Broker to Agent......Get Out of My Car....No Politics Allowed

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with CELLing Realty CalBRE #01445865

How many of us spend time negotiating contracts, loans, fights between our kids, or even fights between the neighborhood kids?  How many of us try to find compromises in our daily work and life?  Compromises that allow for both sides of an issue to "be right" or "to win" or whatever it is they're fighting about.  But radically different Political Views between a Broker and an Agent?  What happens when each feels they're right, can they still work together with such drastic differences?  Does this change how the Broker views the Agent?

I, for one, am tired of hearing all the Political Ads, news, and everything else.  I am tired of seeing so many of my friends shout to the world an opinion I completly disagree with.  So many people are adamant about their "opinion" without any actual knowledge or understanding, including me I'm sure :) 

Yesterday an Agent and I were driving somewhere together.  We discussed a few things, then the Agent mentioned picking up some Political signs and on and on about how great this was.  Problem was we were on different sides of the fence.  Even though I knew better, I said I didn't agree

 

  • My voice got louder,
  • my mind closed down to listening, and
  • I found myself thinking of this Agent in a totally different light

I was too emotionally involved now.......

Now what?  Do we really need to know what our co-workers, colleagues, fair weather friends, and on-line buddies think about Politics?  What do we do when we disagree.....as some of the issues don't appear to leave room for compromise.

My Compromise.......I try very hard to keep my opinions to myself.  I try very hard to allow you the right to have yours, but not in my car, and not in my house (or even on my RE Blog).  Politics is off limits to me and one of the main reasons is I am not sure I can control my own self. 

 

So if you are an Agent and don't want to be kicked out of my car....keep the Politics and Religion out of Real Estate....it makes for a nicer drive for sure :)

 

 

 

By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty in Riverside County

Comments (59)

Mara Hawks
First Realty Auburn - Auburn, AL
Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL

I will NOT discuss politics. I feel too discouraged, afraid & continuously pray to any listening Beings to assist our wretched world in endeavors of PEACE and Understanding... As for 'religion'... if anyone wants to debate or argue, we'd better be playing paintball. (and sorry you has such an uncomfortable experience--- I think it was a week for fireballs to get thrown in every direction).

Sep 20, 2008 01:47 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Mara- Hello there.....Paintball....hmmm does that hurt?  That might not be a bad idea, stick everyone that wants to argue in a paintball place and let them go at it LOL :)  Yea, getting along, and trying to understand someone else's opinion is a little more mature than some of the current climate for "debates".  I like what Bill said....about trying to understand why someone believes something......

But then again the Why could get my emotions boiling again :)  I really am quite opinionated, and I know my friends overseas would be darn proud to know I learned Diplomacy :)

Sep 20, 2008 04:17 AM
Sylvie Conde
Sutton Group-Associates Realty Inc., Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Broker, Toronto Real Estate

Kathy, you cracked me up. :)  You reminded me of myself ... first trying not to get emotional about it, and then they say something, and you blow up; you get louder, and louder, and you open the door and kick them out ... ok, you stop first, and then you kick them out... :)
(Yes, I could see myself doing that...)

And as long as my parents aren't in the room, I am almost always willing to discuss religion (as long as it's not the one I don't practice - don't tell my parents).

Sep 20, 2008 10:39 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Kathy:  I can't talk politics with my best friend.  I have the same reaction. I try hard to be a social chameleon when my clients bring the subject up.  Don't want to upset anyone.

Sep 20, 2008 11:17 AM
Kathy Clulow
RE/MAX All-Stars Realty Inc. Brokerage - Uxbridge, ON
Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results

Kathy - been there done that still trying to walk the fence, change the subject when it comes up unless I know we share the same view point.

Sep 20, 2008 11:50 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy your amazing that you can remember that I wrote something like that two years ago, because I have a hard time remembering with I did or said two day ago ....... LOL

Sep 20, 2008 03:35 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

George....look at tomorrow WIR...it should bring back some memories :)

Sep 20, 2008 03:44 PM
Randy L. Prothero
eXp Realty - Mililani, HI
Hawaii REALTOR, (808) 384-5645

I have been politically active for many years.  I get a percentage of my business because of the political contacts on both sides of the isle.

I do know better than to bring up politics under most situations.  You will not win friends and influence people.

Sep 21, 2008 06:11 AM
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY

Kathy~ I learned a long time ago that discussing politics or religion will usually end up in disagreements.  It really depends on the people having the discussion and how level headed they can remain, which  it would be unusual that both remain level headed.  I always remind myself that the world would be a boring place if everyone thought the same!   

Sep 21, 2008 06:23 AM
Carol Lynne Bull
Keller Williams - Alexandria, VA

When people want to talk politics I tell them I'm Canadian. If they want to talk religion tell them I'm a Druid. So far it has worked out well.

Carol  NovaStar  Alexandria VA

Sep 21, 2008 08:43 AM
Sylvie Conde
Sutton Group-Associates Realty Inc., Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Broker, Toronto Real Estate

Carol, you cracked me up ... unfortunately, that won't work for me (the politics part, anyway). :)

Sep 21, 2008 09:12 AM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

I love hearing from the wrong side...maybe it makes them made...as for me, I love to see them sqirm.

Sep 21, 2008 01:25 PM
Stephen Kappre
KW Hometown - Mantua, NJ
Helping You Home

Carol -

I have fairly strong political views and very strong religious beliefs.  After a closing recently my client practically insisted I go to lunch with him, and I had a minute to do so.  We talked about religious ideas and such for over an hour.  It was a wonderful lunch.  I basically couldn't have disagreed with him more, but he is a really great guy and I love to learn.  I absolutely LOVE hearing peoples opinions and beliefs on a personal level, but the simple fact is very few people know how to seperate their emotions from it.  Now when my brother-in-law starts speaking politics I want to jam ice picks in my ears.  :-P  Thanks for sharing!

Bill Farragher (Exit First Choice Realty) - I read your comment after posting this - seems like we would have really grea times together ;-)

Sep 21, 2008 01:36 PM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

I agree that politics is off base when it comes to business.  My biggest challenge has been when clients make unbelievable racial remarks when in my car or on a showing.  It is very difficult to deal with that.  Although I feel passionate about some issues, I do try to keep an open mind.  I try to put myself in the other person's shoes or at least understand where they are coming from.  However, when it comes to racism that is another story.

Sep 22, 2008 02:57 AM
Janna Scharf
Keller Williams Realty Coeur d'Alene - Coeur d'Alene, ID
Coeur d'Alene Idaho Real Estate Expert

Business and politics don't mix, but I would think a friendly conversation between a broker and agent would be pretty normal.  Talking about their views, why they believe what they do.  Each one could probably learn a little about the other and what makes them tick.  I think the problem arises when you have people who aren't LISTENING to the other.

Sep 23, 2008 06:25 AM
Kat DeLong
LakeView Realty Enterprises, Inc - Lake Arrowhead, CA
Realtor DRE#01235311, Lake Arrowhead Real Estate (

Oh Kathy, good timing on this post. I AGREE 100%; DON'T mix politics and religion. Since the beginning of time, these subjects have always made people on "different" sides of the fence, get UGLY.

Sep 23, 2008 08:49 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Randy- Good point that there is a time and a place for any Political discussions :)

Vickie- The world would indeed be a boring place :)

Carol- so you are a Druid Canadian LOL :)  When I was overseas and people wanted to kill us I said I was Canadian.,...they liked them better :)

Sylvie- OK, you will have to find a different Country to be from :)

Gary- Ahhh you have a little devil in you do ya now :)-

Steve-although I am not Carol.....you are right about most people not being able to separate the emotional part from their beliefs and there in lies the problem :)

Joan- Racism is absolutely a different story.  One is an opinion, the other can be a violation of law.

Janna- So right you are...and when people are emotionally charged they don't listen!

Kat- Loved how you said it....yes people can get downright uguly when trying to convince others of their view !

 

Sep 23, 2008 10:21 AM
Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula
Realty Works Temecula - Temecula, CA
Realty Works Temecula

This was a great post.  I have had this issue with my step daughter but since I love her I just smile and tell her,,,,,But I am a republican.  Then she leaves me alone...She is young and enthuiastic, and brite and opinionated.  It is just the wise thing to do to keep it to yourself and Not, Not, Not speak politics ever, in business, or family gatheriengs as far as I am concerned.

Sep 24, 2008 05:03 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Jane- I remember being young...opinionated was certainly the norm :)  Your idea of keeping your views to yourself sounds good to me :)

Sep 24, 2008 05:50 AM
Anonymous
John Bredin

A very difficult issue, but kudos to Kathy for generating so much dialogue on this matter.  I suppose if we silence politics at the workplace, this won't be healthy for the future of our democracy.  Knowing when it's appropriate to talk politics is a more appropriate strategy.  And who says you might not GAIN clients; for example, those who'd prefer to work with a more progressive, ethical, forward thinking person BECAUSE of their politics. I don't know who George Soros' real estate agent is, but if he's a Right winger, he'd better keep that a secret.  I come to real estate from the teaaching profession--having taught college English for 10 years--where my business was to strengthen democracy by encouraging open dialogue, even and especially about the pressing problems of our time.  So perhaps my perspective is a bit different than others.

 

John Bredin

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