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Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty

Such an ugly word isn't it? 

Maybe I've been sheltered but I've never really felt that word before nor have I used it. HATE is such a strong lonely word...thinking about it makes me incredibly sad.

Today for the first time in my life I "felt" hate.  Hard, Cold, Ugly, Hate and it made me more than sad, it made me mad and it brought me to tears.

My small town buried a war hero today, a fallen child, a human being, who fought and died in Iraq. He was newly married and a real nice guy by all accounts. He gave his life and left behind a family who loved him dearly. I didn't know him personally but I felt the incredible sadness of his death.

This is not a Political/Religious Post nor is it a War Protest post...please  I ask that you don't turn it into such. This is a post about Hate...simply hate.

I had the mid day shift in my office in Hampstead New Hampshire. My office is located right in the center of town...next to a church and school.

The funeral was scheduled for 1 pm today. I believe nearly the entire town showed up and then some. At about 11:00 a.m. we were notified that there would be a protest, an anti-war demonstration and that they would be on the public walkway in front of our office.

They had a "right to protest and be heard" and we had no choice as to allow them to do their thing, freedom of speech, public property...they had the right.

To say we were upset puts it mildly...embarrassed that during a funeral of a local boy...people would do this...we just didn't understand but we were resigned to whatever would happen.

ProtesterI've seen news accounts of these types of things...but the TV was somehow a barrier a safe barrier.  I know these things are very real but I never expected this. 

It was small scale with only 3 protesters and many more police. I watched from the safety of my window...my insulation slipping away slowly. 

I could not believe what I was seeing...what the signs said. I mean someone was being buried here, people, humans had broken hearts here and these people were spewing hateful things for all to see and hear. 

Could these people possibly be local people?? I had to find out.

I took out my camera and went outside with another lady.  Real ugly hate filled our little street corner. I made the mistake of saying "aren't you ashamed of yourself doing this?" I can't repeat what was said back to me by a woman who delighted in verbally attacking me.  But I looked hate in the eye today...I've never seen what hate looked like, up close like that.

These 3 "people" were flown in by a "church" from the mid-west (Kansas) to spread the word...and it was sickening.Protest in Hampstead

I can't seem to shake the stench. I'm not sure what they were protesting and the reaction of the towns people was shock and dismay.

Some people drove by blowing horns and some gesturing with their fingers but nothing bothered these people. 

Finally a man...very gruff looking came walking up, he seemed to come out of nowhere, carrying a huge American flag and he stood in our parking lot about 15 feet away from the protesters. He stood there holding the flag all alone.

We didn't know what he was up to...was he one of them?  Then the police came and talked to him...he stayed and held that flag tightly.  Suddenly, other people joined him in our parking lot and they stood together with his large flag between them. They just stood quietly by, while hate was delivered in their direction.

Our parking lot crowd grew, the protesters seemed to shrink, maybe it was all my imagination but they seemed to get smaller.

Pride filled my heart, even while it was breaking, for the pain this group of protesters were causing.

the guy with the flagSuddenly an officer went over to the protesters and they packed it up...apparently they only had a permit to protest an hour and a half. Then the people in our parking lot started to dissipate and our Admin went out to thank the big guy holding the flag. He told her all we can do is out number them

Hate...what a waste of an emotion. I saw hate today and it was as ugly as I had imagined it to be. But, I have never heard nor imagined that such disturbing rantings could come from the mouths and hearts of fellow human beings.

The stench is overwhelming and the sadness is suffocating. They left a part of me that will never be the same.

Edited to insert a photo of the guy with the flag. I have no idea who he is but he was soon joined by other people. 

Edited April 26 2007

The Guy with the Flag is a member of the Patriot Guard Riders (PGR). His name is Frank and I'll be meeting him tomorrow. He and the other members of the Patriot Guard Riders have turned into hero's for many people throughout the country and overseas.  Symbols of hope and bright shiny stars that guided us on a dark day in Hampstead New Hampshire as I'm sure, they have done on other equally dark days throughout the country.

updated to add link

Flag Man Found  4/29.07

updated Nov 3 2007 to add links and update this story

Like A Rock ode to the Patriot Guard Riders 

Verdict- The Wicked Get Whacked 

Jay and Monika McGillicuddy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Comments(154)

Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker
Linda...Thank you for your heart felt comment!  I cried again just remembering that day. How sad those people must be to do such a thing. I will never understand them!  The PGR and Frank the flag man really made a difference for us that day. What a wonderful group of patriots the Patriot Guard Riders are!  Thank you Linda!
Jul 11, 2007 01:16 PM
Elizabeth Nieves
The Elizabeth Nieves Realty Group - Durham, NC
Bilingual Raleigh - Durham North Carolina Real Estate Team
Monika, I don't know what I can say that others have not already said...but still...I need to say something. YOUR WORDS...The stench is overwhelming and the sadness is suffocating...perhaps say it all. I've seen hate all of my life, and it is my mission to fight it...and to stir others to fight against it. Thanks for sharing from your heart...thanks for stirring our souls. God bless YOU!
Oct 26, 2007 02:09 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area
Thank you Elizabeth. I appreciate your comments and I have read some of your posts...talk about emotion you sure do know how to convey it with your writing.  Thank you so much!
Oct 28, 2007 02:33 PM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent
I thought this might interest this thread to know: Penalty
Nov 01, 2007 09:51 PM
Maureen McCabe
HER Realtors - Columbus, OH
Columbus Ohio Real Estate
I think Monika wrote a full entry about it the other day Chris.  I heard it from Monika b4 I heard about it on the news. 
Nov 01, 2007 11:24 PM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Thanks Chris! I am so happy to know that they got punished. I really hope it stops them.

Maureen...I found out on Wednesday and had to blog it.  My e-mail has been full of people telling me about it.

Nov 02, 2007 10:30 AM
Maureen McCabe
HER Realtors - Columbus, OH
Columbus Ohio Real Estate
I thought of you when I saw it on the news... how I already knew about it because of you and ActiveRain.
Nov 02, 2007 10:35 AM
Kathy McGraw
CELLing Realty - White Water, CA
Riverside County CA Real Estate
Wow.....so many comments....and such a powerful Post.  I am happy that Frank (the man with the flag) was found, and I learned a lot from Scott in Tennessee......
Nov 03, 2007 09:00 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Kathy...The comments on this post are incredible. Many are from the public and many more e-mailed me privately. Somehow this post really did travel the world. The woman whose back is in the photo is the woman who was interviewed on TV last night. Very scary. Frank aka Mr McGruffy was awesome!

Maureen...As soon as that verdict came in...my e-mail was full of people letting me know about it. When I saw it on the net I knew it was for real. Too bad the family probably won't be able to collect.

Nov 03, 2007 09:12 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Kathy...If your still here...check out this post about the PGR and be sure to play the video.

http://activerain.com/blogsview/191491/Like-A-Rock-Patriot

 

 

Nov 03, 2007 09:31 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life
Monika - What an amazingly powerful post & thread!
Jan 02, 2008 09:00 AM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate
Monika, amazing post, so many people outside the rain commented, so grateful to Ines for featuring this in Year in Review. I was barely learning my way around in April.
Jan 02, 2008 09:55 AM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent
Monika, this is one of my top three all time favorite posts.  Second is your blog about Jay and his birth mother.  You have 66% share of my favorites.  (number three is my diaper post, just to balance out the whole thing, lol!)
Jan 02, 2008 09:57 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area
Jason...Thank you so much for stopping by and reading my post. It did get a lot of intense reaction from all over the world. To this day Jason, I still get e-mails from it.
Jan 02, 2008 10:59 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area
Missy...Thank you so much for stopping by. I'll never forget that day or the emotions it brought out.
Jan 02, 2008 11:05 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area
Chris...Thank you so much. LOL...I loved your Diaper post!
Jan 02, 2008 11:08 AM
Jay McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Exeter, NH
Real Estate Broker
Chris yours and Monika's are all #1 in my readings.
Jan 02, 2008 12:35 PM
Kevin Robinson
Twin Falls, ID
Fractional Developer

As a a former soldier I totally agree with you. Members of our armed forces take pride in protecting our liberties, even for those we disagree with, but fallen soldiers deserve to be put to rest with peace. Those protestors were out of line.

The fact that they call themselves believers is ludicrous. Believers in some kind of 60's mindest possibly. Hopefully they will just go away.

Mar 28, 2008 03:09 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Prudential Verani Realty - Atkinson, NH
NH Real Estate Broker

Hard to believe it's been nearly a year since I wrote this post and since Jonathan Grassbaugh died on April 7 2007.

RIP Jonathan.

 

Kevin...Thank you for stopping by...I missed seeing your comment and yes those "people" were way out of line. I hope no one ever has to encounter them...they are simply hateful.

 

Apr 14, 2008 12:44 PM
Thesa Chambers
West + Main - Bend, OR
Principal Broker - Licensed in Oregon

I am ashamed to say I too have witnessed this "church" in action - what a sad commentary as to what free speech can be - I am certain our fore fathers never intended this.  Hate can be used for good - this will impact you and others - if nothing else - it will remind you to never treat another like this -

Nov 07, 2008 06:09 AM