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COMMENTING  --  can be such a colorful word in so many ways. What can commenting mean and how can it be so colorful?  In my opinion, here are the different types of comments that I know of....

  • polite comments -  nice job, thanks for sharing, excellent idea, etc, etc
  • thought provoking comments aka discussion comments - the comment can either be pro or con.... but you either add information to the authors blog, to other comments, or keep a conversation going....
  • negative comments - you are just flat out rude. You try to bring someone down. You rip their blog apart. (I actually like when someone does this to me. Some people say delete the comment. I won't and I will explain why later)
  • the feedback comment (could be construed as negative) -  Not sure what to really call this kind of comment. You disagree with the author of the blog or that of another comment.  You offer your advice or knowledge or let the other person know that what they said is not correct.
    • Some people say not to make this kind of comment at all.
    • Some say send that person an e-mail if you are correcting the author of that blog.
    • I say if you do it in a polite manner, if could actually create a discussion.
  • reciprocating comments -  here is one of the biggies. I will admit, I use to be good at this one. It takes time and effort, if you leave a real sincere comment and not just the "nice blog" comment. But do you reciprocate comments? If you feel that you don't get enough comments, besides writing a quality blog or starting off with an eye catching title, you should read what TLW wrote : Have you considered reciprocating your comments?

  • disabling comments - some members dislike this and others use it like the plague. I usually don't care for those that disable comments. Margaret Woda makes some great arguments to why you should think before you disable your comments. Please read :  Before you disable comments, consider this...

  • Hijacking a blog -  There are some good hijackings and then not so good. Hijacking can be fun and amusing, when done at the right time. Amanda Hall wrote, The Art of Hijacking a Blog  For those that don't know, hijacking a blog would be leaving a comment that is off topic, not related to the blog. Many of these are usually humorous.
  • the lame comment or  the 'cut & paste comment' (thanks to Carole P.) -  This could also be the polite comment. But when someone says nice job and that is about it? And you notice that this same member leaves the same comments on other blogs? I call that lame, looking for their 25 pts. That they cut and paste their comments all over. Yes, it happens.
  • the link comment aka comment spamming - your comment might or might not have any relevancy to the blog that you are commenting on.... but much of your comment is a link to your site or to something that you are selling. This is extremely rude and not warranted amongst most bloggers.
  • the link comment, but not spamming - some people prefer that you don't leave links to other blogs or articles in the comments. I think if it truly pertains to their blog post and adds content, that it should be okay. No matter if it's a link to your blog or someone elses.  I will say this, I will do this more so if I know the author of the blog. But comment etiquette says..  ask the author of the blog post no matter what, if they mind or not. Either in the comment itself or in an e-mail.
  • the 'I dislike you as a member' comment - you might dislike a certain member or 2, but they write an excellent blog, that you want to give them a good comment in return. You want to pay it forward, no matter how you feel about that author. Or possibly giving your honest feedback, because they caught your attention.  Hey, you can't get along with everyone, but I do try to practice this... Or mention them in my blogs even, again, paying it foward.....
  • the anonymous comment - (just added) Thanks to Bill Archambault's comment :  the long winded comment (please click link to read)  Another pet peeve of mine. Those that want to complain or leave a negative comment, but under a false name or that they don't sign in. Thanks Bill...
  • the 'link love' comment -  Have you ever found a blog because someone else actually mentioned it in their blog post?  And you decide to read this blog that the author link to and comment on it?  I try to practice this.. but how about telling that author that you found their blog because of x,y,z member mentioned it in their post. And while doing this, you link back to the other blog.... another term for this would be paying it forward.
  • the 'churn & burn' comment - (just added at 3 pm 11/17)  Now, this one might ruffle some feathers, but I have been known to speak my mind. Not all of you will agree to this or have a different perspective... but this is where the author of the blog replies back to every comment, but in single comment fashion. I say it's one way to game how many comments it looks like your blog received. I personally prefer grouping the comments in one comment as much as possible. Some say they do the single comment because they don't want to be rude to the person commenting, giving them their own comment. Me? I could care less, at least they are replying to my comment. Again, this is just my opinion based on having no martinis at that time.
  • the 'did you even read my blog' comment -  Thanks to Lisa Hill. I forgot about this one...  how about those that don't even read your blog, yet they comment. And in several cases, you can tell by their comment, that they didn't read the blog. I have seen some way off base when commenting. You find this more from spammers if anything. But there are still those that don't read, yet comment. 25 pts?


Tina Merritt gives us 10 reasons in regards to commenting - The 10 Commandments of Commenting




Do you hang yourself when you comment or when you don't comment???


My biggest 2 pet peeves ......

1.  Featured posts - Those blogs that are featured and the author doesn't reply to the comments. Your blog was recognized. You will get more action on that particular blog. It's in the spotlight, the limelight. What a great way to thank those that stopped by your blog. What a great way to possibly get more readership in the future.

2. Comments that are questions or thought provoking - I dislike nothing more when I leave a thought provoking comment or ask a question, and that author doesn't answer the question or continue the conversation. What another great way to get more comments and readership... possibly more subscribers to your blogs.




Rude comments? Negative comments?  I said that I would talk about this. I welcome comments that attack my blog, that try to discredit my thoughts, opinions, or facts. ... especially my opinions that can be backed by facts or numbers. I think by someone trying to make me look bad and I am able to offer true hard facts with a great explanation of opinion, that it gives me more credibility. Possibly showcasing my expertise or expert knowledge.  What do thee se on this?


FYI.... I didn't want to make this blog to long and lose your interest.  But please click on this link, great comment/feedback, by Ann Cummings... Ann made some great points that I wanted to add in this post, but it would have been longer...



This blog is of my opinion and not the law of blog comments or written in stone. Just some of my own thoughts and those that have been around for a while. If you feel comfortable in how you comment, please don't change just because of me. This was just food for thought.....



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Lenn Harley
Lenn Harley,, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate - Leesburg, VA
Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland

I love comments and try to reciprocate.  We have "conversations" that are often better than the post.  If folks are going to take the time to comment, I'm going to take the time to read and try to keep up with commenting back.

Comments are like desert in a great restaurant.  You can enjoy and share. 


Nov 18, 2008 10:58 PM #83
Tom Burris
NMLS# 335055 - Baton Rouge, LA
Texas/Louisiana Mortgage Pro - 13 YRS Experience

Wow. Great conversation going on here.... 

Flagging this for feature. Not only is the content good, but the conversation is great too

Nov 19, 2008 12:58 AM #84
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Way to go, Jeff. You listed about every kind of comment known to man, but I'm sure someone will come up with more. I especially liked the way you referenced some of the other member's posts in your post. Good job. (Great post.) ha  ~Pat

Nov 19, 2008 02:20 PM #85
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans


DONNA..... . well, I think I could have gone into that field and use it at times in my every day life. And yes, one reason why I like AR also....  thanks.

CYNTHIA..... . yes, I would agree. As I mentioned to a few people... as I was writing this, I thought of more. And then several hours later, I added more. Thanks for the polite comment...

LENN..... . I know you do, which would be one reason why people read you, besides for the fact that you write good stuff. And I agree, you can enjoy and share... thanks for you input.

TOM..... .  hey, it's that Dallas loan guy who is the Texas FHA expert... lol   Seriously, thanks for the polite comment. I think there has been a great conversation that has taken place here.  Thanks for the flag, but from what I have seen, it won't work on this one. Especially since it's to old now by Active Rain's standards...

PAT..... . grea t comment... ha... lol  Seriously, thanks. And I am sure there could be a few more, but I think I covered most of them. Time will tell...


Nov 19, 2008 10:23 PM #86
Pam Graham
All Real Estate Options - Jacksonville, FL
Jacksonville, Clay & St Johns Counties

I hate seeing hijacked comments where people include the link and an advertisement of their business and doesn't really contribute to the conversation.

Nov 20, 2008 01:17 AM #87
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Pam:  That also bothers me... and when I see it... whether on my post or someone else's... I will usually stick my nose into it and tell the commentor that doing that is considered comment spam, and is against the Active Rain guidelines.  After about three or four times... they "get it" and usually stop.  It must be the former teacher in me... still thinking she is correcting kids in the classroom... LOL.

Nov 20, 2008 01:49 AM #88
AMBER NOBLE GARLAND - Top Real Estate Expert, Property Tax Appeal Specialist & Author
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Thanks for this help blogging etiquette breakdown Jeff. Btw, your point count is out-of-this-world!!! I'd love to know how many referrals you've generated via Activerain.


Nov 22, 2008 01:36 PM #89
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

A very detailed analysis Jeff - ! Its great to see so many different perspectives on 'commenting'....a common thread but a few variations!  Hmm never thought that individual comment responses meant you were trying to game the system? Why would that be - you don't get points for your own comments ?..........I like it when someone responds individually to them all at once seems a bit like a 'roll call' to me.......;-) 

Nov 22, 2008 04:27 PM #90
Jason & Amber Gardner
Hasson Company, Realtors - Sherwood, OR
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You have great information throughout your blog.  I enjoy coming by.  Honestly, I'm still trying to figure out why I leave so many and get so few?

Nov 23, 2008 05:43 PM #91
Karen Rice
Davis R. Chant, REALTORS - Hawley, PA
Northeast PA & Lake Wallenpaupack Home Sales

That Jason & Amber is the mystery of the universe.

Nov 23, 2008 10:02 PM #92
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans


PAM..... .  I am starting to get more of these, comments that don't pertain to my post with links. And some even come in and say, good job.. if you need my help, please click here... lol  Bye, bye...  I will copy their comment, color out the link, and put the comment back with a comment... lol

KAREN.... . I actually will do the same thing... if anything, I will let the author know and tell them to report it as spam... or I will notify AR. If someone just leaves me their outside blog site or web site, I will send them an e-mail explaining that this is spam.  thanks for your feedback.

AMBLER..... . my pleasure... I actually had a lot of fun coming up with a lot of different comments and coming up with a meaning for them. thanks.. and I sent you an e-mail about how many loans that I have closed just because of blogging. And a FYI... those points aren't what help me get referrals... quality blogs do. thanks


LIZ..... . thanks for the polite comment.  In regards to the single comments?  As I explained.... how I see it is it's a great way for someone to get curious to click onto your blog and to read it. I know people and I have done this before, if I see a blog that has like 80, 100, or 150 comments, it generally tells you that it must be a good post. I have also seen those same blogs with 100 comments and 50 of them were from the author of the blog. Sure, 50 comments is nothing to sneeze at... but what happens if you see 50 50 comments on a post and that sparks your interest, so you read it... it's not bad, so you leave a comment... and poof, the author now leaves a comment... gee, they are now up to 52...  does some of this make sense?

Me personally... I knew a few people that actually did this.. subconciously, I am sure more of us think about this. Besides, when you start to get a lot of comments, it takes to much time to even single them all out, let alone group them. Just my .02... and a FYI.. when you comment on your own blog, it doesn't give you points, but it does get added to your comments made stats. And some people boast about this...


JASON & AMBER.... . thank you very much for those kind words...  in regards to leaving so many and getting so view?  There are several reasons and or sometimes combinations. Timing for one thing....  not saying that you don't, but quality blogs are king... interesting content... dividing up your topics. I know some people that are one-sided or just two-sided. Some people's blogs have the same theme over and over. And overall, it's just getting recognized and a following... and yes, it comes with time in many cases... and there is also luck.  thanks for your feedback.

KAREN R. .... .  lol... yes, and I don't know who holds the key to that one...  I am sure some might have bought that key though... lol


Nov 24, 2008 03:23 PM #93
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

Yep Jeff I see your point......And I'm sure you know thats what I do.......I comment individually to each comment.......and since i don't read posts  because they have lots of comments......and hardly ever go to the 'featured posts dashboards''..actually sometimes those are the very ones i don't maybe i have a backwards approach to all of this?  No problem........there are lots of different ways to blog, comment and post ..lots of different topics, styles and personalities, and relationships........I appreciate your honesty and your candor.............and, I'll probably continue to comment on each comment individually....and if the odd person thinks I have different motives, thats o.k...too......well of course I'd rather they liked and enjoyed my style, and appreciated that I take the time to treat each comment and person as an individual.......but maybe I protesteth too much? lol..........ah well..:-)))

Nov 24, 2008 06:17 PM #94
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
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LIZ.... . again, this wasn't pointed at you....  but I would bet that some comment individually because it does rack up their comments count. I wouldn't say your approach is backwards... everyone is different.   I just personally think that someone saying that they comment individually out of respect for thwm coming to their blog to comment doesn't seem to add much to that statement. Me?  Just knowing that someone read my comment and replied back... me? who cares if I was bunched in a group.  Me? I get ticked when I left a question or a thought provoking comment and that person did respond. Now, if it was someone that gets 30 comments a day or per post, okay, it is tough... but someone that hardly gets anything daily?

On the same thought process... people miss a large point when it comes to blogging... nothing better to have a conversation going on in you the comments section of your blog post. But if you don't come back to engage with people.. at least in regards to myself, I won't go back in many cases to comment on your other blogs... just my feeling on that... thanks and happy thanksgiving...


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