How to Raise Your Standards until You Are Inspired By Them
These are the strategies to keep tolerations at bay. You'll want to adapt these to fit for your personality and situation, of course, and add new ones that work best for you. But, it's a place to begin your thinking.
Outsource your problems.
Personal or business problems, dilemmas or confusion can all be out-sourced. By that, I mean that you can hire someone who understands the nature of the problem and help you fix it in relatively short order.
Bring in help.
Most tolerations are caused because we are too busy or tired to take care of things properly when they occur and thus be become a toleration. Bring in a house cleaning service, hire a professional organizer to get your papers in order, work with a trainer to handle your body, get someone to baby-sit you each week if you have to, as you clean up your clutter. Hire the neighborhood kid for gardening, have the store deliver your food for you, have someone 'on call' for concierge duties/errands. It's all do-able IF you're willing to stop suffering.
Understand the nature and source of toleration.
Tolerations don't just happen by themselves -- something causes them.
See the "good" in the toleration.
Tolerations can have some real benefits, even if they are ultimately costly. Think of the oyster with the bit of sand or shell that irritates it. The byproduct can be a beautiful pearl. The question to ask yourself is "Can I afford the cost of this toleration?" Sometimes the answer is yes and sometimes it is no. You don't have to eliminate tolerations just because you notice them.
Involve your partner/friends.
Getting rid of tolerations can be a lonely task if everyone around you doesn't understand what you're talking about.I highly recommend you find one or two key people in your life who are open to this focus for the next 6 months and then both of you can support each other.
Adopt the TFZ mantle.
This may seem obvious, but we believe that just by starting to call yourself a TFZ (Toleration-Free Zone) that you start to change and will start to tolerate less
Restore your integrity.
If you've got cracks in your integrity, you are providing a feeding ground for tolerations. Think of a crack in the asphalt. Come winter when ice forms, the crack will get wider. And then comes a heavy truck and "all of a sudden," you've got a pothole in the street. I put all of a sudden in quotes, because we all know that potholes don't just happen. They start with a crack. It is the same with tolerations. They start in the cracks and crevices of where your integrity isn't strong.By integrity, I mean what "you're doing that is not the best for you." You restore integrity by telling the truth and then putting that truth into action by changing yourself, your behavior and/or your environment.When your integrity is strong, you have very few tolerations -- there is no place for them to 'start.'
Raise your standards and extend your boundaries.
Most of us put up with things because our standards or boundaries are too weak. Too much stuff comes in through our filters (boundaries) over the transom (our standards). The trick is to increase both, which better filters out the thousands of events or things during the day that can stick to you or your environment and become a toleration.
Recognize the opportunity costs that tolerations carry.
There is a cost to everything. You can measure this cost in several ways -- the cost of time it's taking you to read this, or the financial cost of maintaining your lifestyle or the physical cost of stress to your body.There is also a type of cost called an opportunity cost. In other words, it's the opportunitiesthat you cannot have because you are currently working on/benefiting from the opportunities younow have.
Simplify your life.
One of the best ways to reducing tolerations is to simplify your life. Complex lives create lots of particles to manage and that can go wrong. A simple life reduces the chance that you'll have lots to tolerate. Some people think that you can't have a rich life if it's simple one. A simple life IS generally quieter, but rich in the subtleties.
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