Happiness is a Choice, a Habit, a Lifestyle

Real Estate Agent with Realty Executives Assoc

Have you smiled today?  I mean, have you really smiled in the way you smile when you find money?

Margaret Bonnano said, "It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis."  Funny and Poignant!!! 

For many of us, reality seems oppressive, mundane, boring, stressful, or bleak.  We may feel compelled to seek out fantasy or escape as a means of coping with a reality over which we feel little or no control.

Given the state of the housing market and the overall economy, many are feeling despair and mild depression.  Where did all those easy closings go?  Where are all the buyers?  Why is no one listing?

There are two ways of living life:  1.  Internal Locus of Control or 2. External Locus of Control.  If we have an external locus of control, we feel that life dominates us, that we have little or no control over circumstances, thoughts, or emotions.  Those with a external locus of control are highly dependent on the opinions and actions of others.  They seek to please and placate other.

If we have an internal locus of control, we feel that we have sufficient power to choose our thoughts and feelings.  Those with internal locus of control are not overwhelmed with fear or anxiety, feel stable, act as though they are worth something and are in control.  An internal locus of control gives one an empowered mindset that leads to self-determination and progress.

The market does not have the power to determine your mood, unless you allow it.  Only you control your thoughts and feelings and actions.  If the market is down, respond!!  Work smarter and harder in order to achieve the results you need.

If you have to take a temporary part-time job in this process, why not do it?  If you have to re-invest in marketing, why not do it?  If you need to write articles or meet more people or dress more professionally, why not do it?

You have the power!

Posted by

Richard D Barbee, M.Ed.

Investment Advisor Representative

Registered Representative

Slate, Disharoon, Parrish and Associates

9724 Kingston Pike #701

Knoxville, TN  37922





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Comments (2)

Lisa Friedman
Alliance Realtors - Bedminster, NJ
Central New Jersey Real Estate

Richard, I am really enjoying reading your posts and will subscribe to your blog.  We seem to have similar philosophies.

I like your quote "It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis."  That really strikes a chord with me.

Nov 21, 2008 06:49 AM
Leslie Prest
Leslie Prest, Prest Realty, Sales and Rentals in Payson, AZ - Payson, AZ
Owner, Assoc. Broker, Prest Realty, Payson,

My sentiments, exactly! I tell people that I'm a "cheerful cynic". I like my life, I'm basically a happy person. I don't expect too much from people, so I am happily surprised when someone does something nice.

Nov 21, 2008 07:33 AM

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