You Can Choose To Respond With Compassion! A Powerful Message

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Co-Founder, CloseMyDeal, LLC Transaction Management

The headlines are grim.  The nation is more bitterly divided than in living memory, the rhetoric more heated and political.  Hardly a week goes by without news of violence: murders, shootings, protests, threats, or other equally dark news. It's easy to react with bitterness or anger. It's easy to lash out at the other side or some group you deem responsible for the latest tragedy. 

Of course, it can be hard to show compassion in the face of events like these. So how does one go about doing that? It takes more effort than simply being willing to "walk a mile in the other person's shoes." It takes a genuine effort to understand where others are coming from and what's driving their thinking, feelings, and actions, which can have devastating consequences.

One thing is clear.  This is not about turning the other cheek or simply accepting abuses that get heaped on you or as a nation. It's about being brave enough to restrain anger and respond with compassion rather than with rage, even in the face of those things.

What specific things can you do to ease that person's suffering?  Sometimes, that can be as simple as being willing to lend a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on.  At other times, something more may be appropriate.  The first, best thing you can do, though, is to keep your anger in check and focus on soothing the hurt when, where, and as you are able.

Anyone can lash out in anger.  It takes a real man or woman to look past the raw emotions and dive headlong into the process of working diligently to make things better.  To ease the pain that someone's carelessness or cold calculation has caused.

Ask if you can do anything to address the root of the problem. If there isn't, then there's nothing to be gained by venting.  Simply continuing to be willing to listen and lend support will be much more constructive.

Try to understand how and why the person who caused the hurt behaves in the way they did.

That's easier to do if you know the person involved and can speak with them to get their side of the story.  Even if you ultimately disagree with the reasons, it's essential to understand what they are. 

How else can you respond from a place of compassion? 

That's the key.  Think about it from your perspective.  When you do something that hurts another person (whether intentionally or not), do you respond well to attacks made in anger?  Most people don't.

It may well be that when learning the full details, there's not much you can do.  That happens.  The main thing is that you've made a genuine attempt to understand. And, you restrained your anger.

You can use this basic approach. When your friends, neighbors, and coworkers express anger, pain, or dismay over the grim headlines.  You can mirror them.  Or, you can embrace the negativity you see. 

You can choose to respond with compassion.

The real value in reacting this way is that, by degrees, shifting to this mindset will begin to affect positive change in the world around you.  Others will see and recognize what you're doing and respond to it in kind. 

If you want to live in a more positive, compassionate world, that starts with you. How you choose to react.  Interact.  And respond to the world around you.

Simple but powerful words as said by Dalai Lama: - "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." 

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Comments (8)

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Hello Aura Alex - this is a powerful message.  The ability to keep our emotions in check is a skill and it must be implemented and practiced daily. Choosing to be kind, considerate and compassionte is a choice. We never really know what others are dealing with in life. 

Rise above. Walk Away. Or choose compassion and understanding. 

Nov 20, 2021 01:01 PM
Aura Alex

Yes, indeed. So true. Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist . Thank you for sharing your thought.

Nov 20, 2021 03:40 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Aura,

Neither one of us pay attention to the news or take time to observe it, talk about it, or ail about it. We do pay attention to all the great things that surrounds and the actions of people that are wonderful...A

Nov 20, 2021 01:40 PM
Aura Alex

I couldn't agree more with you, Ron and Alexandra Seigel. Thank you. Enjoy the weekend. 

Nov 20, 2021 03:43 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

There's no question about it, Aura.  That's a very powerful message!

Nov 20, 2021 05:29 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Aura, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Nov 20, 2021 05:30 PM
Aura Alex

Myrl Jeffcoat, I am honored. Thank you so much. All the best to you!💟

Nov 20, 2021 07:06 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Aura - an important message.   "Walking the Talk" may not always be easy.  Then again, a walk begins with a single step.   

Nov 21, 2021 04:15 AM
Aura Alex

I love your words! Thank you, Michael Jacobs.

Nov 21, 2021 11:11 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Hi Aura,
It was confirmed to me during my recent 2-month road trip that most people are good and kind. I met with, ate with, played with, and stayed with "red" people and "blue" people and I liked them all. Honestly, I don't even know which is which because we were all interested in enjoying our time together... not stirring up negative emotions.

Nov 21, 2021 06:13 AM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD

🙌

Nov 21, 2021 06:29 AM
Aura Alex

Hello, Carol Williams; yes, most people are good and kind.  I am blessed that I am here today, meeting and talking to someone like you. And many others in the AR community.  I believe that we attract like-minded people because of who we are.  We don't live in the perfect world, and I am okay with that. I echo your thoughtful comments. Thank you for being here.  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Nov 21, 2021 05:02 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Congratulations! You've been Featured in the BananaTude Group.

Nov 21, 2021 06:17 AM
Aura Alex

So, there's something important for me to be thankful for this Thanksgiving! I am grateful.  A million thanks! 

Nov 21, 2021 05:04 PM
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

What an absolutly beautiful message.  I wish everyone would practice the sentiments in your wise post.  The division and anger in our country breaks my heart. 

Nov 21, 2021 06:29 AM
Aura Alex

 As Michael Jacobs mentioned, it may not be easy, but we can try by taking small steps, one at a time. My words are just shared thoughts; it is up to each one of us to practice. I appreciate your thoughtful comments. There's hope! 😃 Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.  It is my pleasure to meet you, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD.

Nov 21, 2021 05:12 PM