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The 24-Hour Rule...

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Grants Pass, OR 199909023

The 24-Hour RuleThe 24-Hour Rule...  I've been practicing the 24-Hour Rule for decades and it works beautifully.  For the most part, it has saved me from the embarrassment of saying or doing something that I might regret in an emotionally charged situation. 

Here's how the 24-Hour Rule works:  If someone pisses in your cheerios, don't respond directly to that person for 24-Hours.  It's okay to rant to a neutral 3rd party, but not to anyone who is closely tied to the situation... and especially refrain from any online rants (as they become a permanent record).

Typically, you won't feel as emotionally charged the next day.  However, in rare cases (after applying the 24-Hour Rule), you still feel exceptionally passionate about your position, then I recommend the 48-72 Hour Rule.  You'll be amazed at the clarity you'll have after waiting an additional period of time to respond to the person/situation.  

Call me Pollyanna... but if everyone practiced the 24-Hour Rule, we'd have a lot less pissing matches, bickering, politicking, bantering, jockeying for position... and the like.  The world could be a better place... in just 24 Hours! 

The 24-Hour Rule ~ Mel Peterson 

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 Melinda Peterson, ABR, CRS

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Lori Bowers
La Quinta, CA
The Lori Bowers Group

That  is great advice. It goes with the old saying - how important is it? Over the period of a lifetime, will it matter or make a difference?

Apr 27, 2011 09:09 AM
Kerrie La Guardia
ActiveRain, Community Manager - Kirkland, WA
Let it Rain!

You're so right...I applied this yesterday (thanks to my rational sister) and am so glad I didn't respond to a text I had received. 

Apr 27, 2011 09:25 AM
Robin Dampier REALTOR®
Coldwell Banker King - Hendersonville, NC
Hendersonville & Western NC Real Estate Source

Sooo true advise and it seems to work most times!  Sometimes, well, not pretty.

Sue of Robin and Sue

Apr 27, 2011 09:47 AM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

I'm sorry Melinda, but if someone pisses in my Cheerios, I'm not waiting 5 seconds.   If they did it this moment, I'd let them skate, but only because I'm still laughing at your comment.

When I get ticked off, waiting 24 hours is a good rule of thumb. ;-)

Brian L. Sirota, Esq., Broker/Attorney, BriStar Realty, Orange County, California

Apr 27, 2011 09:56 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Good advice and thanks for the post. I agree 24 hrs usually will cool one off...

Apr 27, 2011 10:20 AM
Tatyana Permanova
Highlight Realty - Fort Lauderdale, FL
561-756-6962 - Miami, Fort Lauderdale | Boca Raton RE

The 24 Hour Rule - It's brilliant!!! I agree with this rule entirely! It helps to control your temper and to handle disagreements a lot better.

Apr 27, 2011 10:20 AM
Jim Patton
Aspire Home Real Estate 209-404-0816 - Modesto, CA
Realtor - Stanislaus ,Merced, San Joaquin Counties

Good advice Melinda.  I know some people that waiting 24 seconds would be an enternity to them. 

Apr 27, 2011 10:52 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Ditto Lori... a great perspective to have.

Kerrie ~ You're already a 24-Hour Pro!

Conflict is never pretty Sue... that's why it needs to be minimized.

Brian ~ I won't be pissing in your cheerios any time soon, I promise!

It's all about cooling the jets Robert!

Tatyana ~ Love 'brilliant' and you have a beautiful name :)

Jim ~ And an eternity for some who can't wait 5 seconds!

 

Apr 27, 2011 11:00 AM
Jeff Markell
Empire Home Loans Inc. - Tustin, CA
Sr. Mortgage Consultant - Forward & Reverse

Melinda, Your post shows how wise we can become if we use patience. Using the 24 hour rule can help you calm down, come up with alternate solutions to resolve the situation or even give you the opportunity to put yourself in the “pissers” shoes, them in yours and step back to review and see if you truly have justification for your anger.

Apr 27, 2011 01:01 PM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

This is a difficult rule to follow, but it only makes sense to look at things clearly the next day.

Apr 27, 2011 02:55 PM
Diane McDermott
Realtor®, GRI, Landis e2 Real Estate, LLC - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte NC Real Estate Market

Definitely a good rule to follow, the trick sometimes is remembering it in the moment :)

Apr 28, 2011 01:17 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Jeffrey ~ 'Put yourself in the "pissers" shoes'... now that's hard to do!

I can see clearly now the rain is gone... Thanks Jane!

Diane ~ It does require a little thought.

Thanks my friend in Charlottesville... love Jefferson's quote too!

Apr 28, 2011 03:57 AM
Marian Goetzinger
Pine Knoll Shores Realty 252-422-9000 - Pine Knoll Shores, NC
Crystal Coast Real Estate NC

Melissa, Love this blog.  I try to remember it but being rational when one is angry is sort of like overserving a drunk and then expecting him to be logical and not drive.  Ah, that's another blog.

Great advice and I do practice it and preach it.  I often take low offers to sellers and before I present the offer I say something like, "I don't think you will accept this offer, but don't reject it either.  Sleep on it and then let's discuss strategy."  It saves many deals.

 

Apr 28, 2011 08:10 AM
Mary Stewart
HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone - Wilsonville, OR
Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas

Melinda, good reminder post.  Waiting for a time can be a life saver sometimes.  Just like writing a note, email, card when you are angry.  Do not mail it until the next day or two, re-read and then decide if you want to send.  Lots of times I cannot remember exactly why I was really mad to begin with and the importance has melted away.

Apr 28, 2011 11:04 AM
Sheila Newton Team Anderson & Greenville SC
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - C. Dan Joyner - Anderson, SC
Selling the Upstate since 1989

I will try this more often.. however sometimes, It would mean not talking to my husband for days.. hahaha..

Apr 28, 2011 04:14 PM
Krista L. Walker
RE/MAX Platinum Medford - Medford, OR
Oregon- Homes & Real Estate for Sale

pisses in your cherrios????

Apr 29, 2011 05:44 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
The Savvy Broker - ABR, CRS

Hey Marian ~ Great point sweetie.. enjoying your blog as well :)

Done it many times Mary... and I've trashed many Hallmark cards the next day!

Oh my Sheila... hilarious!

Krista ~ I picked that one up from a former boss from NY... he was a hoot! 

 

Apr 29, 2011 10:46 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Hi there pretty lady I do believe if someone pissed in my cheerios I might just have to pour it over their head. But I would do it with a smile on my face and I don't think I would wait 24 hrs to do it because it might lose it's impact. I do however understand and think this post is a very good idea. Once things are said they can't be UNSAID. Things said in anger are never a good thing. You been writing good stuff for quite a while now I see. Glad I found you so I can keep up with your naked truth. I am a firm believer in keeping it REAL, I hate phonies. Have a great week my friend.

Jul 31, 2011 01:50 PM