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Blog Action Day- Faces of Poverty

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with CELLing Realty CalBRE #01445865

How many times have we been confronted with Poverty, stark poverty that rips your heart out every time you see it until you get to the point that all of your tears are locked into a place that is safe from daily interactions? Not the United States version of poverty where even the poorest have it better than in some Countries.  Not the United States where the poorest receive Medical Care, and there are Food Stamps for the truly needy.  This isn't the poverty I'm talking about. 

I'm talking about the Poverty of Children being isolated from the world because of ignorance, and misinformation that lead to fear.  I'm talking about children that lived in such squalor that the first thought upon seeing their lifestyle was one of disbelief.  The heart and Soul screaming for justice, and screaming for the lives that were wasting away.  I'm talking about children that were made to wear separate clothing designating their disease for the world to see.  Caretakers telling the children they were going to die and go to a black hole in the ground.  These are the faces of poverty ingrained in my soul.

33 Million pople right now are affected with the HIV/AIDS virus worldwide, and 25 Million have already died, including thousands of children.  You can see more information by clicking/reading my other Post here:  Blog Action Day-Health, HIV/AIDS and Poverty but for this Blog Post I just want to share a few of the many faces of Poverty of children living with HIV/AIDS that I worked with.

Wasting away without medication 

 

 This is Florin- He was about 9 years old.  Most of the time he was confined to his bed as he had something wrong with his leg, and couldn't walk very well.  

His family actually lived close by, but they had no money to care for him, so they left him in the Hospital, abandoned.

With the help of one of the local NGO's Florin actually went home.  We  set up Foster Homes, and Group Homes for all 25 kids abandoned in this Hospital. It was the first Hospital for HIV/AIDS kids in the country that actually was closed down because the children were integrated into Society. This NGO with the help of some other larger NGO's (non-governmental non-profit organizations) developed programs to help keep children in their families instead of abandoning them to the State.

 

 

 

 

Hospital where abandoned children with the HIV Virsus lived out their lives

 

This is the Playground at the Hospital.  The Swing set had been broken for years, there was one slide, and nothing else but dirt. 

Georgie was another little boy that died.  He was maybe 7 or 8 years old and adorable. I will never forget the Staff putting him on a blanket in this dirt and leaving him while the other kids played around him.  This was actually an improvement over previous "treatment" but it was still very hard to watch.

 

 

 

 

 

Volunteers and Donations made this little ones last days better-he wasn't starving

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Many many children died before their 10th Birthday.  This little boy only had a few more weeks before he too passed away.  The Crackers you see, and the little car were donations from people.  These kids lived a life where nothing was theirs. Nothing. No matter if a donation came in or not, everything belonged to everyone or anyone.

One of the biggest mistakes I made with these children was in using my American frame of reference to "help" them.  In many ways we do more harm than good because these kids, and their culture, are so different.  I took several home for a week-end Foster Parenting Program, but if I had to do it again I wouldn't.  I would help a Host Country National with resources instead.  Why, because my values are different.  My idea of children was different, and after giving the child new clothes, a bath, medicine, etc. they had to go backBut the difference is now they KNEW they had nothing.  Now they knew what it was like not to be hungry, and to be able to take a bath, and wear clean clothes that fit.  They knew what it was like to go to a playground, walk along the river, or just ride on the bus.  They knew that the life they had was missing so much.

I think that's the worst part of poverty is knowing that you don't have the same as others through no fault of your own.  I think it's the lack of choices you have, and how other people treat you.  The faces of Poverty are many.  Some break our hearts, and others we try to ignore. 

We can all make a difference.  We can help change some of the faces of Poverty just by our donations to reputable Charities, ones in the Host Country that does the work.  UNICEF, World Vision, and many many other Organizations use donated funds to help NGO's in various countries fund programs.  We CAN make a difference in Children's Lives.

A few Dollars to a local Organization can make all the difference in the world

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Working Together in this Global World can make a Differnce.....

Let's work together to change the Faces of Poverty

 

 

 

 

 

The Hunger Site 

Blog Action Day 2008 Poverty

 Click the graphic

 

By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty

Audrey June-Forshey
RE/MAX Realty Services - Darnestown, MD
GRI, Gaithersburg, MD

Kathy, I have been to some of those countries.  Just like you said, the poor here are still much better off.  The children, the orphans just break my heart.  You are always a voice for the the under dog.  The world would be a better place with more Kathy McGraws.

Oct 15, 2008 01:56 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Vickie-We do have so much, and sharing it not only helps others, but in the long run it makes us better people.

Carole- thanks for that comment, and you have a point.  So many of those kids just needed some time to be "special".  So in that sense taking some of them home could be said to be good, although the aftereffects would still be the same.

Cathy- Were you on a Missionary there, or ?  Yes, the children everywhere get to the hearts of so many of us.  And we do indeed have blessed lives :)

George- It's a good thing when so many people talk and write about a subject that is one we really need to solve :)

Audrey-I laughed at your comment on more Kathy McGraw's...Google already has thousands of them :)  Ok, I know what you meant, and thanks for the compliment.  I knew you would be one of the ones that were affected by children in these circumstances.  Have you seen rocky Turners Organization?  If not go check her out.

 

Oct 15, 2008 03:42 PM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals

Hi Kathy-this post is just heart wrenching...and I got a real reality check...and yes us rainers can do alot!  I always thought I knew what poverty meant....but I was so wrong....

Oct 15, 2008 11:28 PM
Jeanean Gendron
The Address Realty - Redding, CA
Specializing in Selling Unique Properties

Kathy, thank you for this good work. I've spent the morning going around and reading and I am so inspired. I'm reblogging many of the posts. This post made me cry and that is a good thing. When we reach out and move people and resolve to take action we can make a difference. Thank you so much for this compelling and moving post. I wrote about a local organization that helped my son when he was so sick. I shall forever have my place for contribution. We need it at all levels. Thank you for your work.

Oct 16, 2008 04:03 AM
Jeanean Gendron
The Address Realty - Redding, CA
Specializing in Selling Unique Properties

Kathy, I didn't notice, but you don't have this tagged to reblog. If you don't want that....it's fine. I would like to reblog it to my site if you are comfortable with it. Please do what's correct for you. I just feel it is so good that it is good to share it and distribute it to many markets.

Oct 16, 2008 04:05 AM
Jo-Anne Smith
Oakville, ON

Kathy,

i'm really at a loss for words...your pictures are heartbreaking and I can't even begin to imagine the despair, pain and sadness these children live in on a day to day basis.  There is something terribly wrong with the world when even small children go through so much suffering in their short lived lives.

If only there were more people like you in the world who strive to make a difference...

Jo

Oct 16, 2008 05:42 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Midori- Hi I went to your Post today, and we had our version of Poverty.  For us, and our country we were poor, but for the rest of the world we were blessed.  Perspective is only attained from personal knowledge.  If we don't see other things how are we to compare?  Anyway, thank you for sharing your story, made it easier for me to share a piece of mine :) 

Jeanean-I haven't done re-blogs, and don't know if it's possible to do just one.  I'll check.  Like you I have been going around reading everything I missed yesterday.  The variety of issues, and solutions is what makes it so easy to help.  We can pick the area that we feel passionate about, and like Nike says "Just Do it".....just jump in and contribute...either time, resources, or money.  thank you Jeanean for being who you are, someone that cares :)

Jo-thank you for taking the time to read and comment.  Yes it is heart wrenching, I hate to see children suffer.  All over the world, next door and miles away children suffer.  My life has been spent advocating and helping children......and there just seems to always be more. 

 But if all of us did something, even just giving a smile to a child that appeared to be in need of one....than we are helping.  If each of us would try not to judge the child that uses foul language and has dirty clothes.......if each of us would teach our children and Grandchildren compassion and tolerance.....these FREE Gifts would help.  Everyone of us matters, and everyone of us can help.

Oct 16, 2008 09:01 AM
Sylvie Conde
Sutton Group-Associates Realty Inc., Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Broker, Toronto Real Estate

Kathy, this is something I 'work on' throughout the year.  I tend to give more 'gifts' during special holidays, but I do my part, or try really hard, to do something all the time.

Whether it's clicking online to give a cup of food ... (costs us nothing) ...

http://www.thehungersite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=1

... or buy a gift of an animal (or 5), to a family that needs it the most, in order for them to be able to run their own small business (whether it be with some chickens to lay eggs, and sell, to buy other food, or a cow to provide milk and work in the fields) ....

https://catalogue.worldvision.ca/Gifts/Forms/Category.aspx?name=animals

... or raising funds for our local high school, for the hot meal program...
Yes, even here, in a large, fairly rich City, children go hungry every day ...

... or buying a few extra cans of food every week for the Food Bank ...

... or collect Winter clothes from those who have too much, and give to those who have nothing ...

... or go through my closet every year, and give two or three items - whether or not I've used them before ...

I try to do something, all the time.  
I keep hoping that if all of us did ONE little thing ... just one ... we would help save at least one child.

As a single parent, I worry every single day, whether or not I'll be able to provide for my son.
I think that if I could not provide, and no one cared, he'd starve.  At minimum, he'd go hungry, and I can't stand the thought ... 

So I give, as much as I can ... sometimes more than I can afford ...  hoping it will feed a child for just another little while ... until someone else can help/give....

Oct 16, 2008 10:28 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Sylvie- I am so glad you came here and left those links.  I saw your comment about buying an animal on one of the other Poverty Blogs, and I liked that idea a lot.  So many times I saw the people with a chicken, goat or cow be able to feed their families when others couldn't. 

I must tell you I am very very impressed with you, even more than I was before :)  I like that you don't just help one or 2 days a year, because as you said there are small things we can do without even really having to sacrifice.  Those extra 2 cans of food for instance, or the clothing.  Yes, there is always something we can do.

Your son is very lucky.....

Oct 16, 2008 12:19 PM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI
(RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE

The whole world has their poverty levels. How they exploited those like the children above is really due to not being educated. That's like the lepers on the other island back in the old days. They were literally abandoned....and they were in poverty in it's own form as well.

I often wonder why some would rather fear than find out and help. Thanks for the story ....of yet another form.

Oct 16, 2008 01:26 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Sally- what a great analogy.....the lepers.  I thought the same thing when I read your Post on the lepers and that priest that stayed with them. Lack of education is truly the cause. That's why I like blogging so much, it's a way to reach more people. 

Oct 16, 2008 01:32 PM
Rebecca Levinson, Real Estate Marketing and Online Advertising Consultant
Real Skillz-Clear Marketing for Your Real Estate Vision - Lake Geneva, WI

Kathy,

Any cause with children just speaks to my soul.  THANK YOU for the education on NGO's.  I am going to look into the resources you sent.  Being sedintary is not an answer and like they say, "If your not a part of the solution, your part of the problem."

Oct 16, 2008 07:12 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Rebecca- I like your philosophy.  One thing I might add are there are many, many good local NGO's that don't have a big name, but do good work.  If they have written a grant proposal for a Project it could be they are seeking funds from one of these big Charities.  

Another very good resource is the Peace Corps.....Volunteers are always trying to find resources for their projects...building a well, school supplies, new school, environmental issues, children with AIDS, orphaned children, women that have been sold into slavery, street children, drugs....you name it we needed money to help fund it.  I want to thank you for caring...

Oct 17, 2008 04:08 AM
Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula
Realty Works Temecula - Temecula, CA
Realty Works Temecula

Kathy, I give $150.00 per month to World Venture but am going to increase it because I don't really do anything else for any charities.  Thanks for the awareness.  I'll bet it was heartbreaking working directly with the children.  I know what you mean that now they know they have nothing.  I can see how that would work.  I could not get involved either it would be painful for me also. 

Oct 17, 2008 11:41 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Jane- That is great that you give...:)  I have worked with kids my whole life, but this group was so different.  We don't have Orphanages here, and thank God we have some child protection rules that they didn't have there.

Oct 17, 2008 12:16 PM
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

Just read this again Kathy - its so moving - your line " One of the biggest mistakes I made with these children was in using my American frame of reference to "help" them.  In many ways we do more harm than good because these kids, and their culture, are so different" really hit home.......so very true....

Oct 17, 2008 05:44 PM
Lola Audu
Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate - Grand Rapids, MI
Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI ~Welcome Home!

Thanks Kathy,  I'll post the link on the message board for Global Nomads.

Oct 18, 2008 03:11 PM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Liz-Hindsight can be so rewarding, but does nothing to repaira any damage that's already been done.

Lola-Thanks.....I have also added a click-able link to a site that helps feed the poor for FREE, just for clicking it.  One of our friends in Canada Sylvie Conte first Posted the link, and we will put it on all our Posts from now until Thanksgiving to help give more exposure.

Oct 18, 2008 05:05 PM
Chuck Willman
Chuck Willman - Alpine, UT
NewHouseUtah.com

Kathy- Thanks so much for posting this. My heart goes out to all those whose lives consist of wondering where the next meal will come from. It's not that difficult to become a part of the solution... with many contributing we can make a very real impact on hunger.

Oct 30, 2008 07:51 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate

Chuck- We certainly can help with trying to feed the hungry.  I remember once when these kids were fighting each other for some bread-1/2 loaf that someone was handing them through the fence....it was surreal.

Oct 31, 2008 07:52 PM