Wouldn't life be great if there was no conflict? Imagine going through a day without confrontations. Imagine living a life where all is peace and everyone gets along. Imagine having friends and relationships with no arguments and no disagreements.
Someone years ago wrote theses words, "to live above with saints we love oh that indeed is glory, to live below with saints we know now that's a different story." We would all like to live a life with no conflict, but it "ain't gonna happen."
Peace is not freedom from conflict. Peace in our lives is produced by the ability to see conflict as it is and deal with as we should.
Over the next several days I will give some suggestions on dealing with conflict. There's no magic wand and not every conflict is the same, but I will give some good practical solutions to everyday conflict.
We'll jump right in to three suggestions.
- You will never conquer conflict until you admit that there is a problem. Someone said "from the date of your birth to the ride in the hearse things are never so bad that they can't get worse." "Get rid of the flee and the itch will take care of itself." Sometimes we just need to admit that we have a problem.
- You will never conquer conflict until you believe there is a Solution. If it is a fact of life it cannot be changed. If it is a problem then it has a solution. Some have conflict because they are trying to change things that will never change. On the other hand some have conflict because they are not seeking the solution to a problem that can be solved.
- You will never conquer conflict until you realize that problem solving is greatly impacted by your first response. In other words how we respond in the immediate will affect the outcome. Some people have great difficulty in resolving conflict because they are loose cannons.