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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
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When I was in the corporate world we had a benefit called Employee Assistance Plan. I would speak with my colleague and suggest that they seek help and discreetly inform our manager of the situation.

May 26, 2019 03:50 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Depression can stem from several root causes.

Poor diet or not enough rest.
Chemical/hormone imbalance.
Incorrect/over medication. Trad medicine hands out psych meds like candy and should be shot.

Most of the time it is because of codependency, trying to force situations that cannot be forced, being 'out of the moment' clinging to the past or anxious about the future (both do not exist), a lack of self-acceptance, a lack of acceptance of others and -what is'.

Abraham Hicks says that if you can change your mood holding a positive dominant thought for 17 seconds, you can make happiness into a habit. I can raise my own vibratory rate in 30 seconds.

And if the circumstances call for a good cry and half a bottle of tequila, hell yeah.

But the beginning is to find out why. Then you can fix it.

Our natural state is peace and happiness. What's in the way of that?

May 26, 2019 06:11 AM
Rainmaker
3,307,632
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Listening matters.  Dealing with issues such as this depends on the situation and the people involved. 

May 26, 2019 04:54 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

Well, if they are seriously depressed and not just having a bad time, I'd suggest they talk to a professional. But if things just haven't been going well, I'd listen. If they wanted suggestions, I'd give them. Otherwise, I'd just be there.

May 26, 2019 02:48 AM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

I would listen intently and then advise them to speak to a professional.

Counseling is not taboo as it once was and I let them know that am not qualified to counsel them but, I will certainly be there to listen anytime they need me.

May 26, 2019 06:21 AM
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James Dray
Fathom Realty - Rogers, AR
Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results

Simple, I don't let the little things get to me, therefore all issues are little ones

May 26, 2019 03:22 AM
Rainmaker
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Paul,

I would tell them to start counting their blessings...

May 25, 2019 11:14 PM
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Dan Pittsenbarger
Keller Williams Western Realty - Bellingham, WA
Improving Conditions

I listen and really make an effort to totally duplicate and understand what they are dealing with. I may or may not offer any input - they may not want any.  Rather than give an advice on their "situation", I would attempt to get them to spend some time outside each day - walking at looking at the environment rather than "thinking".  I would also get them producing, get into action and getting products out (completing cycles of action). Production is the basis for morale. Whatever they are doing I would get them to do it faster - move the body faster. Slow or no motion body motion go hand in hand with depression. It is very difficult to be sad/depressed when one moving their body quickly. No one gets depressed while they a playing a game of raquet ball or running or simply busy zipping from appointment to appointment, getting the kids off to school, getting the shopping done, mowing the lawn, wahsing the car etc etc - there's no time to for the luxury of sitting around feeling depressed.

May 26, 2019 06:29 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I come across the many who are plagued by unfinished personal business, trauma, dysfunction and hopelessness and in a a few short moments can help them get better footing so they may unravel their burdens and begin to leave them behind. Each approach is subject to the moment we are in and exclusive to the person involved. I also have books to leave them with....

May 26, 2019 06:22 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

there's not much one can do other than suggest they seek professional help....

May 26, 2019 05:36 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Kat Palmiotti and I are on the same page regarding this!

May 26, 2019 05:32 AM
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

I can't remember anyone ever telling me they were depressed. True depressives, like my brother, often don't admit they are depressed. You just need to know how to read the signals of depression. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain and can be treated.

People often confuse feeling "down" with depression. Often just listening to someone helps.

May 26, 2019 05:09 AM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

I would let them speak. Most of the time they probaby just want to vent, but it's important to recognize signs of serious depression when professional help might be in order. If they feel comfortable opening up to you that way, they must feel you're a special person, Paul.

May 26, 2019 04:35 AM
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Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
Raleigh - Cary Triangle Real Estate 919-602-8489

Sometimes people need someone to listen. If they really seem depressed, encourage them to seek help. There's no shame in that. I agree with Candice A. Donofrio that it can come from many things and there could be a real solution. Some people have a moment of depression because of what's going on in their lives and perhaps they need some counseling to get through their situation. I'd suggest they speak with their doctor and/or get counseling. Some people struggle with lifelong depression. Hopefully they're under a doctor's care as well. They definitely need systems to help them cope. 

May 26, 2019 06:29 AM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

I've never had to deal with that; however, I would listen and suggest they get professional help.

May 26, 2019 06:14 AM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Be sympathetic.

May 26, 2019 05:42 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Unfortunately, depression is now very common, especially among teenagers... when suicidal depression may lead to extreme actions...

Also unfortunately, depression is nearly twice as likely to affect women.

My advice, if you feel depressed, worn out, sad for a long time, reach out, talk to someone, even if that someone is not very close to you. 

 

If someone tells you they are depressed, let them talk to you, be kind. 

May 26, 2019 11:46 PM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

I would listen. Be empathic.  Suggest they get professional help. 

May 26, 2019 08:52 AM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg IL Real Estate

I've been there myself. Sometimes the walls just close in too fast. I always tell them to seek out someone professional to talk to. It is good to get a perspective outside our industry.

May 26, 2019 07:33 AM
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Corinne Guest
Corinne Guest, REALTOR® | Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
Barrington Lifestyles

Spend time with them talking it and talking it and talking it. If they are brave enough to start that convo I am patient enough to be there for them.

May 26, 2019 09:10 AM
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John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

I have not had that challenge. Depression can be very serious...even life-threatening.

May 26, 2019 08:56 AM
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Peter Testa
Nationwide Homes - Danbury, CT
PETER TESTA

Be supportive on-the-spot, offer to be there for them, let them know you are there if they need to talk,better yet call them to check in on them or to take them out someplace & do something fun. Lastly, recommend professional help. There's lots of good drugs that'll help ease anxiety. 

May 26, 2019 08:35 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

We all have ups and down in our business.  I try to listen to CD's that lift my spirits up.

 

May 26, 2019 08:20 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

I have had this happen in the past, from other agents to sellers to buyers. I take each one as it is and try to help. SOme cant be helped, they have to want to be helped

May 26, 2019 07:58 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

See a professional; psychologist first and if organic, get medication.

May 26, 2019 06:54 AM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I would worry about them, and try to listen to their issues.   

Jun 13, 2019 08:13 AM
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Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

Keep Busy !!!

May 27, 2019 12:45 PM
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J.R. Schloemer, CRS
Kentucky Select Properties - Louisville, KY

I just think, there is always tomorrow. 

May 26, 2019 08:43 PM
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Evelina Tsigelnitskaya
SIB Realty - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
www.SIBRealty.org 305-931-6931

Try to convince to get professional help

May 26, 2019 08:06 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Sometimes drugs are needed, other times they just need a bit of direction.

May 26, 2019 08:05 PM
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Valeria Mola
SIB Realty - Miami, Sunny Isles Beach - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
305-607-0709 SIB Realty

For sure, that person needs to get help.

May 26, 2019 05:12 PM
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Advise they seek professional help. Sometimes life events are bigger than our capability of handling on our own.

May 26, 2019 03:10 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Defer to a licensed professional.

May 26, 2019 01:39 PM
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Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

I just ignore them for the most part. It's the ones that never say anything about them being depressed that i might worry about.

May 26, 2019 01:17 PM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Recommend frequent walks in the community. This simple solution is helpful for many.  Sadly, some will need professional advice.

May 26, 2019 09:42 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Prozac of course.

Seriously, one must take care to know whether its is illness that is speaking or a condition environmentally (spiritually) induced. 

We as a society have LOST the capacity to help those who are in distress and the basics of hospitality gone with the greatest generation. We like to defer to the PROFESSIONALS. Ugh.

First LISTEN

Second: transfer

Third: reconnect

Fourth: remain PRESENT

Because our society fails in most if not all aspects, those in need find alcohol, drugs and perverse behavior more reliable than friends and family.

May 26, 2019 08:51 AM