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Attitude is from within!

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Attitude is From Within!

Why do we often think we have it worse than the next person? Why is it so easy to get discouraged when markets change and actions that were working for us suddenly become ineffective?  Most people tend to always look for the worst in every situation and instead of adapting; they wait for things to go back to the way they were before the changes.  The reality of life, economic cycles, and change in general is this: those who wait are left behind and those who adapt are ready to take advantage of the moment and the future.  

The history of the world is the story of men and women who took adversity and created success.  The worst diseases were cured at the height of epidemics, and the greatest advancements in technology were made during wars.  What makes some people victorious during times of adversity and others hopeless?

In a single word: "attitude." Attitude is a confusing word to many people. It is often viewed as something that comes from the outside created by positive situations, good fortune, or even luck!  Nothing could be further from the truth.  

Attitude comes from within and it is created from the fierce determination not to be defeated.  People often say that attitude is a choice, but it is more than that. Attitude is a conviction.  It works independently of most choices and comes from a far deeper place- a place that says to us, "I will not be defeated, I will not give up, and I will not fail!"  The results of the "right attitude" are an unrelenting focus that seldom varies from day-to-day.  It is so deeply ingrained that nothing will stop it and nothing will change it.  It is this "right attitude" that will carry you through your darkest hours.  

Attitude is not deterred by sadness, tragedy, depression, anger, or obstacles.  In fact, there are only two things that can defeat the "right attitude:" lack of consistent action and loss of hope.  In fact, failing to take unrelenting action will eventually lead to a loss of hope.  My definition of hope is the belief in what has not happened and has not been seen. It can be mystical or logical but what is hoped for exists beyond the present and current conditions.  America's renowned psychologist William James said, "The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."  


Is there a formula for the "attitude shift" necessary to change our lives?  There is and it is this:  


1.  Whatever it is you want, you must want it with intensity and passion.

2.  Once you know what you want, focus on it with positive thoughts and affirmations.  Negative thinking will produce failure.

3.  Determine the daily actions that must be taken, break them into small actions, and simply do them!

4.  When you are faced with obstacles and failure, take more action and remain focused and hopeful of your success.

5.  Never quit and never surrender.  Nothing that can defeat persistence!

 

Nancy & Heather Cloward


Prudential California Realty

Direct: 949-495-2819 or 949-228-4523

Nancy@NancyCloward.com or Heather@HeatherCloward.com

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Russ Ravary ~ Metro Detroit Realtor call (248) 310-6239
Real Estate One - Commerce, MI
Michigan homes for sale ~ yesmyrealtor@gmail.com

Persistence is key to getting the job done.

Jan 10, 2009 03:25 AM
Marty Remo
RE/MAX Benchmark- Marty Remo-CDPE, E-Pro - Monroe, NY
HV Home Team

I like the idea of breaking thing down into task. It allows us to measure progress towards to goal.

Jan 10, 2009 03:47 AM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

Excellent Breakdown !!!

One of my favorite phrases is "Go After Your Dreams With A Passion"...which is very similar to your #1 item.

Very nice post !

Jan 10, 2009 03:51 AM
New Construction Ocala Florida Real Estate
Pivotal Properties, LLC - Ocala, FL
Living and Loving Florida!

What a great blog! You are what you think!

Jan 10, 2009 04:08 AM
Margaret Woda
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc. - Crofton, MD
Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation

Very inspirational.  'Time to be positive and not succumb to the media-imposed depression.

Jan 10, 2009 04:22 AM
TIM MONCRIEF
Tim Monciref - Austin, TX
Over 2,000 homes sold…..

It is such a simple mindset change.  There are so many people that just have to carry a bag of chips on their shoulders everyday.  No matter how much you try to take the chips away from them, they grab their chips and put them back on their shoulders.  Thus, they fail.

I say to others to take the chips off of your shoulders and give them to someone who wants them.....

Jan 10, 2009 04:58 AM
Dawn Maloney
RE/MAX Trinity Northeast Ohio Real Estate Specialist - Hudson, OH
330-990-4236 Hudson & Northeastern Ohio

The most successful people we will ever meet have had to FIGHT to maintain a positive attitude. It doesn't just fall on us! This is a great post, very encouraging and I'm glad it was featured!!

Attitude is a decision.

Jan 10, 2009 05:13 AM
Tom Ski
BeFirst Media Group - Lakeside, MT
Social Media Marketing, Online Radio

Yes for thoughts become things so chose the good ones.

http://www.westernmontanagrapevine.com

Jan 10, 2009 05:59 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Congratulations on the gold star.  This is a great post, as so many in our industry are struggling with their attitudes.  I'm happy to say, I'm one who adapts and doesn't sink into depression.

Jan 10, 2009 07:56 AM
Virginia Hepp - Mesquite NV REALTOR
Desert Gold Realty - Mesquite NV Homes For Sale - Mesquite, NV
Mesquite NV Homes and Neighborhoods - Search MLS

What a gorgeous picture of the 2 of you!  Keep smiling!  Great post, I am making a list of what I need to do to stay on my game.

Jan 10, 2009 08:04 AM
The Somers Team
The Somers Team at KW Philadelphia - Philadelphia, PA
Delivering Real Estate Happiness

Is a great definition and a 5 point definition of attitude.  Those 5 steps are critical for ones success... it definitely begins with perspective and with attitude.  Great post and congrats on the feature : )

Jan 10, 2009 09:20 AM
Emily Lowe
RE/MAX Homes and Estates, Lipman Group - Nashville, TN
Nashville TN Realtor

I agree!  It's all in the attitude!  Great post - and congrats on the feature!

Jan 10, 2009 09:26 AM
Lori Mode
The Mode Real Estate Group - Elk Grove, CA
Real Estate Made Simple

You are certainly right about persistence...it always amazes me how quickly some people will give up!

I heard a very wise man recently say, in 2009, we need to "Get up, Get out and go get it!  I think this is the motto I'm going to live by this year!

Jan 10, 2009 10:36 AM
Chris and Maria Jeantet
Shasta Living Real Estate - Redding, CA
Top Realtors in Redding CA

Attitude is what will carry us through these tough times!

Jan 10, 2009 10:50 AM
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
850-476-4494 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Great Post and congratulations as well. You are so right and I don't think we will ever really get it. What you focus on good or bad you will get, it's as old as the bible it self. Seek and you will find, ask and you will receive.

Jan 10, 2009 01:04 PM
Deb Brooks
Brooks Prime Properties Wichita Falls Texas - Wichita Falls, TX

Ladies, I totally agree. I believe that what we believe will be...will be. Period. We create our own reality. If we believe in doom and gloom that's what we'll get. Great post. Thank you.

Later in the rain~Deb

Jan 10, 2009 01:18 PM
Chris Olsen
Olsen Ziegler Realty - Cleveland, OH
Broker Owner Cleveland Ohio Real Estate

Right on.  I also think as a corollary, tenacity is key.  Even Joe Biden on the campaign trail said his dad told him when you get knocked down, get back up.  I would rather hire someone with a lot of tenacity and average brains than some brainiac with no or little tenacity.

Regarding attitude, I once heard that it is impossible to think both a negative and positive thought at the same time, and if you only think positive thoughts, it has innumerable benefits: health, stress reduction, increased energy and the like.

I'm with you! Great post!

Jan 10, 2009 01:40 PM
Debbie Hutchins
Birmingham, AL

Hey hey the girls have "ATTITUDE"!  Great post and very deserving of a gold star!  Congrats.

Debbie

Jan 10, 2009 03:22 PM
Paul McFadden
Responsive Pest Control - Seattle, WA
Pest Control, Seattle, WA.

Nancy and Heather: Thank you! It's so true that what we think about comes true. I wish both of you the very best this year. It's going to be a good one!

Jan 11, 2009 02:24 AM
Rene Fabre
ARFCO Media - Renton, WA
Practicing Philosophical Eclectic of the Arts

Nancy and Heather...

Right on. I couldn't agree more! Have an awesome 2009!

Rene'

Jan 11, 2009 04:06 AM