I have an adult son who has limits imposed on him by a random genetic blooper. He can't drive, has to have someone else sign checks and give him cash from his own account, and dreams of living on his own with a wife and kids---which can't happen (at least the way he wishes it would).
Though he has limitations, he keeps chosing to make the most of what is reality for him. The most important parts of him are that he is gainfully employed and loves getting a paycheck for a job that he is thankful to have. He can walk the 2 miles to work if a ride isn't available. He loves sports and has more information stored in his head about who plays on which basketball team than anyone else in the family. He is easily satisfied and finds wonder in the most basic of experiences...a day at the shore, seeing the Statue of Liberty from the highway, standing in St. Patrick's, running up the steps of the Art Museum in Philadelphia and giving a Rocky pose.
My son has a lot he could complain about. But he doesn't complain about much. The Bears losing out this season. The Cubs blowing the chance of the century. People in his new home in Bucks County, Pennsylvania pressuring him to be a Phillies or Eagles fan. Those are his most frequent complaints. He just adjusts to his own realitly and finds enjoyment in whatever comes along.
In our office, there are agents who are like my son in that they are chosing to adjust to a new reality. This market is hard. But there are some agents who see opportunity. They are smiling, learning new ways to do things, thankful for any client who is a qualified buyer or realistic seller. They read books and attend classes and meet new people and call their sphere of influence. They sign up for coaching and agree to be held accountable. They are learning new skills and increasing their database.
Life is hard. Harder for some than others. Reality for us all is that our attitude determines a lot of our outcome. Taking stock and making the most of what you've got is the quickest path to having a life worth living, even while striving hard for big goals and a great career.
It's amazing how much I have learned from this son in his 29 years. Today, this market, this is the lesson. Make the most of my possibilities and don't complain.