Annoying family members

Real Estate Agent with Century 21 city View
Being a Real estate Agent with Century 21 has made me a topic of discussion at family gatherings for the simple fact that my friends and family members all want to know about real estate, they are not interested in becoming a realtor, they just want to know the inside scoop, "do you have a good deal on a great house" but they're willing to pay 200K below the asking price,(lol). Or they tell you that real estate is going down, its going to crash, that i should leave and get into something else. it just upsets me that some people like to run their mouths off and pretend to know what they're talking about. i guess they are frustrated with their 9-5 job that they need a punching bag, but i take it with stride and inform them that the facts.

Comments (10)

Flemington, NJ
The funny thing for me as a Loan Officer I have family members that will consult me, use me, and refer me actively and yet others who will not regardless of what I do.  I call it the scientist syndrom.  As long as your relatives know what you do for a living and talk to you about real estate it is positive.  I would suggest sending all of them any marketing/farming/newsletter material as you get send them out.
May 02, 2007 01:57 AM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector
Certain professions have that, like it or not, as part of the way it is. Doctors get asked medical questions, lightly of course and in general terms, lawyers always get asked what the neighbor can do about the noisy dog, etc, home inspectors get asked about home problems, electricians get asked electricial questions, plumbers get asked about drips and drains and water pressure and those things. And, realtors of course get asked all sorts of questions about buying, selling, real estate investment, market conditions, property values. I think it just comes with the territory, in certain interesting fields. In my view, it is best to nicely and briefly answer the question and move on. This talk usually shifts before long. I have, in the past, had some of this "curious" conversation turn into business.
May 02, 2007 01:57 AM
Carla Starkie
Aspen Home Mortgage, NMLS# 396174 - Colorado Springs, CO
Mortgage Loan Originator, NMLS #1013160
At least it's an interesting topic for people.  The above post is right.  My husband is an electrician and he gets asked questions all the time.  It's good for business.
May 02, 2007 02:01 AM
Ghandi Abudayeh
Century 21 city View - Brooklyn, NY
Thanks for advice Michael, ill be sure to send them something to read
May 02, 2007 02:07 AM
Colorado Springs Real Estate
Colorado Springs, CO


It seems like every party I go to is a local unlicensed real estate professional. I would not say I try to "school them", but I do want to let them I am knowledgeable!

May 02, 2007 02:15 AM
R. B. "Bob" Mitchell - Loan Officer Raleigh/Durham
Bank of England (NMLS#418481) - Raleigh, NC
Bob Mitchell (NMLS#1046286)

There is a gene on the human DNA, particularly male DNA, that makes everybody an expert in real estate.  I've been in the biz since 1984 and I'm the only guy that I know that doesn't have that gene!


Bob Mitchell



May 02, 2007 03:24 AM
Bill Somerset
Re/Max Realty Group - Dover, NH
ABR, e-PRO - Realtor - NH Real Estate Agent
You simply just need to know the facts and figures about your career choice, and let them know the truth about the industry.  Once you have armed yourself with the right responses they will be left speechless and hopefully start sending you referrals!
May 03, 2007 03:52 AM
Lizette Fitzpatrick
Lizette Realty - Richmond KY - Lexington, KY
Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes
If I had to make a living off family and their non-existent referrals I would be in the soup line. Thank God for strangers that want to buy property!
May 03, 2007 02:48 PM
Brian Schulman
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage, Lancaster PA - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster County PA RealEstate Expert 717-951-5552

Ghandi, in my early days in real estate my parents tried to get me to think about going into something with a more reliable income.  If you're making your living doing what you enjoy in life, just take these comments like water off a duck's back. 

Most people are just curious, or trying to show you how much they know.  If you think about it, the fact that the know-it-alls are trying to impress you is a kind of compliment!

May 04, 2007 12:08 AM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Yes sometimes people can be annoying when they ask you how many houses do you sell in a month.You may try to be evasive and say it varies , and they will still keep on asking.They think that since they are close friends they have a right to know.They do not give any referrals though.

Yes at every party there is atleast one person who wants to get into Real estate and one who has a license in escrow.


May 04, 2007 07:42 AM