Suicide Prevention - A personal plea.

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This week I found out someone in my world committed suicide over the holiday. I wasn't close to this person, but I was truly saddened by their actions. This person left behind loved ones who will have to deal with many unanswered questions and years of mixed feelings from sadness to anger. I've been fortunate not to lose someone close to me to this action, but I know how it feels to lose someone you love.

At the risk of being too transparent, I will share with the world that I've been suicidal in my past when I was much younger. Thank god for my supportive family and friends who helped me crawl out the pit of darkness. flowers

Ever since, I heard this news, I've been bothered by it. Probably because I've gone through the process and know you can come out of it with help. So, here's my attempt and helping:

If you feel suicidal:

  • Please, please, please talk to your family and/or friends.
  • Call the suicide hotline in your area
  • Call 911 if you have to
  • Talk to a counselor
  • Google suicide and go to one of the websites. Read the survivor's stories.
  • Go to
  • Go for a run, jog walk, bike ride, etc. anything to get your heart rate going and your endorphines to kick in.

If you suspect someone you know is contemplating suicide:

  • Please talk to them asap. Share your love!
  • Get them to a counselor
  • Set up a watch group that checks in
  • Take them outside for a walk, run, bike ride etc. Anything physical.
  • Tell all of their friends and family what you suspect. Don't be embarassed about being wrong. You might save a life!

I can go on for a while on this, but I have to get back to work. If anyone has anything to add, please share and pass it this on. Life is a precious gift.

Posted by


Anthony Ebright NMLSR ID #247647

Home Loan Officer / FHA and VA Specialist




You can reach Anthony Ebright at 707-548-0752 if you need help refinancing or purchasing your home in Sonoma County, Santa Rosa, Healdsburg, Petaluma, Rohnert Park, Sebastopol, Bodega Bay, Windsor, Cloverdale, Guerneville, Sonoma.



Anthony Ebright is a Home Loan Officer in Santa Rosa, California. His opinions and statements are his own. Wells Fargo does not endorse any comments made by its employees on this blog. All statements and viewpoints expressed in the comments are strictly those of the commenter alone, and do not constitute an official position of any lending institution.


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Amy Jones Group
South East Valley - - Chandler, AZ

So sorry to hear about your loss.  Life is precious so thanks so much for the post.

Jan 14, 2010 07:42 AM #1
David Cahill
Century 21 Cahill Associates - Boston, MA

Sorry to hear about your loss.  My cousin took his life last year and it was SO sad!  We are still dealing with it almost a year later.  He will never be forgotten.

Jan 14, 2010 07:46 AM #2
Darren Revell
Keller Williams Realty Temecula Valley - Temecula, CA

Thanks for the post.. I also have someone that I know who's parents both committed suicide this holiday season.  Very sad...  Thanks for the post.  Hope that people can understand that life is precious and they are loved, no matter who they are. 

Jan 14, 2010 08:09 AM #3
Wallace S. Gibson, CPM
Gibson Management Group, Ltd. - Charlottesville, VA

As someone who suffered from depression for several years after cancer, divorce, etc. I realized I had depression from a woman's magazine - a woman's magazine.  I had 6 out of 7 signs of depression and called my doctor who referred me to a women's support group.....I can now recognize the beginning of the spiral and counter act it.

Yes, if you know or THINK you know someone, talk to them, talk to someone close to them and recommend  they talk to their doctor, minister or priest.  

Jan 14, 2010 08:34 AM #4
Michael A. Caruso
Surterre Properties - Laguna Niguel, CA


Very good post.  It's very unfortunate that many suicides could have been prevented, and very sad for those people that decided, it was their only choice.....and especially for their families left in agony.  Thanks for sharing.


Jan 14, 2010 09:11 AM #5
Dawn A Fabiszak
Private Label Realty ( Denver metro area, Colorado - Aurora, CO
The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience!

Life is too precious.  In the last 2 years, there has been 2 Realtors and one title rep that took their lives.  Even though I really only knew of them, it felt very personal to me.  Excellent post.

Jan 14, 2010 09:19 AM #6
Jim & Maria Hart
Brand Name Real Estate - Charleston, SC
Charleston, SC Real Estate

Life is indeed a very precious gift.  I have never had to deal with someone close to me dying from suicide, and in that I feel fortunate.  I know that God has great plans for all for us, and until He decides to take us from this earth, there are promises awaiting us.

Jan 14, 2010 09:31 AM #7
Joetta Fort
The DiGiorgio Group - Arvada, CO
Independent Broker, Homes Denver to Boulder

Thank you for your touching and heart-felt post. I'm praying many people will find it, and it will convince them to find loving help.

Jan 14, 2010 10:19 AM #8
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

I cannot imagine the desperation of someone wanting to end their own lives.  That is excellent advice, Anthony.  Thanks for sharing.

Jan 14, 2010 03:14 PM #9
Anthony Ebright - NMLSR ID #247647 Purchase and Refinance Mortgages
FHA, VA, Conforming, Jumbo - Wells Fargo Home Mortgage - Santa Rosa, CA

Amy - Thanks for stopping by!

David - I'm truly sorry for your loss. You just have to honor your cousin with all of the wonderful memories.

Darren - It's just blows my mind that both parents would do this to their kids! If only someone could have intervened.

Wallace - Thank you so much for your transparency. If we can help just one person from taking their own life, I'll take off my clothes and be totally transparent! In this weather, I'll freeze, but it would be worth it! ;-)

Michael - I appreciate your comments.

Dawn - We've had several Realtors pass away this year from cancer. It's tough to lose people you see on a regular basis. Times are tough on the real estate world, but not enough to take your own life. There are too many other fun things to do!

Jim and Maria - I'm very sorry you had to go through this. Life is definately precious!

Joetta - Thank you for your prayers. Please feel free to re-blog the post to pass it on.

Jane - I'm glad you dropped by. Please pass it on.

Thanks so much everyone for your comments. I hope together we can make a difference in changing someone's mind before they take their own life. Please feel free to re-blog or email this to anyone you know.

Jan 14, 2010 10:20 PM #10
Russel Ray, San Diego Business & Marketing Consultant & Photographer
Russel Ray - San Diego State University, CA

My dad committed suicide when I was five, and my best friend's dad committed suicide after he had graduated from Texas A&M. I don't think they realize how much carnage they leave behind, but to do that must really mean that they were alone, troubled, confused, and just saw no other way out. It takes friends and family to recognize the symptoms, and if anyone ever utters the word suicide in relation to themselves, they need those friends and family.

Jan 16, 2010 03:06 AM #11
Diane Williams
Pell City, AL

Anothony,  it is heartbreaking when someone is in so much pain that they take their own life.  A close friend of mine did this several years back and I felt so guilty that I didn't see it coming.  I know now,  that most people who do this will not allow anyone to see what is going on inside of their mind. Jim and Maria #7 comment is beautiful.   This is a good post I am going to re-blog. 

Jan 23, 2010 03:05 AM #12
c m
Colorado Springs, CO

About a year ago, I heard of an old friend from my past, that had taken her life.  To say that I was stunned would be a complete understatement.  She was the most loving, giving, caring, nurturing, warm...are there any other adjectives that identify this person any better? A mother of 3 grown young women, a spiritual advisor for them and others...devastating! Clearly something had changed for her, and I wish that I would have known about it...I came to this blog, by way of the re-blog, glad I caught it!

Jan 26, 2010 05:25 PM #13
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