Pam Gordon, Your Colorado Springs Realtor! (HomeSmart Realty Group)

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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
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You asked for OUR OPINIONS! If you only want afformation for a bad idea then don't ask for our opinions.

Jul 15, 2019 07:16 AM
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Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Pam, I looked at the question and read all the comments, the only one being judgy, was you. Instead of getting mad, perhaps, you could take a different approach and ask why many who answered are not using auto-dialers. That would be the way I look at it. 
Copying and pasting answers are not the way I would've gone about it.  

Jul 15, 2019 09:00 AM
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Alan May
Coldwell Banker Residential - Evanston, IL
Helping you find your way home.

I just located the post that was likely the catalyst for your question.  You asked about people with experience with "dialers", and many answered that they don't have any experience, and didn't support using dialers.  You chose to take those responses, which were fairly matter-of-fact as "snarky".

I guess snark is in the mind of the beholder, 'cause I didn't 'hear' any snark in those responses.  I guess if you're looking for trouble, you'll find it.
Jul 15, 2019 07:32 AM
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Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton)

Pam, you've got 127,000+ points, I would expect by now you've seen points driven behavior in this community?

ANY question asked in this particular part of the forum is often populated with many "nonanswers" that are there solely for points collection purposes (assuming I'm mindreading properly).

I looked back at what I'd assume to be the spark for this particular Q, and there wasn't a single response that I'd consider worthy of being labeled "Judgy". 

People expressed their opinons on the use of robodialers, provided you specific input on systems,  or told you they've never used them.  All typical type answers for any Q in this forum.  Anyone can choose to parse out the input that provides value to you and ignore the rest.

Take a look at your responses to the original question and this one.  Have you given anyone a reason to send business to "Your Colorado Springs Realtor"?    It's a question anyone interacting in a public forum such as this needs to ask themselves, and frame their responses accordingly.

Jul 15, 2019 08:56 AM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Bless your heart, if you ask a question here you had best expect honest answers.  I do "move on" if it's a post pointed at the public, but a question in the q & a and if you ask and I see it I'll give an honest answer.  If you can't handle the honest answer that's on you.  I didn't see your question, but in looking at the answer you called "judgy" from Alan May  above I find you calling the fact he stated he'd never used a dialer service "judgy".  Judgy would be way different from "I never used one".  And now I'm going to get a little "judgy", if you don't grow some thicker skin you won't do well in this business.  You will get far more rejection than affirmation in real estate.  You can't take it personally. 

Jul 15, 2019 08:21 AM
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Pam, If you are referring to the question you recently asked, NO ONE was being negative. You asked a question, it has been answered many times over by respected members and then you accuse them of being 'judgey' with their answers, seriously?!! 

Jul 15, 2019 07:05 AM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

We are not all going to 'feel' the same way or have the same approach to our businesses. However, sometimes the opinion of others or others' practices can help us improve upon our own business. That is what this forum is all about, Pam Gordon.

Telling you 'Great Job' instead of giving you an honest opinion is not going to help you at all. For the most part, I believe, however, that we are tactful in our responses, whether we agree with the question or not.

Jul 15, 2019 07:20 AM
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Ken Jones
Ken Jones Real Estate Advisor - Toms River, NJ
Real Estate Training & Coaching

Pam Gordon Blowing smoke and making disingenuous favorable statements isn't the purpose of comments.

The purpose is to make valid and relevant statements, both positive and negative, in order to bring greater clarity to the topic.

If someone is so thin-skinned that they are unable to accept relevant critical analyses and statements about their post or question, perhaps they're in the wrong industry and DEFINITELY in the wrong forum.

Jul 15, 2019 07:01 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
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On posts or questions?

Posts - this is why on listings I disable comments.
Qs - we encourage spirited debate.

We're pretty thick skinned around here and respect each others' opinions even if they are dead wrong! (Kidding - I'm usually the one who's wrong)

You'll see. The ones who argue the most actually like each other.

Jul 15, 2019 06:55 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

 I just realized who you were and what question you asked previously....

copy and paste answers...great!!!

you got what you deserved on that one.... big time!!!!

 

Jul 15, 2019 08:18 AM
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Corinne Guest
Corinne Guest, REALTOR® | Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
Barrington Lifestyles

Interpretation. You might see something negative and the writer thinks it's a valid part of the discussion. For that reason I Love this part of AR.

Jul 15, 2019 07:31 AM
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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Good question. DIfferent strokes for different folks 

Jul 15, 2019 07:14 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

While I do not go negative here, it is a forum for opinion 

Jul 15, 2019 07:01 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Pam,

So, you want everyone to make you feel good, to throw sweet remarks to admire you endlessly for your questions and comments, or as I would put it walk on eggshells? 

Opinions came from experience and perception.  For some certain things are bad, for others they are great...All those things expressed are what makes life great and interesting...

There are no intentions to be negative, although anything can be interpreted negatively if you want to do that.  For instance, it would have been thoughtful to post your question as a members only!  Posting it as public in an inner circle is definitely negative in my opinion.   A

Jul 15, 2019 09:11 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

That's a depends question. It is Ok to disagree if your argument has merit.

Jul 15, 2019 07:28 AM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg IL Real Estate

it depends on what the scenario is. You might be a Polly Anna who expects people to agree with your statements or conclusions. Life is not so.

In fact, you're really making me mad that you can scold people here in this forum.

Jul 15, 2019 10:16 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I second Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!'s answer.

Jul 15, 2019 09:04 AM
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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

People.  People are the elixir of life. There are good. Not so good. And the others.  Take what works for you and leave the rest. Negativity is abundant. The more we focus on it the more it expands.  Focus on that brings you joy and peace in your heart and in your life. 

Jul 15, 2019 07:38 AM
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John Smith
Independent - Bel Air, CA

I've seen sarcastic answers on lots of different posts, or answers/replies that have nothing to do with the question at all. I think people are just simply posting for the sake of gaining points, and if they can do something smug that gets upvotes or more points, then why not?

Jul 15, 2019 07:19 AM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
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I wish we knew

Jul 15, 2019 07:07 AM
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS 602-380-4886
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Totally agree with Candice A. Donofrio ...

 

Being upbeat and overlooking what you don't like is shinier and more apt to draw business.

Jul 15, 2019 01:50 PM
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Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Pam-I am rarely in the Q&A section but saw your question and then followed the comments made here and to what I think is the question you asked that you felt received negative comments or answers to it. And, I didn't see any that were judgy or negative. Yes, many replied that they don't use the service you were referring to but is that negative?  

If anything I found that your comments to them may have been a bit defensive.

If you didn't get many answers from members who use the auto-dialers it may because many don't use them. That is an answer itself. Those who answered could have just passed and not responded at all. I know that were I an agent and didn't use the service I too may have just not even responded. The answers give you something to go on. 

 

Jul 15, 2019 01:22 PM
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Caroline Gerardo
CMG Financial - Newport Beach, CA
C. G. Barbeau the Loan Lady nmls 324982

Pam Gordon most people here are gifting time, a precious commodity. Some express their opinions in direct fashion. I read the comments and many just told you their answer, which was "no."  There is nothing harsh or personal about saying no, it is an answer which you opened up to hopefully learn from.  If someone hurt your feelings, may I say to you that it was likely not personal or at you- we do help each other - we don't often agree - Nice to meet you 

Jul 15, 2019 11:20 AM
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

What Bob "RealMan" Timm said. I don't necessarily consider someone disagreeing with me a negative... I like a good debate. Now, if someone is not courteous in how they express themselves, that's a whole other story.

And I went back to your original question and the only "judgy" person, as you put it, was yourself. Ooops, sorry for being negative!

Jul 15, 2019 10:13 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Being nice is better.

Jul 15, 2019 08:10 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I'm sorry you feel this way.

But...

 Everyone can express their opinion and they should. What would be good to any society if everyone agrees with everyone and is ''nice''? 

Yes, that's right, this community is very supportive and we do help each other.  I believe, if someone invested their time to read your question, answer it, maybe even check your profile and your blog,  it is better to thank them.

Some comments might seem rude. But you do not need to do the same... 

Jul 16, 2019 12:40 AM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
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Sorry that you had to experience rudeness Pam.

It is NEVER okay to treat each other poorly.

Jul 15, 2019 11:48 AM
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Sam Shueh
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freedom of speech or talk is free.

Jul 15, 2019 10:47 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

That's a good question that deserves a better understanding.

Let me begin with, "Folks will do what you tell them to do." For example, in my a, b, c, d questions I include an option for those with no ideas to jump on.

Everyone wants to be heard, even if the subject is way out of their wheelhouse. "Don't say anything at all' is not an option on their list.

A completely fabricated story (Pizza Hut forming a Swastika with slices of peperoni) was presented and everyone insisted on being heard on a subject completely not true. People were compelled to voice, then raise their hand, then stand up.

They were advised they invested so much emotion into something absolute fabricated simply because of their need to be heard, to be noticed.

Now, it should be known I have been the one who may be identified as negative, harsh or inconsiderate. My comment, 'Get over it."

When I squeeze I do so with the expectation the writer will respond in exceptional brilliance. You should let your brilliance shine when such opportunities present.

Disabling comments on a new post shows lack of fabric and the inability to substantiate your position. But you can do that if you need.

SUGGESTION: make sure you "upvote" all other comments so the one you don't like drags the bottom of the list.

Jul 15, 2019 09:32 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Some people cannot help themselves for a variety of reasons: 1. It is their inherited parental dysfunction compelling them to do what was done to them. 2. There is negative intrusion within thus opportunity allows it to come out. 3. Hindsight will visit with them at a later time (?) and conscience will kick-in helping them to repent (change) this behavior. All people must learn this vital rule i.e. how to navigate through the different personalities successfully. First lesson? Your part to play or not which involves learning about yourself. Be prepared for your own stuff to surface. After that, error in others is easier to handle/understand

Jul 15, 2019 08:34 AM
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Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

  Clueless! Clueless

Jul 15, 2019 12:21 PM
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Evelina Tsigelnitskaya
SIB Realty - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
www.SIBRealty.org 305-931-6931

Every answer is the answer. 

Don't take it personally.

Jul 17, 2019 12:16 PM
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Valeria Mola
SIB Realty - Miami, Sunny Isles Beach - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
305-607-0709 SIB Realty

Really? 

Just delete it. 

Jul 17, 2019 12:12 PM
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Ray Stockwell
ZipperAgent - Boston, MA
Director of Marketing

If you do not want negative comments, then don't ask for comments.  Take the good the bad.  That is the nature or a forum.

Jul 16, 2019 07:41 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

I like to go with the idea if i have nothing good to say, i move on. I use that thought online where i read the question and answers and then judge if i can add anything that will be of help. BUT when you ask an opinion, your going to get the good with the bad with the ugly. Auto dialers are hated by all but those who use them. That is no secret

Jul 16, 2019 04:06 AM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Geneva Financial, Llc. - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Welcome to the 'Drum Circle' kid!  This too shall pass!

Jul 15, 2019 02:29 PM
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Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

If you ask, and you don't want to hear the truth, or real honest opinions, then don't ask. That's how we help. 

If it's negative, don't you want to know?

Have you ever heard the expression "If you can't take the heat, get out the kitchen"?

Jul 16, 2019 09:23 AM
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Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl
Samsel & Associates - Clark, NJ
The Last Names You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

I don't know which post you're referring to and I'm guessing your question here is meant rhetorically and is intended to scold whoever you feel are the offenders. But I'll answer your question - this is an open forum and not everyone agrees with everyone.  If you don't want opinions, don't ask for them. 

This IS a community where people support and assist each other - at least it has been in my very long experience. I'm sorry you didn't feel supported if you were asking for support. 

Jul 16, 2019 06:49 AM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Some just do, but my mom said if you cannot say anything nice, then stay quiet.

Aug 01, 2019 04:27 PM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Pam,  I agree with you, I have seen more and more being negative here in the rain.

 

Jul 19, 2019 10:42 AM
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Pam Gordon
HomeSmart Realty Group - Colorado Springs, CO
Your Colorado Springs Realtor!

Jul 15, 2019 07:27 AM