comment.

Mike in Tucson

Jan 07, 2009 02:33 PM
Jose Santos
Casa Latino A.T. - Concord, CA

Bill,

I came accross your blog and it caught my attention. What wolf will win? ... The one I feed. That is a very powerful thought. Thank you. 

Feb 17, 2009 02:14 PM