Some Day You Won't Have Me To Kick Around Anymore

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

In working with folks looking at houses of every size and price range you just run into a whole mix of people from every economic status and such. One of the most fascinating mixes is age differences within families. The behavior of the 70+ yr. olds and the twenty somethings can be quite striking at times. Some older people are very optimistic but others can be down right cranky.


I call this the Grumpy Old Men effect. It can apply to women as well but for the sake of this tale let's see how it plays out.

The exchange between Grandpa and the twenty something grandson goes to the effect that the grandson doesn't appreciate all the worldly advice to the grandson about stop listening to so much music on that MP3 player with the earbuds in the head all the time, and then grandpa's line in the discussion,

Some Day You Won't Have Me To Kick Around Anymore. 

To me, it was a sad reflection on the grandfather's view of how he will be remembered after he is long gone. Now it could be said it was in jest. But literally some of us, both men and women, really do get cranky and grumpy as we age. Why? The negativity comes from regrets they harbor about missteps in their judgment, hard feelings about words inflicted upon them along the way, omissions of things they should have said and done, and just life's disappointments. They have been worn down. I get emails from a handful of these grumpy old men regularly and they are always bashing our country and talking politics. They bring a great deal of negative from the past to the present.

Unfortunately, I think they also believe they will have no good legacy. The fact is starting TODAY we ALL can have a great legacy if we work at it. Letting go of the past. Smiling. Loving all you come in contact with. Maybe a 9-11 event was not a world changer for them to realize their mortality. Maybe they need a little pretty girl to come up to them with a flower and say, "I love you Grandpa." I do hope before they die someone or some event will soften their hearts. We all should not go through life with hard hearts.

Check yourself in the mirror today and use a few role models I have used on how you want to exit stage left someday. Women or men, think of these great celebrities who left us with nary a discouraging word said about them. Lou Gehrig, Jimmy Stewart, Fred Rogers, Red Skelton, Mother Teresa. We all don't have to be saints, but we can leave behind people feeling like this about us:

"When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling, and everyone around you is crying."

Comments (21)

Toula Rosebrock
Diane Turton, Realtors, Forked River, NJ - Lacey Township, NJ
Broker/Sales Associate, Realtor, Lacey Township, - Diane Turton, RealtorsHi Gary:

What a wonderful post....and your closing quote, just "awesome".

Words to LIVE by!!!

Mar 11, 2009 05:17 AM
Justin Voisin
RE/MAX Realty 100 - Menomonee Falls, WI

Hey Gary,

So true!  I just hope that I don't get bogged down by negativity but instead I continue to find and focus on the positive things in life . . . because there is much to be positive about out there!

Mar 11, 2009 05:31 AM
Connie Lou Barnett
Real Living/Home Realty - Owensboro, KY

I can relate to grumpy old men!

Mar 11, 2009 05:31 AM
Christine Bohn
RE/MAX Professionals - Gainesville, FL
The Bohn Team, Gainesville FL

Gary - such thoughtful words of wisdom.  You made me cry.   The quotation at the bottom is one I have never heard and I like it very much.  Thank you and I need to go check myself in the mirror today too.

Mar 11, 2009 05:31 AM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Gary...Great advice.  I know that in my own life, my dad get's smarter everyday.  For us, it boils down to Positive Attitude!

Mar 11, 2009 05:50 AM
Michael A. Caruso
Surterre Properties - Laguna Niguel, CA


Classic photo post there...what a pair!

I absolutely love the diversity of working with different age matter what their style is, I find it fun to adjust my means of communicating to accomodate them

What a business...and they won't have me to kick around forever either....

Mar 11, 2009 05:53 AM
Connie Goodrich
Keller Williams Realty - McKinney, TX
CRS ABR (McKinney Realtor)Texas

Being older and graciously handling the sometime inconveniences are difficult for certain personality types.  They tend to make the room miserable because they are miserable.  Then there are the blest people you know that flow with grace and make it a mission to bring a smile to all.  Those are the ones we strive to be like and admire the most.  I love the movie Grumpy Old Men, you still laugh and love them!

Mar 11, 2009 07:42 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Gary:  Nice reflective piece.  Timely too!  Just had lunch with Mom.  She is certainly crankier with every passing day.   Treats strangers the worst!  It is embarassing.

Mar 11, 2009 08:13 AM
JL Boney, III
Coldwell Banker - Columbia, SC
Columbia, SC Real Estate

I think I have already resigned myself to be a grumpy old man, but your advice at the end of the post is great.

Mar 11, 2009 09:53 AM
Donna Yates
BHGRE - Metro Brokers - Blue Ridge, GA
Blue Ridge Mountains

Gary:  I think you summed it up perfectly, "The negativity comes from regrets they harbor about missteps in their judgment, hard feelings about words inflicted upon them along the way, omissions of things they should have said and done, and just life's disappointments. They have been worn down."  Especially the part about being worn down.  I know my patience is not what it used to be, nor do I see life through the rose colored glasses I once wore.  Your last comment is one to remember each and every day. 

Mar 11, 2009 10:08 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Hello my friend-What an absolutely a beautiful post. It sure does make you stop and think about what you want to accomplish in life and how you want to be remembered. Thank you for such a beautiful post and a reminder you have to start now and make a conscious decision to be the best you can be. Enjoy your evening.

Mar 11, 2009 10:18 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Gary--So very true...I plan to stay positive and not become one of the grumpy ones! Enjoy each day and period of life as it comes to you. That is the best way to live!

Mar 11, 2009 10:44 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Anne: Keep your beautiful smile going and give it to all you meet and YOU Anne will never become a grumpy person.

Toula: Glad you liked those final words. I do too.

Justin: Good for you with your desire to be positive. Stay focused on that and you will be fine.

Connie Lou Barnett: I've seen a few grumpies in my day, and for some reason they like to hang around me, although I have never been able to change them.

Christine: You'll be fine. Just don't turn into a grumpy one. Always better not bitter. That last quote is a famous one.

William: Glad your Dad is getting better each day.

Michael: You have a great attitude changing your pace to meet the person. Leave them laughing.

Connie Goodrich: Some are as miserable as they want to be. You hope they will change some day.

Chris Ann: Maybe Mom will change eventually. Hope so. We can go through phases.

JL: You're a grumpy YOUNG man. Stop that!! : )

Donna: Sometimes with that worn down part we just need to come to a point in our lives and get a boost. It kind of refreshes us for the whole rest of the journey.

Sharon: We don't last forever, so it is good to be cognizant of what we will leave behind and whom we have touched.


Mar 11, 2009 10:51 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Teri: Excellent thought. Live in the present and don't be grumpy.

Mar 11, 2009 10:51 AM
Peggy Wester
Realty Executives Integrity - Grafton, WI
Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County

Admittedly, I worry about what others will say about me when I'm gone. You reminded me, though, that now is the time to start making changes, to be a better person, to really go after what you want, and to let go of the past.

Mar 11, 2009 01:26 PM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX

I also truly appreciate the last remark of your post, leaving a lasting legacy that will be appreciated by everyone around us. then again sometimes I would like to be remembered for outliving everyone...Have a great week!

Mar 11, 2009 02:15 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones


Your summation is perfect! My husband Gene loves life and has fun where ever he goes..his motto has always been you have to have fun in life! Gene has never met a stranger and people are drawn to him like a magnet. The grandchildren love to spend time with him. He will be one and that will be smiling when he leaves and all of us around him will be crying!

Mar 11, 2009 10:25 PM
Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

I risk getting thumped on the nose but I am going to say it anyway.  Great post!!  Lol.  I hope to God that when my children remember me, that they remember my smile and laugh, and not the the passionately angry part of me!

Mar 12, 2009 02:33 PM
Deb Brooks
Brooks Prime Properties Wichita Falls Texas - Wichita Falls, TX


I love this one. Even though I had to go outside the group to find it lol. I pray I don't turn into one of those grumpy old people. There is just too much good in life. When I die, I do want to be smiling.

Hugs, Deb

Mar 18, 2009 12:58 PM
William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Thanks Gary, for the great post. This is something that needed to be said, and, it seems, needs to be said more often. Letting go of regrets is the one thing that can truly make one's life less miserable, and definitely contributes to a healthier and more positive outlook on life. 

Mar 20, 2009 04:24 PM