Last Respects

Real Estate Agent with America's 1st Choice RH Realty Co., Inc.



I enjoy reading stories that impart words of wisdom; things we need to keep in mind as we travel through life.  Here's one that I really liked (and I wanted to share it with everyone):

Last Respects 

Author Unknown                                                                       

One day not too long ago the employees of a large company in St. Louis, Missouri returned from their lunch break and were greeted with a sign on the front door. The sign said: "Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym."

At first everyone was sad to hear that one of their colleagues had died, but after a while they started getting curious about who this person might be.

The excitement grew as the employees arrived at the gym to pay their last respects. Everyone wondered: "Who is this person who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he's no longer here!"

One by one the employees got closer to the coffin and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood over the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: "There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.

You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

NOTE:  This story is a reminder that we can overcome barriers and succeed.  The only limitations in life are the ones we place in front of ourselves.  We are capable of doing whatever we set our minds to do.  We can accomplish goals with the right plan and the right frame of mind.


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Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Jon, Great story!  Thanks for reminding us who is the most important agent of change in our lives!

Nov 29, 2008 01:42 AM #2
Randall Schrader
Competitive Insurance of Dundee - Dundee, FL

I have heard a similar story and it is 100% TRUE.  Things that effect us most are between our ears.

Did you hear the one about the fleas?  If you put fleas in a jar and put the lid on, they will learn to jump just short of the lid.  When you remove the lid, the fleas still stop short of freedom indefinitely.

We limit and empower ourselves for the most part.  But, far to many people believe otherwise and just idle through life.

Nov 29, 2008 01:42 AM #3
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

This is a great story and I want to share it with my nephews.  They are still at their point in their lives where they tend to blame a lot of others!  This is a great way to get the point across.

Nov 29, 2008 01:44 AM #4
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Jon, this is a very good message.  I've read this story before and I like it every time.  What I would love to read about is a recipe for just how to do it: HOW to change our ways.

Here are some ideas I've found helpful:

1.  Visualization:   Imagine yourself there already and see it vividly and often.  Just close your eyes and enjoy every detail of your destination in the most vivid details.

2.  Affirmations:  I typically have affirmations on my bathroom mirror.  Whatever you want to change about yourself, just do it with affirmations, statements that are positive, short and to the point.  For example, if you are a messy, disorganized person, put up the affirmation:  I am very organized.  Everything is in its rightful place.  If your home is not very clean, put up the affirmation:  I keep a clean home.  It is spotless.  Keep these affirmations in a conspicuous place where you'll see them many times during the course of each day.  Give it six months to a year for the changes to occur.  They will, I assure you!  These two affirmations I used myself about 15 years ago.  They've held for me ever since!  Now I'm working on being on time. 

3.  Model Behavior:  If you want to change, find someone who has the quality you seek and just hang around them long enough.  If you admire a top producer in your office, just ask if you can shadow that person regularly.  I actually have developed a position I call "Apprentice" within my company.  Within 8 months, every apprentice I've had becomes a top producer.

Wow!  Jon, see what you've done?  You've inspired me to write another blog.  My comment here inadvertently became a blog I will post shortly.  Thank you for the inspiration!

Nov 29, 2008 02:18 AM #5
Li Read
Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring) - Salt Spring Island, BC
Caring expertise...knowledge for you!

Wow!    Powerful tale.    Thanks for the pep talk.

Nov 29, 2008 03:28 AM #6
Ilyce Glink
Think Glink Media - Chicago, IL
Best-selling author, award-winning TV/radio host.

Jon- Great post! We are the only ones who can hold ourselves back. It's easy to blame others when things don't go our way but we do have to realize that we are the ones who set the barriers for ourselves. Thanks for posting!

Nov 29, 2008 04:47 AM #7
Jon Wnoroski
America's 1st Choice RH Realty Co., Inc. - Green, OH
Summit County Realtor

Randall - Yes, I've heard the one about the fleas.  It reminds us that we often set limits (we condition ourselves to live within those limits) and if we are to grow we must break through the barriers we set for ourselves. 

Mirela - I'll look forward to reading your post.  Those are some great concepts important to change.  Bottom line is that we need to have awareness, identify what we need to change, have a plan for change, implement that plan, and then monitor our progress.

Ilyce - You are absolutely right.  We do control our own destiny.  Barriers are easily overcome whether they are self-imposed or placed there by others.  I would venture to say that barriers by others are easier to overcome; those we impose on ourselves are a little harder (we don't always recognize those).

Nov 29, 2008 04:58 AM #8
Kathy Toth
Ann Arbor Market Center Keller Williams - Ann Arbor, MI
Ann Arbor Real Estate Experts - Kathy Toth Team

Great story reminding us that sometimes we just need to get out of our own way. Funny how we can easily blame others for our short-comings, lack of advancement, and for not reaching our goals but we very seldom will look in the mirror and say "Hey! Get out of your way so you can do what you want to do!"


Nov 29, 2008 07:33 AM #9
Bo Hussung
Bell Title /Triserv LLC - Nashvle, TN

I see that guy and struggle with that guy every single day and yet a change of venue makes a big difference. Jon, this is an absolutely great post. I need to go I think I hear Taps playing.

Have a good one


Nov 29, 2008 07:54 AM #10
Jon Wnoroski
America's 1st Choice RH Realty Co., Inc. - Green, OH
Summit County Realtor

Hey Bo - The other side of the coin is that we have to have confidence in our abilities.  We certainly need to reflect on who we are, what we do and how we do it, and determine if we are limiting ourselves in any way.  A significant part of our personal assessment is identifying our strengths (as well as our areas of weakness) and figuring out how we can use our strengths to our advantage.

It's not taps that we need to hear; it's revelry. 

It's always good to hear from you!

Nov 29, 2008 08:16 AM #11
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Jon, This is a wonderful story that I've never heard and I thank you for sharing it.  It's very TRUE, the only thing we really have control over is ourselves--and our reactions.  I stay positive and look for the best.  Thank you again for a wonderful reminder.

Nov 29, 2008 11:05 AM #12
Fred Chamberlin
Guild Mortgage Co - Oak Harbor WA - Oak Harbor, WA
Oak Harbor/Whidbeynulls, #1 Experienced FHA Mortgage Consultant

Excellent message Jon. No one controls our destiny except us.

Nov 29, 2008 01:25 PM #13
Kevin Corsa
H.I.S. Home Inspections (Summit, Stark Counties) - Canton, OH
H.I.S. Home Inspections, Stark & Summit County, OH Home Inspector

A great reminder Jon! We should all realize that we are mostly limited by the boudaries we set up for ourselves, and if we can expand or change those core beliefs, then we can expand and grow to new heights.

Nov 30, 2008 12:27 AM #14
Toula Rosebrock
Diane Turton, Realtors, Forked River, NJ - Lacey Township, NJ
Broker/Sales Associate, Realtor, Lacey Township,

Hi Jon:

That was an awesome message.  How true...I'm inspired!!!

Nov 30, 2008 03:12 AM #15
Craig Rutman
Helping people in transition - Cary, NC
Raleigh, Cary, Apex area Realtor

Very thought provoking Jon.

A wonderful post that should be required reading for anyone with a pulse.

Dec 01, 2008 03:35 AM #16
Greg Gorman
John R Wood Properties - Naples, FL
Naples Florida Real Estate

Jon - great story & thanks for sharing. We are our destiny...we choose to act or react to be proactive or reactive!

Dec 01, 2008 12:01 PM #17
Laura Giannotta
Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore - Little Egg Harbor, NJ
Your Realtor Down the Shore!

Jon, great post and so very true.

Laura G

Dec 01, 2008 11:25 PM #18
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Jon:  This is a very timely story for Realtors.  It's hardest to look in the mirror and take stock of what you are doing that is limiting your success. 

Dec 08, 2008 03:25 AM #19
Jim Frimmer
HomeSmart Realty West - San Diego, CA
Realtor & CDPE, Mission Valley specialist

I learned from someone very close to me that if I'm persistently and consistently Pleasant, Polite, Personable, Positive, and Professional, all things are possible.

Dec 16, 2008 05:21 AM #21
Bruce Brockmeier
Internet Marketing Consultant to REALTORS® - Yorba Linda, CA
Coached By Crouch

Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

Hi Jon,

Great reminder about personal responsibility!  Unfortunately, this idea seems to have faded in our society.

Dec 27, 2008 04:56 AM #22
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