What is Love?

I have been learning so much from you all,  and from my wife of 14 years.  I haven't made them the easiest on her, but I vow I will do my best from here on out.

Love, what is it?  It is commitment; self-sacrifice; looking out for the others interests over our own; being there; engaging others; encouraging others; lifting them up when they fall or stumble; gentle correcting; and being a true friend in a time of need.  It is a dance.  It is leading and being lead.  It is not always having to be right, and even if you are right, what does it really matter in the whole scheme of things.  It is being tender, compassionate, sympathetic, and passionate about each other.  It is much more than a feeling.  Feelings come and go, but true, real love lasts forever.  Christ loved us before we came to be.  Christ emptied himself for us, as we must for others.  He made himself nothing, as we must.

Us men, are basically lazy.  Yes! I said it.  We work hard 5 days a week.  But, our wives, on the other hand, work 7 days.  They never get a day off.  They have the kids, home, jobs, and whatever else.  They are the accountant, book keeper, cook, maid, pet sitter, baby sitter, taxi driver, class parent, secretary, money manager, activities director, etc...At 5 p.m. on Friday, we just want to unplug.  We have been thinking about the weekend all week; maybe some game is on, some fishing trip, working on our car or hobbies, going to the lake, or just sitting in our favorite chair, kicking our feet up, an dreading the paper and tuning life out.  After all, we worked hard and deserve it, right?

What about our wives in the kitchen, getting our dinner ready  or doing dishes, or laundry, or putting the kids to bed, or, or ,or?  When is it her time to be lazy and just watch HGTV or whatever?  (At Midnight!?)  When was the last time we thought about doing something nice for her?

Being spontaneous is good, but we need to be more regular in our time with our spouse and family, or doing things for them.  We really need to make sure we schedule time, and treat if as an important meeting, because it is.  Our family needs to have times they know they can depend on us to be there. 

Ask our wives, "What would you like me to accomplish today?"  And do it!!! We are now communicating and know what our wives need and expect from us.  It is time to recommit, and take our eyes off of our own selfish needs, wants, and desires.  We owe it to our spouse and family.  Be blessed.