I haven't forgotten you Marvin!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

Marvin Glover

I met Marvin the first time around 1995 or 1996.  I was with an agent who worked for me at the time named Shirley Howard.  We were out snooping around a neighborhood that had a house burn the previous evening.  We were trying to see which house it was, find out if they would be rebuilding, selling, you know typical real estate agent nosiness.

We happened on Marvin Glover in his fireman uniform.   He was telling us how the fire started and about the "oh crap" moment when they discovered the gas grill gas tank... right after it blew up. 

Marvin was retired from Bellsouth and lived on the lake.  Shirley already knew him and was friends with him and his wife Brenda.

Well Marv and I became friends and he stopped by my office one afternoon to ask about selling real estate.  I told him I thought he'd be just fabulous at it, he was very much a "people" person.  He knew the lake well and even had been a fishing guide on Lake Sinclair.  His phone number's last 4 digits were FISH.   Marvin didn't get his license right away.  In fact 8 and half years ago he had "political" aspirations and that's when we got to be really good friends.

Funny story... When Marvin was in the "thinking about it" stages of running for county commissioner I put a sign up on my reader board at the office that said "RUN MARVIN RUN".  I was sitting in the office on Friday afternoon when a young woman came in the office and started swearing at me about the sign.  She was waving her hands and ranting about me having no say if Marvin married her friend or not.  Turns out it was another Marvin that was supposed to marry her friend the next day.  I finally got this point across to her after she yelled at me for about 3 straight minutes. 

Marvin got a huge kick out of this. Marvin ran for office and didn't win.  Our county ... well... I'm not going to make this post political, it's about Marv.

Well Marvin did get his real estate license in 2001.  He quickly became a million dollar producer and he connected well with clients.  He did take Wednesday and Thursday off to play golf. 

In 2004 Marvin began to get sick.  I'm not exactly sure when the diagnosis came maybe in 2005.  But the news was awful.  It was Alzheimer's.  Marvin was born in 1945, so he was a very young man.  Even after Marvin's diagnosis he continued to work for a while.  He sold his last home for Lane Realty in February of 2006.  In March the day came when I knew and it was the hardest thing I had to do, that Marvin really was no longer safe to be showing property.  I called his wife and we talked about it.  She called the Alzheimer's support lady who helped make the transaction from Marvin working to Marvin making application for disability as smooth as possible.

 

These photos were taken February 28, 2007.  A year later than Marvin left work.  The fall of 2006 I started construction on a new office building and Marvin kept tabs on it.  When he had to stop driving and his wife Brenda ( on the right in picture just left)

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had to start doing all the driving, she would drive him down the to the office when he asked.  We were in the new office on the day these photos were taken. 

<----- This one is Marv and ME in my office. 

Marvin was the happiest person I've ever heard of with Alzheimer's.  He just willingly turned over the keys to Brenda for his Harley, his Tahoe and finally even the lawnmower with never a cross word.  I can't tell you exactly when, but over the last year Marvin stopped talking.  First he just talked less and less, then finally he stopped being able to talk at all. Brenda and a circle of great friends worked tirelessly and kept Marvin at home right until the end.  He was happy and in familiar surroundings.  The summer of 2007 the news got worse for Marvin and Brenda.  Marvin was diagnosed with a second terminal disease of ALSor Lou Gehrig's Disease. It wasn't long after that second diagnosis that Marvin was totally bedridden.  I went to see him often.  I still always told him what was going on at the office.  I still always knew when Marv looked me in the eye, he knew me.  I'm grateful for that.

Marvin's brief life ended last year, one year ago today.  I have cried many times over the past year because I miss Marv, and I'm sure I'm not done.

I have many fond memories of Marvin.  Things like him calling me from his birthday party at 2 am asking me to work for him the next day.  Campaigning with and for him, helping him write his first contract.  Marvin did me a ton of favors and helped wire the old office when we got a new phone system, in fact in June of 2002 Marvin drove me to the church the day I married the love of my life (Donald). 

Marvin Glover February 17, 1945 - October 25, 2007.

In that small dash between those dates Marvin touched many lives, mine included.  I just wanted to say that I still miss you Marvin.  I still value your opinion and share your political views.  I still DO NOT want to watch the history channel.  Thanks for the fun times we shared, and Marv... I'll see you again someday.

 

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Maria Morton
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Tammy, Marvin's story brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for remembering your friend.

Oct 25, 2008 06:34 AM #1
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Angelia Garcia
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Tammy,

you were such a good friend to Marv.  He appreciated it, I'm sure.  Thanks for remembering Marv and letting us share in that .

Oct 25, 2008 06:37 AM #2
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Tammy Lankford,
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Maria- Thanks for letting me share my thoughts about Marvin with you.  I don't know if you believe in ghosts or not, but every now and again Marvin stops by and changing my TV to the history channel.  That was the one thing we agreed to disagree about. 

Angelia- Thanks for sharing it with me.  Today was is hard.  I remember when he went to vote the last time... in our governor's race two years ago... He was sure to have Brenda let me know he voted for "our" guy.  Marvin and I shared political views and could go on about that for hours on end.

Oct 25, 2008 07:30 AM #3
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Marie Westerman
Blanchard and Calhoun Real Estate/ Wilson Parker Homes - Evans, GA
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I can say nothing more THAN THANK YOU!! Tammy you and your heart are great!

Oct 26, 2008 02:12 PM #4
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Marie- Good people in our lives always lead to us becoming more and better people.  I'm glad I've met you as well.

Oct 26, 2008 02:21 PM #5
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Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
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What a lovely tribute, Tammy. It's hard when people leave us. Especially those who have left a deep impression on our lives as it sounds like Marvin did with you.

P.S. Here's an unrelated tip, Tammy, that I've been meaning to mention. When you upload a photo, if you click the "appearance" tab, you have many more options for layout, one of which is the horizontal. Enter a "5" in that box, and your text will magically move to give white space around your photo. :)

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Oct 27, 2008 04:32 AM #6
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Elizabeth- Thanks for the tip, I have been trying to remember to put a 3 in there, but I sometimes click and bam it's done.  I have also tried to go back and edit and that doesn't seem to always work for me.  I'll put a post it on my screen.

And yes, Marvin touched my life.  We had so much in common and I trusted him and I know he trusted me.  Speaking at his memorial service was one of the hardest things I have ever done.  When so many of his friends didn't come around (and his adult children) near the end because it was "hard" for them to "see Marvin like that" he knew that I would be there right until the end.  The day before he passed (at like 5 am) I leaned over him in his hospital bed and told him that his friends would look after Brenda and that it was okay to just let go.  He fought so hard to stay here for so long.  He had a feeding tube the last 6 months.  He stayed because he loved Brenda so and he was worried about her being without him.  She's done great this past year.  She has lots of great friends.

Oct 27, 2008 07:08 AM #7
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Susan Mangigian
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This is very touching.  Marvin sounds like a wonderful man. xxoo

Dec 02, 2009 09:45 AM #8
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Tammy Lankford,
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He certainly was.  When he purchased the plots where he is buried and Brenda will be some day he told me that they were right up next to the highway, one I drive on often.  He said he'd be watching to make sure I thought of him and blew the horn when I drive by.  I can't imagine what the other cars on the road think when I blow my horn when I drive by.

Dec 02, 2009 09:52 AM #9
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Susan Mangigian
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My sister's husband died many years ago at the age of 43.  He used to work at the Philadelphia Navy Yard and I say hi to him every time I drive past there. 

Dec 02, 2009 09:59 AM #10
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