Pay It Forward - Have you done that?

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Real Estate Agent with Realty Professionals, Inc.

Pay It Forward - Have you done that?  What I call pay it forward, is do a good deed for someone else that you are not seeking anything back from it.  No pats on the back, or someone saying that was a nice thing or anything like that.  I grew up poor and have 7 brothers and sisters and there were many people, mostly from the church, that helped my mother out greatly.  I even remember a lady in the church buying my mother a station wagon.  Now that I am older, I realize how big of a sacrifice that lady made buying that car.  I'm not saying we need to buy a car or anything that big.  I will tell you about a couple of things but strictly for the purpose of examples. 

The first one is when I was on a business trip, I went to a Shoney's Restaurant for their breakfast bar (they have an awesome breakfast bar).  I was there alone and was watching a family sitting a couple booths away and across the isle from me.  The mom and dad was only drinking coffee but the three kids were eating from the breakfast bar.  I seen the little boy offer his dad a piece of bacon and the dad took it but that was the only thing he ate.  I seen them when the drove up and noticed the car was an older car and you could just tell they didn't have a lot of money.  I don't know if they were on vacation or if they lived in that town.  I know some may be thinking that it would be cheaper for them to go to the grocery store and eat at home or something like that, because I thought that at first myself.  Then I remembered in my early days that I took my family on vacation and we didn't have a lot.  We packed sandwiches and drinks but we all had fun. Anyway, back to the story.  You know you sometimes get the quiet little voice telling you to do something?  Well, that happened to me.  I felt lead to pay for their visit at this restaurant.  I could tell they were getting close to being done so I hurried up and finished so I could get their ticket on my way out.  When I told the cashier quietly that I wanted to pay for their meal, she was like, WHAT?  I told her that I didn't want them to know who I was or anything like that.  I don't know this family and I have never seen them again.  This is what I call Pay It Forward.  You never know, that family may come in contact with someone that they can help and they will remember that a complete stranger gave to them and that they would assist the one in need that they ran into.

Then another one is on a little lighter note.  I was driving through McDonald's a couple years ago and seen someone I knew in the drive-thru.  When I got to the cashier window, I paid for their meal along with mine.  I received a call later that day, because they did see me and knew who I was, and they just wanted to thank me.  They said nobody has ever done that to them.  Yes, they could afford to have paid their own meal but it is the pay if forward thinking is why I did it.  It was also fun!

Know that you are armed with this knowledge, go out and try it today.  When you are standing in line at WalMart, or a grocery store or even a restaurant and you get that little still voice telling you need to do this, then do it.  You will be greatly blessed.  In the Bible it tells you that it is better to give than to receive.  Have a GREAT day :)

I am a Realtor in Searcy, Arkansas and I sell new homes, existing homes, commercial property, farms and land as well as manage and own rental properties. If you are looking for real estate for an investment or a home, I will be glad to assist you! You can call my personal cell number at 501-278-7659 or e-mail me at Larry@Searcy4Sale.com. Visit my website at http://www.searcy4sale.com

Comments (6)

Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

Another term for randpm acts of kindness- yes i make it a practice to do this all the time.  Help comes from unexpected sources at unexpected times.  It can change someone's life. The reward comes from knowing you have done a good thing.  Keep it up.

Jan 22, 2009 11:56 PM
Donna Schoby
Liberty Bank of Arkansas - Bentonville, AR

Larry, Thank you for sharing this with us. If everyone did just one extra thing for someone else just think about the effect it would have.  I was proud of my 16 year son the other day...he came home and told me he met a homeless boy his age at the skate park. He took him a blanket, hat and gloves. My son saw him a few days later and he was still carrying his blanket and was wearing the hat and gloves. It doesn't take much on our part to help others. We just need to watch for the opportunity and act upon it.

Jan 22, 2009 11:58 PM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Larry, this is an inspirational blog.  I knew you were a good person. 

Jan 23, 2009 12:36 AM
Mary PAUL, ABR, CRS,GRI, e-PRO,
RE/MAX Advantage Realtors, Searcy, AR - Searcy, AR

Larry,

You are a lot like me!  I knew you were a great guy and you sure do look like Sean Hannity!

Jan 23, 2009 06:42 AM
Matthew and Sandy Jagmin
Brick Road Visuals: marketing, virtual tours, photography - Bentonville, AR
Marketing, Virtual Tours, Photography

Larry, some how these ideals have been coveyed to my 9 year old son. A while back Sandy and the kids, Sheldon 9 Abby 8 and Andy 1/2, went shopping. An older woman bumped her cart into a large stack of paper plates in the aisle.  Sheldon was carrying the shopping list, he stopped, asked his Momma to hold the list and, with no propmting, went and picked up the plates, came back and resumed his job as list holder as if it never happened. That not only makes me a proud Daddy, but also humbles me.  I have stopped and done what I could to help a few people broke down on the side of the road and I am confident that with kids like Donna's son ,Sheldon, and the boy sharing with his Dad, that the world has some helpful, caring, and generous men in our future.

Matthew

Jan 27, 2009 03:13 PM
Larry DeGroat
Realty Professionals, Inc. - Searcy, AR
ABR, CRS, e-PRO, GRI in Searcy

Allison, that is so true!

Donna, sounds like you have a great son!

Thanks Barbara and Mary, you are good people also!

Matthew, good to hear that about your son.  Things like this gives me hope with that generation.  Good job and pats on yours and Donna's back, kids learn from their parents whether you think they are watching or not.

Jan 28, 2009 11:05 PM