For two Friends About to Have to Make the dreaded Decision.

Real Estate Agent with West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate

Buddy VromaThis is for two friends of mine, one a new friend Marian Goetzinger another an old friend Deb Murray, who are in the position that they have to decide when is the best time to put their dog ddown. Is there ever a right time?

One of them just put a dog down that she rescued, a little yorkie named Pixie. As fate would have it, just a few months later, she may have to put down her beloved boxes named Willow.

Putting a dog down, a beloved friend, is one of the hardest things to do. I remember when our golden retriever got sick. He was the neighborhood dog. All the kids who couldn't have a dog, called Buddy theirs. Brianna, who lived directly behind us, couldn't have a dog because of allergies in the home. She was as heartbroken as our own children.

I remember praying that I would just wake up and he would have passed in his sleep. But no, my husband and I had to make the dreaded decision. They made the last appointment for us at Georgetown Animal Hospital in Hudsonville, MI and they closed the clinic down. We took him home to Conklin, MI to bury him because we lived in a sub-division. Our little maltese/shitzu went into mourning and we thought we were going to loose her to-she stopped eating. The next day a beautiful bouqet of flowers arrived from the vet clinic, in addition to flowers and cards from all the neighborhood kids.

So this is for you Deb and Marian. Please click on the link Dogs In Heaven.


Dogs In Heaven?

Lindsey and Willow about 5 years ago.



I don't claim to have written this. It has been around since before there was an internet. It gives me peace everytime I loose one of my companions. I hope it gives Marian and Deb a little peace in their hearts!


If you are relocating to West Michigan and have pet, please feel free to call me. This is one vet clinic I could not recommend more highly:

Georgetown Animal Hospital

2856 Port Sheldon St

Hudsonville, MI 49426 (616) 669-3612 No Web-Site

Comments (24)


Oh my heart goes out to them.  That is the hardest decision.  They truly are part of your family.


Nov 24, 2008 06:37 AM
Jack Feldmann
Clayton Inspection Service, Inc. - Knoxville, TN

Someone sent me that story when I had to put down Max a few years ago. It really helped me get through a very tough time. I got tears in my eyes just typing this. They are always in your heart. 

I will think of them during their pain.

Nov 24, 2008 06:50 AM
Barb & Sal Dragotta
Macomb, MI
Macomb County Michigan

Tami--How very true!  one must be a dog owner-lover to really get it! We had 5 dogs, 2 of whom were shelter dogs, the other 3 we purchased from the same Pet store--who would bring in animals that previously were in other homes. It was a little like the H.S.  Since all 5 were 'unwanted' in a first home, we always thought of them as gifts--not Free, from God.

Now, we have returned them to God--wonder if He finds them as funny as we did.  We also had 4 cats--3 were Free & 1 purchased from the same Per store.

The store is gone now, but earlier in our pet owner lives of 30 yrs. whenever we drove by the store on Harper in St. Clair shores, my husband, Sal would 'hiss'.  Obviously, I was the one who had purchased all of them , or in the case of 2 of the cats, accepted them from our Vet. Hosp at 12mi & Harper.

Love your blog & your name for it.


Nov 24, 2008 10:07 AM
Debi Ernst
St. Charles County, Missouri - Prudential Alliance Realtors - O'Fallon, MO
GRI, e-PRO, Broker/Sales Associate

Tami - I've been there when a horse was put down once.  He wasn't my personal horse, but I had ridden him many times.  It was so sad, but he was in pain, and it was for the best.  He was in his late twenties...

Nov 24, 2008 12:58 PM
Brigita McKelvie, Associate Broker
Cindy Stys Equestrian and Country Properties, Ltd. - Lehigh Valley, PA
The Broker with horse sense and no horsing around


I have had to put a few animals down in my lifetime.  It is never easy.  The hardest one was my first horse, Chanty.  He was 28 and did not fare well through the winter.  I had to put him down in March, 2002.  Not only did it hit me hard, but my Thoroughbred, Eddie, went into mourning also.  The 2 of them were the best of buds.  During this time we consoled each other and I think we have a much closer bond since then.  He considers me as part of his herd.  (Of course I am top horse in the pecking order.)


Nov 25, 2008 12:05 AM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate

Cheri - They sure are!!!  You know that now to girlfriend!

Jack- It is rare to find a man who will express himself with this kind of thing - you are one of a kind!

Barb & Sal - I personally would never buy a dog from a pet store  I want to see where they come from.  I want to know that they had a good beginning.   Your husbands actions gave me a smile - I am with him!

Debi - I know for Scout it will kill me when it happens, but I will be there by his side!!  He was beaten before I got him  It has taken so long to earn his trust.  Some horses you have to give an attitude adjustment or they WILL hurt you.  You have to be the pack leader.  In his case, all I have to do is yell at him and he shakes like a bowl of jelly.  The others, I smack them one and they look at me and laugh.

Brigiita - I know my day will come.  It is interesting how it is a different feeling with horses than dogs.  Let's face it, if they wanted to, they could really hurt us.  They carry us on their backs and keep us safe (hopefully).  I remember one time Scout was dancing around a little bit and I said "what is wrong with you" --I looked down and he had a wasp buried in his shoulder.  But I was his first concern- he didn't want to hurt me - he could have bucked but he didn't!!  I love him so much!!

Nov 25, 2008 12:19 AM
Ginger S
Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~

Tami, The day we had to let our beloved Dessie go home, was one of the worst days in my life. Dessie lived to a good old age for a large dog (15 1/2) Even so, it took me years to get past loosing her, and I was so afraid to get another dog and go through that pain again. God had other plans though and he sent Bella (the mascot of Its Raining Dogs Group) into out life in the spring of 2005. She is such a blessing but already over 7 years old. I have a hard time even thinking of life without her~Can't go there~I break up something awful~there is nothing on earth like the love & devotion of a good Dog!
have you read the Dog Lovers Year in Review Blog~ the stories will touch your heart, warm your soul, and caution: bring you to tears~


Nov 28, 2008 02:23 AM
Sharon Paxson
Compass - Newport Beach, CA
Newport Beach Real Estate

That is so sad - and it really is a difficult decision to make that I have made myself previously. Our animals live such a short time in comparison to human lives.

Nov 28, 2008 03:16 AM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate

Ginger - I did read that post!  I get really attached to my dogs also.

Nov 28, 2008 08:26 AM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate

Sharon - They do live such short lives compared to us   . . . .but oh the impact they have!!

Nov 28, 2008 08:26 AM
Betina Foreman
WJK Realty - Austin, TX
Realtor, C.N.E., with WJK REALTY

There is no such thing as a good time to euthanize your pet. It is the hardest decision one can make, but it is also a humane thing to do when the pet has no quality of life and is immobilized and or incontinent. According to my pet physical therapist often pets will struggle to appear well because they don't want to let you down. You are the only one that "knows" when the time is right. Consult with your vet and I am sure you will make the right decision. Good luck and may God's grace help you with the decision.



Dec 04, 2008 01:08 AM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate

Betina - Thank you for your input.  I know Marian's dog is doing better and they are going to hold off.  My other friend . . .well you would have to ready my Christmas MeMe--she has been through hell!

Dec 05, 2008 12:36 AM
Karyn Smith Woody
Harry Norman Realtors - Blairsville, GA

My Broker is currently having to deal with the decision over when to put down her German Sheperd. He is about 13 and has good days and bad. It's a heart wrenching decision. One of my dogs was injured about 1.5 months ago and I chose initially to try and save him. Once the vet examined him, I knew his chances weren't good but he was my baby and I didn't want him to suffer. I decided that if they called back and said it still wasn't good, I would put him down.  He didn't make it through surgery, which made it a little easier because he made the decision for me.Although it was extremely difficult to deal with, I took comfort in knowing he lived a great, happy life!

Dec 15, 2008 06:22 AM
Shawn Davis
Home Crossings, P.C. - Davison, MI
Homes For Sale, Genesee County, Michigan

This is sooo...sad and brings back memories of our Lab we had to put down several years ago.  I am so thankful for the staff at the Michigan State Animal Hospital for their support to me and the care that they provided for Christy.


Dec 26, 2008 12:06 AM
Jackie Kyles
Keller Williams Realty - Rock Hill, SC

It is amazing that the death of a beloved pet not only effects us but it is devastating to their animal companions. My 13 yr old malamute died 4 yrs ago and her companion, an aussie, has not been the same since. She had always been very outgoing but now she prefers to hide in my closet. She does come out but would rather lay in there with the kitten.

Dec 29, 2008 11:19 PM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate

Karyn - I am honestly glad the decision was taken from you!  It is so agonizing!  My heart goes out to your broker!

Shawn - I have had several friends take horses to MSU they are wonderful!

Jackie - I know how that feels.  When our dog Buddy died, our little dog stopped eating.  We almost lost her too!  I have heard the best thing to do is get another dog.  It gives them something to distract them from!

Jan 01, 2009 07:55 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I have a good friend who's almost there with her lab, Sampson.  She got him 15 years ago right before loosing her husband to cancer and she says it's just like loosing Ted all over again.  It's such are hard thing to do even when it's the best and right thing to do.

I had to put down a 13 year old cat right after a divorce and I was devestated.  I'll pray for your friends.

Jan 12, 2009 09:27 AM
Griselda Tealdo-Perez, REALTORĀ®, e-Pro, GRI, TRC
Coldwell Banker Real Estate - Miami Lakes, FL

Tami, it is extremely hard to make such a decision. Family dogs are just that: family. Those of us who have them know how bad a time like this is. It is good that at least they have supportive friends like you to be around them during such a hard and sad time.

Jan 13, 2009 08:36 AM
Melissa Tolson
Keller Williams First Coast Realty - Jacksonville, FL

It's amazing how attached we get to our animals.  I am dreading the day that I may have to make this decision for my little dachsund, and I can only hope that if the time comes, I have the strength to do what's right for her, and stay by her side.  Our dogs (and any pets) deserve our loyalty at the end, as they have been so loyal to us. 

I'm practically in tears over some of the stories people have shared.  My prayers for all those that are greiving over a lost pet....

Jan 14, 2009 09:13 AM
Tami Vroma
West Michigan Real Estate Specialist-Five Star Real Estate - Grand Haven, MI
Realtor, Grand Rapids MI Real Estate


Tammy - It is very hard to deal with.  I am so sorry for your friend!

Griselda - It sure is a hard decision.  I think it was especially hard for her because he was healthy!

Melissa - You sound like a very kind soul!

Jan 17, 2009 08:13 AM