Mortgage and Lending with Universal American Mortgage Company, LLC dba Eagle Home Mortgage – Mortgage Broker/Lender License # MBL-7679, NMLS # 1058 NMLS#114292

I have 2 teenagers at home.  I'm not sure if that makes me crazy or invincible.  One of the biggest lessons we are trying to teach our kids is about "respect."  It seems like almost every situation we or they are involved with can be simplified with a quick lesson about "respect."  My kids are so used to this discussion that they refer to it affectionately now as the "R" lecture.  I often wish I could give the "R" lecture to friends, family, clients and colleagues.

• If you need information, please ask for it.  Don't demand it.

• If you get asked for information, please deliver it when expected. Don't procrastinate.

• If you know a client it working with another lender or Realtor, please respect that. Don't pretend you don't know.

• If friends tell you something, please keep it confidential.  Don't gossip about it.

• If you are reminding your kids to do their chores, please ask them (maybe a little more assertively, especially if it's for the 3rd time).  Don't order them.  I have to remind myself of their selective hearing.

-     Our reminders can go on and on...

It seems to me that "Respect" and the Golden Rule go hand in hand, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."  We can all use a little reminder!

Posted By: Melissa Drollinger - Idaho Home Mortgage Consultant located
in Southwest Idaho with an office in Meridian, Idaho. Specializing in Conventional,
FHA, VA, Idaho Housing First Time Homebuyer program and
USDA Rural Development Loans.


Comments (6)

George Tallabas
RE/MAX Advantage - Nampa, ID
Idaho Real Estate

Good stuff my friend and the Golden Rule and respect is what it is all about.

Nov 11, 2008 08:05 AM
Tim and Pam Cash
Crye-Leike (Sango) - Clarksville, TN
Real Estate Professionals - Clarksville TN

It seems to me that "Respect" and the Golden Rule go hand in hand, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."  We can all use a little reminder!

Melissa, that statement says it all.

Nov 11, 2008 09:25 AM
Kurt Duffeck
ANEW Real Estate Crew at Keller Williams Realty - Austin, TX
Anew Real Estate Crew - Start Right. Start ANEW.

Hi Melissa,

Great conversation to have with you children! It seems that this is all common sense stuff, yet sadly these rules are often AWOL in our society...  

Nov 24, 2008 04:09 AM

It seems we find ourselves in very similar situations.  My 16 year old son reminds me a lot of myself at that age when my self-absorbtion made it difficult to be attentive and respectful of others.  I like your rules of Respect and can definitely identify with the ones I could be better at.  Thanks for post.  I'll be keeping my eyes on future ones.

Nov 24, 2008 10:30 AM
Charles Paden
Keller Williams - Yonkers, NY

Hello Melissa,

OUr parenting skills are very similar.  I don't believe in yelling or hitting my children.  Every now and then I will have a discussion on respect.  I don't wait for them to do something wrong for me to have a heart felt discussion on respect.  Both of my children show me a great deal of respect and I in trun show them respect. 

Children learn a valuable lesson when they understand how to respect themselves and others.  Unlike other horror stories I hear from other parents about their teenage children, I have no problem at all with my children.  Respect and love is what I talk about most.

God Bless You

Nov 24, 2008 10:41 AM
Mobile Austin Notary
Apostille/Authentication/Embassy Legalization, Notary Public, Loan Signing Agent & Process Server Services - Austin, TX

This is something that everybody in business needs to remeber. Thanks!Butterfly

Dec 02, 2008 04:47 PM