Paul S.  Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,, Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority! (RE/MAX Professionals.)

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Candice A. Donofrio
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In real estate and in life, accountability is a big test of character. If you can't be the grownup in the room, this especially is the wrong business to be in.

Mar 07, 2018 02:41 PM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,
RE/MAX Professionals. - Tacoma, WA
Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority!

I screwed up recently with one of my listings and as soon as I became aware of it I called my seller and told them I had made a mistake and I already took care of it and I'm sorry. I kept the listing and got another listing to boot because the seller respected me for my honesty and no excuse mentality...

Mar 07, 2018 02:27 PM
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Libby Cousins
Extraordinary Processing - Spokane, WA
Contract Mortgage Processor, licensed in WA

It is one of my pet peeves in anything in life! I have found that people respect you so much more if you accept responsibility for your actions and explain the steps that you are taking to resolve things. I really dislike when people point fingers at others and say it wasn't their fault. 

Mar 07, 2018 02:17 PM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Real estate and all of life.  The lack of accountability and responsibility boggles my mind. 

Mar 07, 2018 03:08 PM
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Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

The same type of people are everywhere.  I just focus on the positive.

Mar 07, 2018 03:57 PM
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS, Broker
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ
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I let it go in one ear and out the other. Folks that blame stuff on 'whatever' haven't figured the game of life and business out yet. Over the years a few of us have joked about this blame game - let's just blame somebody else as they seem to all think that will work out fine - lol - and it is so much easier then fessing up and saying - I screwed up. Own up to it, find a solution and move forward. Anything else? No......

Mar 07, 2018 02:57 PM
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Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
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It's one of my pet peeves in real estate and EVERY OTHER venue....! 

Mar 07, 2018 02:48 PM
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Mike & Eve Alexander
Buyers Broker of Florida - Orlando, FL
Exclusively Representing ONLY Orlando Home Buyers

Grrrr...You mean all the liars in our industry?

Eve

Mar 07, 2018 02:18 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

It's not productive and I do not entertain it.

Mar 07, 2018 06:47 PM
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David Martin (703) 585-4687
Fairfax Realty - Fairfax, VA
Making Realty Dreams a Reality

Always take the high road you can not control someone else's behavior only your own  Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS, 

Mar 07, 2018 04:27 PM
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Andrea Moore
The Mortgage Market of Delaware - Lewes, DE

What's even worse is when they don't apologize.

Mar 07, 2018 03:26 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Paul,

I share Candice A. Donofrio opinion.  One of our friends used to call these people, big babies!  A

Mar 07, 2018 02:57 PM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
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I don't like that either, Paul.... tough for some to fess-up....

Mar 07, 2018 02:29 PM
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Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

Not only in real estate but in life generally! If you make a mistake own it. I see people make mistakes and then work harder on not owning it than owning it and letting it go. We all make mistakes just a fact of life.

Mar 07, 2018 05:57 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Life can be a sea of pride and the many people sail on it too frequently

Mar 07, 2018 05:42 PM
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Ruth Grainger-Starr
Grainger Realty - Cripple Creek, CO
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Drives me nuts in any aspect of life! 

Mar 07, 2018 05:29 PM
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Susie Kay
Ultima Real Estate - Plano, TX
North Dallas Specialist

Annoying.  If you make a mistake, admit and apologize.  

Mar 07, 2018 05:21 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
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Best to avoid that game in any arena.

Mar 07, 2018 04:46 PM
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Dee Toohey
Innovative Realty Solutions Group - Longwood, FL
Broker, ABR, AHWD, CIPS, FMS, ePro

Owe it.  Fix it.  Period.

Mar 07, 2018 03:20 PM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

That is one of my pet peeves also.

Then SPRINT decided to engage in mischief and my calls  and mail and messages did not come in. I'm sure "I didn't get your message' sounded like an excuse to those who were disappointed.....but the reality is,

'SH** happens."

Chaos happens but we still need to be kind.

We know not the burden under which others strain.

Be slow to judge and quick to forgive.

Mar 07, 2018 02:51 PM
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Fred Griffin
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
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    Put them on your "people to avoid" list.

Mar 07, 2018 02:49 PM
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Nina Hollander
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Those kind of people annoy me to death... at some point adults and professionals need to know how to "own" what they do or don't do (and not just in the real estate realm). The dog ate my homework excuse is bad enough from kids...

Mar 08, 2018 04:09 AM
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Tammy Lankford,
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No excuses here.  I always take responsibility.  Had dealings with someone who didn't this week.  Ugh.

Mar 07, 2018 07:20 PM
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Jim Cheney
Saint Francis Property Santa Rosa, CA - Santa Rosa, CA
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You would not like my 18 year old son Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS, 

Mar 07, 2018 05:16 PM
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Shawn and Angela Miller
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Amabassador Real Estate - Lincoln, NE
Lincoln and Omaha, NE REALTORS®

What's the old saying, when you point your finger at someone else, you have three fingers poointing back at you.

Mar 07, 2018 03:48 PM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

We have become a society that just likes to blame others.

Mar 08, 2018 04:48 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

Ugh. I do not like anyone who plays the blame game or has an excuse for anything, in any area of life. On the other hand, I totally respect those who own up to their mistakes.

Mar 08, 2018 03:13 AM
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Allie Angeloni
Long Realty - Oro Valley, AZ

I feel that those folks do not 'see' that they have accountability and responsibility 'themselves' in all situations.  We are the master of our own fate, and make our own choices (no choice, is also a 'choice') Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,.  This can easily be a pet peeve in life, not just in real estate.

Mar 07, 2018 09:22 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
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People that do that do it in all aspects of their lives, not just as real estate agents. Good for you standing up and fixing it.

Mar 07, 2018 08:06 PM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

I avoid them.

Mar 07, 2018 07:27 PM
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Diana Dahlberg
1 MONTH REALTY - Kenosha, WI
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Best to fess up and move on. 

Mar 07, 2018 06:53 PM
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Chrissi Chapman Topoleski
Re/Max Real Estate Connections - Haymarket, VA
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I don't like dealing with people who do that in business or in my personal life. Accepting responsibility for our actions -good and bad- is the ethical way to live.

Mar 07, 2018 05:27 PM
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Dave Halpern
Keller Williams Realty Louisville East (502) 664-7827 - Louisville, KY
Louisville Short Sale Expert

My advice to that person; "Grow up or get out of my orbit"

Mar 07, 2018 05:01 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
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Paul, I think it exists in every walk of life. 

Mar 07, 2018 04:59 PM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD
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The new leader of the blame game is Trump.

Mar 07, 2018 04:44 PM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg IL Area Real Estate

Maturity level is lacking. Be responsible for yourself & your actions.

Instead of an excuse flying out of their mouth - ask how to solve problem, not discuss it over & over.

Mar 08, 2018 05:33 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker

When it is my fault, the blame game won't change it.

Mar 08, 2018 04:53 AM
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James Dray
Fathom Realty AR LLC - Bentonville, AR
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IMHO, the only blame I can bestow on someone, is the person I see in the mirror each day.

Mar 08, 2018 04:09 AM
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Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
PREA Realty - Laguna Niguel, CA

It's always best to own it and fix it.  People respect that.  Escuses and blaming just make you look weak. 

Mar 07, 2018 08:54 PM
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Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
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No accountability in some

Mar 07, 2018 07:23 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
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Agents that blame others when it is very obvious they are at fault

Mar 07, 2018 06:36 PM
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John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

If you cannot accept responsibility when something goes amiss you cannot expect kudos for lucking into being successful.

Mar 07, 2018 06:23 PM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

It gets old fast. I first try to prevent said issues. If issue arises, i solve said issue. I woudl rather look ahead then look back and blame. 

Mar 08, 2018 06:54 AM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
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Welcome to the "It's all about Me, I have no responsobility for anything" age!

 

Mar 08, 2018 06:49 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS, I agree! It is always the agent's fault when things don't go right especially with a seller. Overpriced: Agent's fault; Seller won't do repairs: Agent's fault; Long time on market: Agent's fault We could go on and on.

However, it the agent makes a mistake they should immediately own up to it and move on to get the job done.

Mar 08, 2018 06:46 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
BVO Luxury Group @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Serving Scottsdale, Phoenix and Maricopa County AZ

Candice A. Donofrio nailed this one!

Mar 08, 2018 06:30 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I feel the same.

Mar 08, 2018 06:27 AM
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Gloria Valvasori, Accredited Senior Agent
BETTER HOMES AND GARDENS REAL ESTATE SIGNATURE SERVICE - Mississauga, ON
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This is one of my pet peeves as well.. be an adult and take responsibility if you made a mistake... The other pet peeve is when a Buyer client requests to meet with me at a specific time to show them a property and they are LATE... If I can manage to get their at THEIR requested time why can't they?

Mar 08, 2018 06:20 AM
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Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
AZuRE Team - Realty ONE Group - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

Sadly Paul, that's a thing about people in general....

Mar 08, 2018 06:04 AM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS, - move on! Next....

Mar 07, 2018 10:22 PM
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Steven Nickens
Elite Pacific Properties Maui - Wailea, HI
R(S)GRI ABR, Maui Real Estate Hawaii

Let see, I try to avoid crazy people, negative, complainers, blamers, and people who drop in on me while I am surfing.

Mar 07, 2018 10:20 PM
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Joan Cox
Metro Brokers - House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I feel they should leave the industry, you need to own up to your mistakes.

Mar 11, 2018 08:02 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Los Angeles CA

I am not around those toxic people. You do not need to listen the whole complain. Politely remove yourself.

Mar 08, 2018 11:26 PM
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Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
Premier Real Estate Service in Central Oregon

There are people out there who blame others for everything rather than looking at the "man in the mirror." This is true in every situation - even beyond real estate.

Mar 08, 2018 11:34 AM
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Sybil Campbell
Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia - Williamsburg, VA
REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia

It is a pet peeve of mine as well but those type of people are in every walk of life and they can be very annoying!  

Mar 08, 2018 11:06 AM
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John Meussner
Mason-McDuffie Mortgage, Conventional Loans, Jumbo Loans, FHA, 203(k), USDA, VA, - Walnut Creek, CA
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I feel they're not going to last very long.  People get tired of that type very quickly, and their negativity is often contagious - better to remove them than put up with them.

Mar 08, 2018 09:42 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
www.HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I think it shows small mindedness and an inability to accept the blame for their actions. 

Mar 08, 2018 09:29 AM
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Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Off with their heads.  Seriously, I find with Q&A you can see one after another AR member adding with humility where they struggle and looking for help when here it comes. Whatever the topic, two members distance themselves and say oh no. They never have that happen.  Different kind of pet peeve because it does not add to the conversation value. Should be providing examples that help, to share how you struggled and overcame but don't make it sound like you never ever had this or that situation come up when we all know you have if you've been around the real estate rodeo for a few market sessions Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS, !

 

 

 

Mar 08, 2018 03:58 AM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I just ignore it

Mar 08, 2018 03:43 AM