Teaching a new driver in “Ditch” land. Will I survive this?

Real Estate Agent with CoastalVa Realty Inc

My 15 year old daughter Valerie is learning how to drive.  We live in the Great Bridge/Hickory area of Chesapeake.  We have been driving around the neighborhoods for at least a month now, and I felt brave Corner view of ditchenough in our way to Girl Scouts to have her drive.  I told her to go on to Centerville Turnpike.  AAAgghhhh!!!  What was I thinking?  Will my heart recover, and how did I ever learn how to drive.


Last February we had an especially cold day and my car and I ended up in the ditch.  I was going 10 or 15 miles an hour, but there was ice in the road and the ditch was calling.  Gratefully all my accidents have been minor, but this one really change the way I look at the roads.   Just a couple of days ago, it froze two days, and I stayed home.  I am too scared to drive in the ice... even the rain makes me nervous now.

Back to teaching my daughter how drive.  I tried not to scream, as I have seen on TV, when parents start screaming kids get even more scared.  Centerville has ditches that are right next to the road, and as a new driver Valerie feels that while driving in a two way street she has to go as close to the right as possible.  Since, I am sitting in the copilots chair, I can actually feel the edge or the road and how close other side of streetshe is to going in to the ditch.  I could actually feel the bumpy part.  I went back to that section of the road, ( to take pictures) and  realized that this specific part of road is actually pretty short.  It reminded me of the time, I jumped of an airplane, but that is another story. 

So, when you come to Chesapeake make sure your teen has been driving for a while.  Me?  I will stick to teaching her inside the neighborhoods.  My husband can do the scary stuff.

Great Bridge.   Great schools... and deep ditches.                              Val's oil painting(Valeries oil painting.)


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Barb Szabo, CRS
RE/MAX Trinity Brecksville Ohio - Cleveland, OH
E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes

Tere, I will be able to relate to this very soon as my daughter will be 15 in a few short months. I think I better get a few more bottles of hair color for the new gray hair I will likely get. Good luck!

Mar 06, 2009 03:42 AM #1
Chuck Willman UtahHomes.me
Utah Homes - Alpine, UT
Utah Homes

This has been, for me, one of the true tests of parenting... the ability to put our lives at stake for the sake of their learning. I'm comforted by one thought... millions have gone through this and survived.

Mar 06, 2009 09:28 AM #2
Tere Rottink
CoastalVa Realty Inc - Virginia Beach, VA

Barb:  Thanks, and yes get that hair color.  I was wondering about my extra gray hair in the past few days.  I think, I know now where they are coming from.

Chuck: My sister told me the same thing.  She taught her kids on a stick shift.  I truly don't think that I will do the ditch part or the highway again.  I think my husband with the nerves of still, can  tackle those lessons.  Parenting: True love at its best.

Mar 07, 2009 07:11 AM #3
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Tere, isn't this why they came up with Drivers' Education taught in the high schools?  I can't imagine teaching a teenager to drive!  You're braver than I am.

Mar 07, 2009 12:12 PM #4
Tere Rottink
CoastalVa Realty Inc - Virginia Beach, VA

Patricia:  She is taking driver's ed at school, but it only teaches the mechanichs and rules.  The actual road driving has to be done by the parents or guardians.

Mar 07, 2009 02:02 PM #5
Respect Realty LLC
Respect Realty LLC - Milwaukie, OR
Brokers - Oregon / SW Washington Real Estate

I feel you pain, I'm 5 years away from the date my daughter is old enough to drive and I swear I get a new gray hair every time I think about it. My dad went gray the day he taught me. Our van with power steering and power breaks (Automatic) stalled on a turn and the van went across oncoming traffics lanes and right in the the police station parking lot. Really embarrassing!


Mar 09, 2009 01:04 PM #6
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome


Take her to various cemetaries and let her drive there. The roads are very narrow and it makes the real roads so much easier. Give it a try.

Trust me, you will survive this stage!

Mar 09, 2009 01:27 PM #7
Tere Rottink
CoastalVa Realty Inc - Virginia Beach, VA

Todd: What a funny story.  Well funny after all these years and nobody got hurt.  Regarding your daughter.  Enjoy every minute of it.  You blink and you will be teaching her how to drive.  

Margaret:  What a great idea.  She is going to love the stress free practice. 

Mar 09, 2009 01:57 PM #8
Marchel Peterson
Results Realty - Spring, TX
Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro

TERE, Oh my does that bring back the memories.  We did the parents driver's ed with both of our children.  In looking back I personally think 16 is too young.  Now our daughter could have cared less and was about 17 before getting her license but our son was there the day he turned 16 getting his license.  He ended up having two fender benders following too close and insurance was going to be so expensive ($350 a month just for liablity) that I ended up driving him around the last half of his senior year. 

Mar 09, 2009 02:55 PM #9
Matt Listro
National Credit Fixers - Matt Listro - Vernon, CT
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Hi Tere:

You don't look like you have a 15 year old daughter!


Mar 10, 2009 02:06 AM #10
Tere Rottink
CoastalVa Realty Inc - Virginia Beach, VA

Marchel:  I have had three minor accidents.  Two of them with 16 and 17 year olds.  I think the driving age should be raised too.

Matt:  Thanks you made my day.

Mar 11, 2009 03:08 AM #11
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