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Happy Birthday, Dad....Peter Provenzale

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Happy Birthday, Dad - Peter F. Provenzale 

As much as I try, this is always a sad day for me.  It's my father's birthday and although I know he's around, I miss him.  So a tribute and a story about a wonderful man:

If you've read my blogs you probably remember that my Father served in WWll and reach Lt. Colonel.  He flew when Clark Gable was filming a movie there called "Combat America" and is in many parts of it.  Here's one if you care to watch it:

I had the phenomenal blessing to have been contacted this last year by the son of the last remaining Crew Member of the "Argonaut" (their airplane's name).  Mr. Alvin Hulse contacted me and I was able to speak to his father Phil Hulse who flew alongside my dad in the 8th Air Force, 351st. Division.  He found me through an Activerain Post!Peter F. Provenzale Lt. Colonel B17 WW11 8th Air Force, 351st

My father did not speak much about his Air Force days.  I do know that he had a secret pocket built into his flight jacket in which he carried my mother's engagement ring.  He would not marry her before going off to war because he didn't want to leave her a widow....and always told us that ring was what kept him alive.

My father flew with Phil Hulse and he shared some amazing stories and photos with me.  For example, I did not know this sent in part of an email he wrote me:

"My father informed me that your father did not have to fly his final 8 missions and could have returned home with his crew members. Instead, he chose to fulfill his 25 mission requirement and stayed behind to fight the war. The crew members of the Argonuat were nearly broken up before their group formed in order to spread more experienced crew members to other planes. There was near revolt, among the crew, over this decision to break up the crew and, in the end, the Army Air Corp. elected to keep crew together. This happened in Tuscon Arizona just before they flew overseas in late April 1943.

The Argonaut 3 went down in the English Channel while returning from Germany on their 24 mission. The plane was low on fuel and the pilot made it to land and he truned the plane around and the crew whet out at night over land from an altitude of 2,500 feet. The plane was on autopilot and crashed into the channel when it ran out of fuel."

World War 2, Argonaut Airplane 8th Air Force 351stCourtesy of Mr. Alvin Hulse

When my dad was coming home, he wrote directly to Mr. Levitt having heard about his new community, Levittown.  He received a reply and had a rental home available for my dad (and his new wife!) when he arrived back in New YorkSo began their life in Levittown, NY.  A year after renting, they found a home they absolutely LOVED-and purchased it.

My father went to college and was interested in the fact that so many men lost their hearing after the war.  He began to study Audiology and eventually opened the first store on Long Island NY for the Hearing Impaired.  At a long ago time when people were pulled in kicking and screaming because they didn't want to wear one.

He loved giving people the gift of hearing.  As technology grew, they came willingly.  One thing my father always did was take them outside....to hear the birds sing.  It sounds like such a simple thing but they'd get tears in their eyes.

I went to work for him for many years and became a NYS Registered Hearing Aid Dispenser.  When my father passed, he left me to run the business...a difficult task for someone so young.  When I had to make a decision, I would often wonder what my father would have done and it helped me a great deal.

I could not see people after he passed.  I hired someone for the front (my old position), had two other consultants there and took my Dad's old seat.  Although I wasn't up to seeing anyone, one day a man insisted he come into the room I was in.  He told me a story about my father I will never forget:

Years ago he had taken his mother in because her hearing was failing.  My father had tried a hearing aid on her after testing her and saw her face light up.  The man was so upset because he had no money at all to pay for the hearing aid.  My father proceeded to make the earmold even as the man kept telling him he didn't know when or IF he could ever pay for it.

"It's a gift" said my dad. "If you can't pay for it, don't worry about it---everyone deserves to hear."  Even as this man told me so many years later, he still got tears in his eyes.  Through the years I heard almost the same story from many others....It taught me more lessons then I ever could have learned but most of all that it's not about the money in life, it's about HELPING PEOPLE.  That gives you more satisfaction and happiness then money could ever buy.

Peter Provenzale from Brooklyn New York

Happy Birthday, Dad!

*Carole Provenzale, Certified Feng Shui Consultant New York NY

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Laura Cerrano is a second-generation Certified New York City Feng Shui Consultant Expert. As a full-time Feng Shui consultant, Laura provides bicoastal consultations and workshops for residential, commercial, real estate developments, Fortune 500 companies and healing faculties. In addition, Laura is a resident teacher at the Metropolitan Institute of Design in Syosset, NY. She has been featured in highly respected publications and TV networks such as Bravo's "Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen," PBS, CBC Television, BBC Radio and The New York Times. 

 

Comments(26)

Steve Shatsky
Dallas, TX

Carole... this is truly a touching remembrance and tribute to your father.  Happy Birthday to your Dad... from a fan!

Feb 18, 2010 02:41 PM
Martha Brown
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc., Annapolis MD 21403 - Annapolis, MD
Your Homes Around Annapolis Agent

Carole- When you were born you gave your Dad the gift of you. As you grew up he gave you the gift of himself. It was a perfect combination.  An absolutely beautiful tribute to your Dad and such wonderful memories you have to keep close to your heart.  

Feb 18, 2010 02:43 PM
Fred Carver Real Estate Consulant
Retired BC Realtor - Victoria, BC
Accredited Real Estate Consultant

Hi Carole...What a great story about you and your Dad and his life. Love it. I too Now hear hearing aids, the first time I put them on, I heard the rain for the first time in many years..it's been almost ten years now. The Models I have are Blue tooth equipped ....just in time for the hands free driving with my Cell phone..Happy Birthday to your Dad! It's Men like him and Daughters like you that make our World a better place to live.

Feb 18, 2010 02:53 PM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

Carole -- what a lovely tribute.  Your dad was such a special person and he left this world a better place.  I am honored to have a b-day on 2/18... I am in such great company.

Feb 18, 2010 03:19 PM
Deena Cottingham
GreenApple Staging & Images, Calgary Staging & Photography - Calgary, AB
Home Stager & Photographer
Beautiful, Carole. And you totally have your Dad's eyes. That's the best tribute . . . to inhabit his spirit.
Feb 18, 2010 03:33 PM
Gail Robinson
William Raveis Real Estate - Southport, CT
CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT

Carole -Your dad was an amazing person, a hero not only in war, but in the rest of his life.  I got the sense of his strength and compassion through your story.  No wonder you have such wonderful qualities yourself.  Your dad would be proud of you.

Feb 18, 2010 03:44 PM
Rita Fong
RE/MAX REAL ESTATE TODAY, Executive Broker 901-488-9590 - Marion, AR
Realtor - Marion Arkansas Homes for Sale

Carole, it is very obvious that you love your dad very much, and it is very nice of you to share his story with us on this special day.  He may not be around, but your memories of him is always with you.  Happy Birthday to your dad.

Feb 18, 2010 04:54 PM
Maria Morton
Platinum Realty - Kansas City, MO
Kansas City Real Estate 816-560-3758

Carole, I have tears in my eyes. Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to your Dad with us.

Feb 18, 2010 05:10 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Carole,

Thank you for sharing your well written tribute to your father..he indeed would be proud to know how well he taught you lessons in life. Happy Birthday to your dad!

Feb 18, 2010 10:46 PM
Jackie Connelly-Fornuff
Douglas Elliman Real Estate in Babylon NY - Babylon, NY
"Moving at The Speed of YOU!"

Hi Carole, you look just like him! What a great tribute to your Dad. At least you were close with him and that says a lot! :) Happy Birthday to Dad!

Feb 18, 2010 10:48 PM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Carole, Thank you for sharing your wonderful memories. It brought tears to my eyes. I lost my Dad in September and I miss him a lot.

Feb 18, 2010 11:20 PM
Craig Rutman
Helping people in transition - Cary, NC
Raleigh, Cary, Apex area Realtor

What a great tribute to someone who has obviously left an indelible mark on your life.....your dad.

Beautiful Carole. Just beautiful.

Feb 19, 2010 12:31 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Andrew, Thank you for reading....You never know who's reading AR and that's how they found me.  But I believe out posts go into archive so I don't think they're "alive" forever. 

Marchel, I loved it as well.  It was a magic moment to put a hearing aid on someone who hadn't even realized what they'd been missing for so many years!  I remember they became "in fashion" during the Regan era and my dad sent people away!  You are SO fortunate to have both your parents....I am fortunate to have my mom still here at 87!

Margaret, Thank you for your kind words but I was the lucky one...he was a very special person.

Elizabeth, I didn't know your father had a home in Levittown...I wrote so many posts about it and to date they have been the most widely read.  It was a wonderful place to grow up!  Thank you for your kind wishes and if you want to see old pictures of Levittown they are on my older posts...or all over Facebook :)

Bruce, My dad struggled for years in the beginning with his business....so did I.  I'm not sure I even realized it until you wrote it but he did give me resolve as well to get through the difficult times.

Donna, Thank you so much for all your kind wishes.  I appreciate your thoughts.

Steve, Thank you so much.  I'm thrilled to read you had a blast at Raincamp!! 

Martha, My parents always encouraged us to follow our hearts....I'm not sure if that type of thinking was popular way back when but I'm very fortunate.

Fred, Hearing aids have come SO far!  But it was those precious sounds that people didn't realize they didn't hear anymore....the rain and birds singing.  I will never forget stopping whatever I was doing and going outside with a person who was just getting a new aid!  Thank you for your warm wishes.

Joan, I didn't know my friend.....HAPPY BIRTHDAY!  I'm sorry I missed it and I hope you had a wonderful day and a year of blessings to follow it.

 

 

Feb 19, 2010 06:28 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Deena, Thank you, that was a kind thing to say.  I learned a lot watching him and his ethics but found out things I never would have known after he passed....

Gail, All of us in our family were a little "different" from most people :)  I often wonder what he would have thought about my choice of a 'career.'  My mother thinks he would have been proud and I so hope so.

Rita, Thank you for the kind birthday wishes.  I'm sure he is around, I just miss SEEING him!

Maria, Thank you...I almost didn't write it because it was so late.  Then I couldn't go to bed without getting it up :)

Dorie, Thank you so much.  My father passed so young (at 60) that I'm not really sure he understood that I did get his values but I hope he sees it from wherever he is.

Jackie, Our whole family was close and it was wonderful always having that sense of family.  I wondered when I went to work there if we would argue but we never did.

Gita, I'm so sorry....I know the hurt.  It gets better but my dad has been gone since 1980 and the day is always difficult still.  Just know that he's never far away.

Craig, Thank you....that's a nice way to put it and certainly what he did.

Feb 19, 2010 06:39 AM
Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers
RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage - Brampton, ON
Our Family Wants To Help Your Family!
What an absolute beautiful tribute Carole to one amazing human being!!
Feb 19, 2010 01:16 PM
Carol Smith
Casmi Photography - Mebane, NC

A very loving tribute to a man who fathered a loving and caring daughter.  I'm sure that he is lookingi down and smiling so very proudly.  Happy Birthday Mr. Provenzale!

Feb 19, 2010 02:12 PM
Ann Allen Hoover
RE/MAX Advantage South - Hoover, AL
CDPE SRES ASP e-PRO Realtor - Homes for Sale - AL

Your dad was an amazing man......I would loved to have had the privilege of meeting him.

Happy Birthday (a few days late)!

Feb 20, 2010 11:48 AM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Carole and what a wonderful story and I am sorry I came around a couple days short. Your father sounds he was a hero, a wonderful man and a wonderful father!

VB ;o)

Feb 20, 2010 02:53 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher
Thank you for your well wishes to my dad! I'm sure that makes him proud....and it very much made me happy!
Feb 22, 2010 04:19 PM
Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Carole, for some reason I just had to read through this wonderful tribute to your dad again!  We miss you so much!

Jun 12, 2013 12:00 PM