October 2 years ago we lost my father in law to cancer. He passed away on October 29th. and was buried on October 31st. from that moment our lives changed. Holidays became totally different. Thanksgiving was his favorite holiday. He loved his Turkey & Dressing and Banana Pudding! Since Thanksgiving was his favorite my sister in law decided for some strange reason we would no longer celebrate Thanksgiving. Much to my dismay I refused to accept that so last year I cooked the whole thing and no one except my son and I were there. It was devastating. This year even worse. I thought well fine you win. My husband had to work, my son went to his girlfriends family and I sat alone on Thanksgiving and I cried a great deal. I thought to myself how very wrong this whole thing was. I know the actions taken would not be pleasing to my father in law. He would have wanted us to carry on and he certainly would have wanted us to be together.
Not knowing what I could do except pray that's what I did! I made a call yesterday and I told the entire family.... No excuses Christmas was at my home and I would do all the cooking! I was received very positive by all much to my surprise!
Then- Get this- My sister in law explained that next year at Thanksgiving no matter what this family was going to be together. I almost fell into the floor. I said: "Well, that is great but, I have to ask what happened? What has changed?" It seems the answer here of course is my prayers and of course I believe my father-in-law having his hand in a bit but, the person to bring my sister in law around is my 5 year old niece who asked her mother this year: "MOM- WHY ARE WE NOT SPENDING THANKSGIVING WITH OUR FAMILY DON'T YOU KNOW? THANKSGIVING IS A TIME TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY AND A TIME TO GIVE THANKS!"
Is that awesome or what? Children can always puts things into prospective can't they? We get so bogged down in our own selfishness we sometimes forget what truly matters and a child in their simpleness can put us right back where we belong! My father in law would truly be proud of his little granddaughter!