Annette  Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041, Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ  (ReMax Realtec Group)

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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
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Each has it's own results when used properly

Jun 14, 2019 05:17 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
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LOL, the answer is yes! 🤔😜💋🎯

"We don't see things as they are; we see things as WE are."

When we want to see, then everything is a light bulb.

When we resist, everything is simply a mirror.

Jun 14, 2019 05:28 AM
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Mike Cooper, GRI
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Annette, I prefer to ask questions with little or no anticipation of the response. For me, that's where learning begins. 

Jun 14, 2019 05:43 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Keep things civil, agree to disagree without being disagreeable. That leaves you on a fine line when using number 2!

Jun 14, 2019 05:34 AM
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Dan Pittsenbarger
Keller Williams Western Realty - Bellingham, WA
Improving Conditions

Both .....Neither....

You do learn about the other guy - who agrees with one's view point and who doesn't with either type of question. Do people "learn" or change their view point as a result of such "learning"? - not usually.

One truly learns by applying data to their life or biz and finding out if it truely works that way or not for them. The rest is just trivia - unapplied data.

 

Jun 14, 2019 06:43 AM
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David M. Dwares
Title Professionals Corp. - Fort Lauderdale, FL
Title guy with a broker license

Nothing is gained from provoking with the intent to stir up passionate opposition except for A/R points from the responses.

I feel it cheapens the value of this forum.  I am not happy with the repetitive Utah student questions, but they do not know any better.  The real estate professionals should avoid trying to provoke here, especially when they can slide in a political angle.  That is what Facebook is for.

Jun 14, 2019 06:07 AM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

I would say one learns equally from both asking questions and passionate opposition. 

Jun 14, 2019 05:39 AM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
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It really depends a lot on what the specific questions are, and who and how the audience takes them.

Jun 14, 2019 06:26 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Anything that gives us input, feedback and response should be considered a good start. We can refine and direct it all after that. Use it all or lose it all

Jun 14, 2019 06:19 AM
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Raymond E. Camp
Howard Hanna Real Estate Services - Ontario, NY
Licensed Real Estate Salesperson Greater Rochester

From your answers #1 or in my case banging my head till it sinks in!

If I was a politician #2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jun 14, 2019 05:33 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

I have learned that the questions asked create memorable impressions of the member.

Jun 14, 2019 05:24 AM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

#1) For me personally, I don't know anyone who likes to be provoked.

Jun 14, 2019 08:17 AM
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Asking a question for the sole purpose to build consensus and agreement rarely accomplishes much.  I like differing points of view. 

However, from my experience "passionate opposition" usually ends up being disrespectful which turns everyone defensive to their personal opinion / position. That never accomplishes anything either.  So, I'll go with a modified version of #3.  Ask a thought-provoking question with the intent to generate respectful discussion of differing views.


That said, I know you can't legislate "respect" so you usually get what you get when it comes to opposing views. 

Jun 14, 2019 08:17 AM
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

This is an interactive forum and asking questions to gain more insight or to teach is invaluable. A difference of opinion is expected and can be enlightening but is not necessarily a personal attack. Now,  poking a bear with a sharp stick will definitely get a response!

Jun 14, 2019 11:32 AM
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Evelina Tsigelnitskaya
SIB Realty - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
www.SIBRealty.org 305-931-6931

# 2 

Jun 14, 2019 10:09 AM
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Valeria Mola
SIB Realty - Miami, Sunny Isles Beach - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
305-607-0709 SIB Realty

2. ;0

Jun 14, 2019 09:01 AM
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Each can work depending on the situation. What's wrong with passionate opposition so long as it's not ugly?

Jun 14, 2019 08:14 AM
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Alan May
Coldwell Banker Residential - Evanston, IL
Helping you find your way home.

are those my only options?

Jun 14, 2019 07:46 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Provocation is not a type of conversation I like to engage in.  It is what has caused a rift among many.  I love discussions where everyone contributes their thoughts and observations without anyone else jumping all over them because they do not like what the other person said.  We have a mastermind that has led to wonderful insights.  Each one of us has differing viewpoints, and each week we learn.  A

Jun 14, 2019 07:24 AM
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Thomas J. Nelson, Realtor, ePRO, CRS, RCS-D
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

I think not being a pussy willow about debating your position against somebody that you respect that may have a completely opposing position is where you learn the most because it causes you to dig deep.

Jun 14, 2019 07:11 PM
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Peter Testa
Nationwide Homes - Danbury, CT
PETER TESTA

I like a mix of #1 & #2. #2 isn't bad if you stay off the topics of Politics, Religion & Sex because they can really heat up & the whole thread can go KAPLOOEY. 

Jun 14, 2019 01:41 PM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Why provocation? Why not a question to which one is seriously seeking an answer, receiving answers from both ends of the spectrum and everything in between and then moderate a healthy debate? 

I learn so much more from conversations like that than those where everyone agrees OR begin piling on, truly representing online bullying at its best.

Jun 14, 2019 10:28 AM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg IL Real Estate

You like #2 & I'm surprised that you can't figure out that no one wants to play.

Q's here come in all shapes & sizes. One doesn't have to disagree (provoke) to have someone put a damned good idea in the comment. There's been plenty of times when I've said 'woah, I never thought about that'. That's really the knowledge you are after right?

Jun 14, 2019 09:31 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
www.HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Both can be used effectively.  Opposition does not always lead to new ideas (just look at politics for example, with calling people "Nazis" and "Bigots" being an interntional way of saying "I don't like your poitics").

Jun 14, 2019 09:06 AM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

It depends on who is doing the learning.  Some people never get the lesson. 

Jun 14, 2019 08:46 AM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Geneva Financial, Llc. - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

#2 fer sho!

 

Jun 14, 2019 07:35 AM
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Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

2. Is certainly not the right way.

Jun 14, 2019 07:31 AM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

1

Jun 14, 2019 06:02 AM
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Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

I think it depends on the question. I know I don't like to provoke or be provoked. Words can never be taken back once spoken. 

Jun 14, 2019 05:44 PM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

just ask questions, listen and absorb the answers.... 

Jun 14, 2019 09:53 AM
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Maria Sapio
Keller Williams of Central PA - Carlisle, PA
Real Estate Agent- Carlisle, PA. Mariasapio.com

Learning to learn is a lifelong endeavor - 

Jun 14, 2019 09:15 AM
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Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Let's be civil even when we disagree.

Jun 14, 2019 08:19 AM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Just go do it and report your results.

Jun 14, 2019 08:01 AM
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Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
Raleigh - Cary Triangle Real Estate 919-602-8489

There's something to be learned from both. Of course there's

3. Ask questions you want answers to that you don't already have.

 

Jun 15, 2019 06:18 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

One learns much about human nature from both: the desire of many to want to fit in and be agreeable, the type of issues that push buttons, that there are others who like to purposely stir the pot....  It's all interesting and lesson-teaching, both to watch and participate in.

Jun 15, 2019 03:06 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

It is ok to ask a question that makes one think, that starts a discussion but i dont like any questions that provoke.

Jun 14, 2019 05:14 PM
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John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

If I already know the answer, I don't need to ask the question. I don't ask questions to poke people.

Jun 14, 2019 04:31 PM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

By asking the right questions.

Jul 03, 2019 04:52 PM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

I would say 1 for sure.

 

Jun 19, 2019 12:07 PM
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Pam Gordon
HomeSmart Realty Group - Colorado Springs, CO
Your Colorado Springs Realtor!

Discomfort or Pain seem to be the lesson that stick the most, but provide growth opportunities. Such as pruning dead branches from trees/shrubs to allow for new growth.

Jun 18, 2019 11:33 AM