In memory of a Realtor

Thanks, Dena.  That is nice tribute to both Tom & Rose, it is hard to think of one without the other.

Paula

Interesting...I remember once meeting "Tommy" but not much was ever said other than he was Tom's son.  Of course this was in the 70's and I was maybe 10 or 12 at the time, so even IF something was said it was over my head.

I wish I had some other information..I am so sorry to hear about your dilema.  You failed to mention your name though.  I am Dena's younger sister.

Paula T  This is more than a dilema, don't you think!!! Or maybe you are just as insensitive as your friends Tom and Rose. Guess what !!! You never meet "Tommy" in the 70's I assure you.. My mother would never allow us to visit the father who never paid one dime in child support. My mother had detectives looking for him...Be real he was a "Dead beat Dad"  Sorry to bust your bubble Paula.

Paul my name is Terri Spousta Stiles.   

Terri, 

I was just commenting, not passing judgement.  Truly I mean no ill will or disrespect. I have no bubble to burst.

 I do not wish to trade barbs or play a game of chess on my sisters blog.  I am sorry for your situation.  Clearly we knew a much different Tom Spousta than you did, and that is through no one's actions but Tom himself.  Please do not become angry with either Dena or myself, we had nothing to do with anything Tom had done.  It was his life, his choices...I am sorry to know that he did things to harm you and your family.  We were just his neighbors, and children ourselves at the time...that's all.

Funny, i remember meeting both Tommy and Terri, and i must say it wouldn't have been to hard to find Tom since both kids had been to visit Tom and Rose, they lived in the same house for 23 years....hope the detective worked for Cold Case...I mean really....come on....no secrets to be had....

come to think of it-you visited I have photos of your pleasant self in front of the house and you we're old enough to know. easy to pass the buck on to someone else...i also have photos of you with a boyfriend and you happen to be of age...so who knows who wanted to stay in touch...makes you wonder...I'm just saying...

Many people have fond memories of Tom and Rose and you can't take those away....from any of us.

Fondly a neighbor who cared....

I just read the comments that Terri wrote about Tom and I.  It hurt me deeply.  Tom did try and get in touch with thechildren several times but nothing ever came of it.  Maybe, just maybe, they ought to look into the real reasons that things happened the way they did.  Tom and Terry always knew where we lived.  It was no secret.  Tom cared for the children, and we discussed leaving both of them a certain amount of money when I die.  He would have done a lot more if there was some type of arrangement made when they were young to live with us.  But that never would have happened with the animosity that Judy had for Tom.  She harassed him shortly before his death.  Things should have been different, and I'm really sorry that it didn't turn out that way.  My Tom was a wonderful man.  My loss is great.  It is now 9 months since Tom died.  I did get a call from Terry about Tom's death.  We did have a nice talk.  I sent her  pictures and old family photos quite some time ago.  I have an old railroad watch that Tom wanted Tom to have, but I have no idea where to send it.  So I hope that some understanding and peace can come out of all of this.  Life is too short to carry  so much anger.