Having It All

Education & Training with Advantage Solutions Group

" You can have it all... you just can't have it all at once." As I am designing and living a life I love, and helping others to do the same, the dual goals of achievement and personal bliss seem to compete, frustrate, or simply tire us to exhaustion. There is an elusiveness to the times when everything is handled and there is time for it all.

If you are like me, most things look like opportunities.... There is so much worth doing. There are so many obligations and roles. There are so many ways to make a difference, to earn a living , to express that uniqueness each of us is blessed to carry forward into the world and lives of others. There are still so many things on my list of 100 Things I want to do be & have in this lifetime that aren't checked off yet!

I feel the frustration and I watch my clients struggle with a keen longing to express a level of excellence with our work while balancing and longing for enough time to live a life that is inclusive of the personal and family roles.

Lately,the old song from the movie Dirty Dancing plays the lyric in my head about "having the times of our lives." That longing, it seems, is there but many days the reasons "why not" seem more real than the ability to achieve that fine balance.

I've been focusing this year on the benefits of simplifying. The work I've done in my life & with many of my amazing, inspiring clients this year seems to echo this theme. With the uncertainness that we can't control, it is imperative to make conscious choices every day that bring you to a happy peacefulness or whatever your description would be when it is all working.

 Some ideas:

  • Keep a gratitude journal
  • Give away some money!
  • Do something to nurture your spirit or your body
  • Go outside and marvel at this amazing planet
  • Listen to the sound of children laughing

What do you do to maximize the bliss????


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Comments (22)

Bill Gassett
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Hopkinton, MA
Metrowest Massachusetts Real Estate

Nice ideas for those that need it Joeann.

Feb 08, 2009 02:39 AM
Kelle Sparta
Sparta Success Systems - Somerville, MA
Real Estate Trainer and Coach

I've recently taken to walking.  I've had some days where things just fall apart, no matter what I do.  And instead of getting frustrated and upset, I just take myself out for a walk.  It gets me into the open air, away from my computer and kicks up the endorphins in my brain, so that once I get home, the day doesn't seem so bad anymore.

Feb 08, 2009 04:01 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

You can have it all, just not at the same time! Love this and your philosophy. You are such an inspiration to so many and your clients are so fortunate to work with you.

W-I-N =what's important now.

Feb 08, 2009 06:31 AM
Charles Fischer
Housing Market Realty - Merritt Island, FL
Professional Real Estate Services


Thanks for the inspiration and sharing with us!

Feb 08, 2009 07:12 AM
Kevin Bungert
ReMax Professional Group - East Northport, NY

Joeann-  For me personally, I run.  That's my alone time.  For the ones I love, I try EVERY day to make special memories.  I love spending time with my wife and kids always with an eye for an adventure!  All the best!  -Kevin

Feb 08, 2009 08:50 AM
Joeann Fossland
Advantage Solutions Group - Tucson, AZ
Master Certified Coach to Motivated Agents

FRAN   Thank you for reading!

CHARLIE This is a very fun place to do some good peer to peer sharing and learning. Choose some groups. Subscribe to some blogs and have fun here. BTW-loved your photo on Facebook! Thanks for being my friend in ALL ways!!!

KELLE Great perscription for bringing the centeredness back! Thanks for coming by

MARGARET I Love the WIN acronmyn! Thanks! I hope lots of people are buying your wonderful book!

CHARLES You are welcome!

KEVIN  You sound like a guy who has his priorities straight! Good for you! Hugs back at you!

Feb 08, 2009 09:16 AM
Frances Flynn Thorsen
eXp Realty LLC - State College, PA
Author | REALTOR | Educator

Sunday afternoon is my favorite time to maximize  bliss.

Today is a rare rainy afternoon in the desert. I am listening to the soulful melodies of Danny Doyle, my favorite Irish balladeer. I love to weep whilst Danny sings classic tunes about fallen herous and expatriates. The air is heavy with a Sonoran perfume and the winged creatures are ecstatic between showers.

I have a pot of chicken soup simmering to perfection ... and a pot of Irish Breakfast tea within easy reach of my laptop perch.

Life does not get better than this!

This is my personal recipe for maximizing bliss.

Feb 08, 2009 09:43 AM
Diane Parker
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Realty - Wilmington, NC

Thanks for sharing.  I live a busy and blessed life, but the balanced part, I really have to work on.  I find it so easy to get sucked up in the wonderful world of real estate.

Feb 08, 2009 11:18 AM
Chris Olsen
Olsen Ziegler Realty - Cleveland, OH
Broker Owner Cleveland Ohio Real Estate

Great post Joeann!  For me, I pause to remember how truly temporary and short-lived life actually is for each of us and to appreciate the simple beauty in things, both large and small.  Watching my kids laugh and be kids is priceless!

Feb 08, 2009 03:43 PM
JB Brookman
JB Brookman Photography - Franklin, TN
High School Senior Portrait Photographer

Read the Bible, take a jog... go out and take photos... those are a few of mine.  Great post!

Feb 08, 2009 03:57 PM
Jason Neumann
Century 21 Assurance Realty Ltd. - Kelowna, BC
Realtor - www.KelownaRealEstateNews.com

"Listen to the sound of children laughing"now that is something that I live to hear and experience each and every day!  Take care and happy blogging!

Feb 08, 2009 04:40 PM
Katerina Gasset
The Gasset Group & Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Provo, UT
Amplify Your Real Estate & Life Dreams!

Joeann- Wonderful post. Just up my alley. I love life and live it to its fullest appreciating every moment in gratitude and figuring out ways to clone myself- LOL!

Gratitude journal, prayer and reading my scriptures are top priority of every day. All else will work itself out and so many opportunities abound. What a marvelous work and a wonder we have to take in! Katerina

Feb 08, 2009 06:34 PM
Caren Wallace
Premier Property Group LLC - Tualatin, OR
Portland Caren Real Estate

Joeann, I love this philosophy and I agree marveling at the beauty of nature is one of my favorite ways to be thankful for my life! Giving to others is also on my list of warm fuzzies!

Feb 08, 2009 11:17 PM
Yvette Gardner
Keller Williams Realty, Spartanburg, SC - Spartanburg, SC

Joeann,  Very inspirational.  Thanks for sharing.

Feb 09, 2009 12:00 AM
Patricia Aulson
Realtor - Portsmouth NH Homes-Hampton NH Homes

Yes, this is a nice post with a reminder to be "very greatful for what we have!"  We do have it all compared to most, take the time to look around you and you'll see that, we are very fortunate.


Portsmouth NH Real Estate

Feb 09, 2009 03:38 AM
Barb Van Stensel
Chicago, IL

So many focus on irrelevant items, the ones that really don't count.  Understanding "The Why" makes life so much simplier.  Keeping life simplier for me means not reacting but act upon.  To focus on the thoughts and not the emotions.  When one has the scales of life balanced, the bliss falls into place and it is amazing!

Thank you for such a great post. 

Feb 09, 2009 04:18 AM
Tim Monciref - Austin, TX
Over 2,000 homes sold…..

I take time off every week just to something that is meaningless.  If that is walking downtown with my wife that is what we will do.  The only way that I can really do it is by setting it up as an appointment and steering all other appointments around my time.  Took me 20 years to figure that one out...

Feb 09, 2009 06:53 AM
Mike Garro
Milobox - Real Estate - San Francisco, CA

Thanks for the article Joeann. You bring up some really good points about life. If everyone practiced some of the things you mentioned, I think this world would be much better off.

Feb 09, 2009 07:38 AM
Eric Huang
New York House Loans - Bloomville, NY

Great ideas!

Feb 09, 2009 11:57 AM
Pat Argo
Keller Williams Realty of Brevard - Titusville, FL

     Your messages are always so lightly uplifting, Joeann!

     I treat myself in several nuturing ways each week. I gave up on "daily" because that begat more stress.  I know if I go to fitness center's heated therapy pool, swim and do water exercises and at least 1 water yoga class per week, my body will love me back and provide energy for all the other things " I really want to do!"

     Thanks to cable, I can save half hour programs from Joyce Meyer to start my spirit in the right direction with my first cup of Gevalia most morings, regardless of the time my body and brain decide "It is time to get UP Pat!" I journal, listen to my favorite CD's while writing notes to family and friends. Then I spike my oatmeal with a fresh fruit with a few chopped pecans. Peaches, blueberies or blackberries are favorites. Such a decadent way to start my day! A good start makes the day and life much more pleasant and managable.

     Then it is Power Hour time. I start with a few friends or family with a goal of a short hello with an encouraging word or message. Some days they need more, and I try to be there, as so many people were here for us as Dick struggled with his cancers. BUT I never call 2 daughters the same morning... 2 are LONG winded and I will never get to work if I do!

     And the day goes on... aas does life. Life is awesome! Have agood one! !

Feb 16, 2009 02:20 PM