The Golden Rule...

Real Estate Agent with HomeBased Realty 01943834

The Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".  It's not that I'm naive, but whatever happened to this rule?  

Some time ago, my husband and I were looking for a house to call home.  We went to this one open house and it was clearly a bit overpriced based on the condition of the home.  It had a lot of deferred maintanence issues and a fair share of cracked and unlevel concrete around the pool, driveway and garage.  Ok, so we started looking around and found our way upstairs and were discussing the pros and cons.  While having this discussion, we could hear this loud man ripping the house apart verbally.  He was saying it would going to cost at least $40,000 to replace all the windows, the cracks here and there were going to be another chunk of money, the carpet needed to be replaced and on and on.  The man and his wife worked their way upstairs and found us and proceeded to tell us that the house was way overpriced and the agent was crazy for asking what he was for the house and they should have accepted the one low offer they got.  He then proceeded to say he knew what he was talking about as they were agents.  At this point my husband said, "so is my wife".  The couple then stated they lived in (insert name of an expensive housing tract), and proceeded to bad mouth the area and I just kept thinking to myself, why are you doing this?  Why would you come into someone's open house and just trash it?  

I understand this is a competitive line of work, but do we as agents have to resort to this kind of behavior? All I kept thinking was that I never want to do business with this agent nor do I want them to ever come to one of my open houses.  Yes, the house was overpriced for what was needed, so what, but was this really necessary?   Ok, so the house is overpriced, tell that to your client don't do this in front of other people.  Yes, we have a duty to take care of our clients, but like this?  I also feel that as agents, we need to look after one another not drive a wedge between each other regardless of what brokerage we come from. I vowed to always be professional and treat my fellow agents with respect.

If you were in my shoes, how would you have handled the (or any) less than respectful agent?  How would you handle this agent if it were your open house?

Comments (17)

Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Recently a young agent represented her client wanting to low ball a 12 yrs old home(considered new since most are over 80 years in the neighborhood). I told her that her behavior is unaccetable. We will not be able to help her in the future. RE is about relationship with other agents/brokers. Reputation matters....



May 29, 2015 04:28 AM
Karen T Brown
HomeBased Realty - Lancaster, CA

"RE is about relationships with other agents/brokers" exactly.  Thank you.

May 29, 2015 05:05 AM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

In my overcrowded market, there are way many brokers/agents. When we chat the notorious names often popup.  I even found identical experience at an AR meet. With many offers coming in, we make sure these agents are not welcome to participate and tell sellers why trouble may happen to them. 

May 29, 2015 05:12 AM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
Good Company Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Karen - There is no reason to bad mouth a listing. If it is not for your client then just move on. If you think the listing is overpriced and you want the listing agent to know, call them or send them a personal message. No need to be spouting it out while previewing the home.

May 29, 2015 06:30 AM
Captain Wayne - Rowlett Real Estate School
Rowlett Real Estate School - Panama City, FL
Rowlett Real Estate School / Owner and Instructor

Welocme to ActiveRain, It's great to have you aboard!  I hope to see more of your posts!

May 29, 2015 06:54 AM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV, MD
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Karen, some agents have no tact or social grace. Welcome to AR. You'll meet a lot of great people around here. The education is great and you have a forum to share your experience and wisdom as well. Keep putting it out there and we'll keep reading it. 

May 29, 2015 08:32 AM
Rose Mary Justice
Synergy Realty Pros - Dandridge, TN
Synergy Realty Pros

There should be no time when an agent should be embarrassed by another agent.  It is called respect. I agree they can inform the clients but it is not necessary to make a scene at an open house.  Generally these agents are hard to work with. There are some that just like to intimidate the other agent 

May 29, 2015 02:04 PM
Karen T Brown
HomeBased Realty - Lancaster, CA

Thank you all. Luckily, I've met more decent agents than not.

May 29, 2015 02:41 PM
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216, - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Welcome to Active Rain, Karen. I agree that those so called agents needed to be more tactful about their comments, or at least keep them to themselves.

May 29, 2015 09:08 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Karen T Brown we can't control what others say or do, but we can ask them to leave the property....that's a rare occurrence and it will probably never happen to you again....

May 29, 2015 11:29 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

and welcome to ActiveRain... a place to share and to learn....

May 29, 2015 11:29 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Karen - It's unfortunate that more people don't follow this rule and understand this is unprofessional.

May 30, 2015 03:35 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Karen - Congratulations on your first post here, and welcome to the Rain.

May 30, 2015 03:36 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Please know that the ambassadors, those of us with orange badges, are here to answer questions if you have them.

May 30, 2015 03:37 PM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty

Good morning Karen. I don't understand the need to tear apart a house so openly like that. If you are walking a client through an open house it's ok to point out flaws and issues that need to be addressed but save the scathing review for after you leave. 

May 31, 2015 01:03 AM
Terrie Elbatnigi
Three Rivers Real Estate - Flowood, MS
Central Mississippi

I find there is no need to bad mouth other agents. It gets you no where and makes you look bad as well. There is no need to trash someone else's Open House verbally.  I wonder if the agent hosting the open house had a survey for others to fill out?  That is where you leave your comments and input. Quietly.....on paper and respectfully. 

May 31, 2015 08:50 AM
Chris and Dick Dovorany
Homes for Sale in Naples, Bonita Springs and Estero, Florida - Naples, FL
Broker/Associate at Premiere Plus Realty

Whenever I have had work done on my own residence and put the work out for bids, if someone badmouthed anything at all, they were dismissed and never called upon again.

Jun 04, 2015 12:40 AM