Be The Third Real Estate Agent First

By
Real Estate Agent with Hallmark Sotheby's International Realty



It was overheard in our sales meeting this week, that it’s best to be “the first girlfriend, the second wife and the third real estate agent.” The theory being supposedly that at those certain points in time, you get the best of the other person involved. First girlfriends are doted over, second wives get a guy who learned from his mistakes and third real estate agents get sellers who have finally come to see the light of the reality of the market and are willing to listen to their agent’s professional advice.

My thinking is be the third real estate agent first, or don’t be the agent at all. Why waste valuable months of time on the market (not to mention marketing dollars) with a home seller that simply thinks they want to “see what they can get” or “dip their toes in the market”. Wrong place, wrong time, wrong market.

And sellers, save yourself some time and money and hire your third real estate agent first. A little industry (not-so-much) secret: Agents will “buy” your listing by promising you a pie-in-the-sky listing price in the hopes of convincing you that your house will sell for more money if you list with them. It won’t. You will eventually reduce your price and most likely fire that agent and go with the agent who suggested a more realistic price three months ago. Oh, and in that time the market dipped again. The new price might be a little lower. Lost time, lost money.

You all will have to work out your own girlfriend and spouse issues on your own. But for real estate, don’t waste the time and money on going through two agents before you get to the one you need to hire first.

Comments (42)

Carla Harbert
Full Time REALTOR in Ohio - Brunswick, OH
RE/MAX Omega, Brunswick Ohio

Now I have not heard that line, first girlfriend, second wife, and the third real estate agent. Interesting. good post, great video, terrific advise - Carla

Dec 06, 2008 02:27 PM
Roland Woodworth
eXp Realty - Clarksville, TN
eXp Realty

Mike.. what a way to compare these things... LOL.. I just want to be the one to get the listing and get it SOLD

Dec 06, 2008 03:21 PM
Lisa Hill
Florida Property Experts - Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Beach Real Estate

I've heard agent who want to be first, and agents who want to be last. I'm of the "last" belief. That way, I can ask what each of the other agents offered, and explain what I do differently, or that I offer the same services. If I go first, the sellers might refuse to list with me at that time, because they don't want to cancel their appointments with other agents.

Dec 06, 2008 09:32 PM
Jane Heiss-Armitage
Ayre/Rhinehart Realtors (Midland County, Bay County,Saginaw County, Mi.) - Midland, MI
Selling Homes in the Great Lakes Bay Region

Mike what an awesome video, you tell it like it really is! The video is great quality and what a fun time you are having !   It was a real life comparison that is most likely true ! 

Dec 06, 2008 10:56 PM
Tim Ludemann
Ochopee, FL

Great Idea with video and i couldn't agree more with the 3rd agent theory...looking forward to reading more and congrats on the feature.

Dec 06, 2008 11:23 PM
Konnie Mac McCarthy
MacNificent Properties, LLC - Cobb Island, MD
Broker/Owner - VA & MD "Time To Get A Move On!"
oh my God..you are a hoot...but you are right, I've even told that to some of my sellers....why go through 3 agents...and then listen.......start now.. :)
Dec 06, 2008 11:40 PM
Mark MacKenzie
Phoenix, AZ
Hi Mike, That is an interesting thought. :) I do like this comment the most, "My thinking is be the third real estate agent first, or don’t be the agent at all." I think being a successful agent means managing your clients expectations. Tell them how it really is and don't waste your time taking overpriced listings.
Dec 06, 2008 11:44 PM
Diane Bell, Hilton Head Real Estate, Bluffton
Charter 1 Real Estate, Hilton Head, Bluffton, SC - Hilton Head Island, SC
I think I'm going to adopt that mantra---great job with this post. And, I've often been the second and third agent with success.
Dec 07, 2008 12:10 AM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Mike - I've been first, second, third. I hate cleaning up other agents messes. Loved the video!

Dec 07, 2008 02:13 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

I've also heard this for years and it certainly applies. Of course the main REASON for the 3rd agent success rate is that the seller has finally begun to be realistic!

Dec 07, 2008 03:24 AM
Sheila Moran
RE/MAX Access (Garden Ridge, San Antonio, New Braunfels) - New Braunfels, TX
SanAntonioSheila.com, RE/MAX Access, 210-32
Mike, hilarious! Love the video and all the little second hand "thoughts" that you added in! Very funny and you make a great point!
Dec 07, 2008 04:12 AM
James Wexler
wexzilla.com - Scottsdale, AZ

I love the analogy, being the first real estate and the ONLY real estate a seller has, you just need to price it right or dont take the listing

Dec 07, 2008 04:38 AM
Lauren Krady Lancaster
Keller Williams Realty - Lancaster, PA
PA Realtor

Ha, that is very clever, I never heard that before.  Your video is great, too.

Dec 07, 2008 06:14 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

mike... while I've heard that sentiment before, I've never head it put quite this way before.  nicely done, and really nice video quality too.  I even liked the "senior moment" in the middle... made it feel more "real".

Dec 07, 2008 09:03 AM
TIM MONCRIEF
Tim Monciref - Austin, TX
Over 2,000 homes sold…..

The psychology on this is fascinating.  So I am ending a 3 month listing (i did not like the seller) and the seller was refusing to budge their price (of course) and we were nearing the end of the listing. So I said what I have always wanted to say that you will hire the other agent, you will end up dropping the price and the other agent will be the hero.  Don't really know why i did it other to make me feel better and see if this became a reality.  The seller said that they would rather not move than drop the price.  New agent comes in.....one week later the price drops.....and an offer comes in the next day.  The seller even emails me to throw it in my face that the other agent sold the home in one week.  I just replied and said that it all ended as we planned.

Dec 07, 2008 09:32 AM
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Luxury Real Estate

Mike - I was recently told this by another Sotheby's agent, so I guess this advice is definitely making the rounds throughout Sotheby's!  I love your video.  Very creative use of of this marketing medium. Well done, memorable, and above all, innovative.  Congratulations - I would definitely list my home with you first go around.

Dec 07, 2008 10:28 AM
Pippa Mac
Chevaux Group Realtor, The Woodlands and Spring - The Woodlands, TX
The Woodlands TX Real Estate

Very creative !!!  (and a good laugh)

Dec 07, 2008 10:28 AM
Anonymous
Sheila Reeves

Good advice; it is better not to take the listing at an inflated price that will not sell.  Every neighborhood can be different and comparables should reflect those differences.   

Dec 07, 2008 12:41 PM
#40
Mike Lefebvre
Hallmark Sotheby's International Realty - Medfield, MA

Wow! Thanks for all the great feedback, gang. I feel bad for not giving credit to Trina Macchi, the agent who I borrowed the phrase from. Glad you found the video entertaining. As a Berklee College of Music grad and an ex-former rock star wannabe, I understand about trying to put the "show" AND the "business" in show business. I use iMovie and my Flip camera for all my videos. If you want to make videos, go buy a Mac and a flip, and then fly me out to where you live, put me up at your place, buy the pizza and the beer and I'll show you what to do.

Thanks again for all the comments. Ya'll do wonders for my fragile ego!

Dec 07, 2008 10:39 PM
Michael Mahoney
Century 21 - Boston, MA
Boston Realtor with Century 21

Mike Lefebvre could not agree more

 

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