This is "My Why" - What is Yours?

Real Estate Agent with Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) DB-17066

Many motivational speakers tell you to think about your WHY?

  • Why do you do what you do for a living?
  • Why do you do what you do for fun?
  • Why do you . . . ?

I am a firm believer in leaving things better than you found it.  I believe we need to care for others more than we care for ourselves. I believe that we need to give back to our community. 

One thing that I am very passionate about is a local non-profit in Boise, Idaho -  They grant wishes to local terminal adults in order to create lasting positive memories for their families and caregivers.

Years ago, I was donating my time and money to this organization since I believed in their cause.  They invited me to be on their Board of Directors five years ago.  I attended a meeting to verify it would be a good fit.  It was.  However, before I accepted their nomination, I had a confession to make . . . I may miss a number of meetings and may not be able to give them much notice.

What was my WHY?  Because my wife was terminal herself.  She had two simultaneous Stage IV Uterine Cancers! This was after she was cured from having Stage IV Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma!

I told them that in the not too distant future this "problem" would resolve itself, so if they wanted me to wait to join their Board of Directors, I would totally understand. If they still wanted to accept me; I would be honored and would recuse my family from a Wish so that there would be no conflicts of interest.  Fortunately, I joined their Board that day and have served ever since.

We were very fortunate that my real estate career allowed me the financial resources, time, and flexibility to take my wife and family on our own bucket list trips.  We traveled lots, drank good wine and spent lots of time with family since we knew her days were numbered.  We adopted Toby Keith's song - "Live Like You Are Dying", as our theme song. One of our many bucket list items we were able to check off included this sunrise horseback ride on the beach.

I recognize and appreciate that Memorial Day is a day to remember and reflect on those that served and died for our freedom.  I lived in Vietnam as a child and started kindergarten there during the Vietnam War.  I lived in Korea when they were still rebuilding after their war.  I graduated from high school in Tehran, Iran when they were having a civil war.  I have seen first hand the ravages of war and have seen more than my share of deaths due to it.  I think that is why I appreciate LIFE.

Even though we are all born terminal, I choose to celebrate LIFE.  I choose help others appreciate what they have left of theirs by helping grant their terminal wishes.  That is "My Why" that my company, donates $250 per real estate closing to Wish Granters, Inc.

A very wise man, Dr. Vincent Kituku, taught me over 30 years ago that we can't control much in our life.  We can't control the day we are born and we typically don't control the day we die.  We can can however, control what is in between . . . "The Dash".  Mine is June 07, 1961 -

Jim Paulson Memorial Headstone

This is MY WHY - what is yours?

Comments (13)

Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

I've always liked the idea about what is between our dash. This is my Geno's and I can tell you there was a lot that happened between his dash! We shared the love of travel and I was blessed to see so much of the world that he traveled before me.   !

May 29, 2023 11:07 AM
Jim Paulson

When I come to visit some very dear friends in Austin, I will have to look you up Dorie Dillard Austin TX Better yet, introduce me to your education chair of your association and I will see about coming to teach an NAR or NAHB class there so my trip is a profit center and write off too!

Jun 17, 2023 03:21 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Thanks for sharing your passion. Many blessings in what you do. 

It is a personal choice of each of us ~ what makes us to move forward and feel fulfilled. 

May 29, 2023 12:45 PM
Jim Paulson

You are welcome Inna Ivchenko It is indeed a passion with a purpose.

Jun 17, 2023 03:22 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Jim Paulson  you are a baby just look older than me:) now with that said loved your post and the message, I guess you might appreciate what George  S Patton had to say:

"It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God such men lived" G.S.Patton



May 29, 2023 10:10 PM
Jim Paulson

Endre Barath, Jr., I was hoping by looking older, I could gain a few premature Senior discounts. Also, I will be coming to the RRC & NAR National Conferences November 12-17th, so it would be great to see you while I am there!  I am actively looking for a condo time share to rent near the convention center and will let you know when I get something booked.

Jun 17, 2023 03:27 PM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty LLC
eXp Realty LLC Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Excellent information.Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful day and a blessed week.

May 30, 2023 01:20 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hello Jim... what a heartfelt post and I could feel your passion for your "why" throughout. More people need to think about the "in-between" the day we are born and the day we die. 

May 30, 2023 05:19 AM
Jim Paulson

Nina Hollander, Broker it will definitely put their limited time on this earth into perspective if they truly analyze their dash.

Jun 17, 2023 03:29 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Doing more for others than for ourselves always leads to more good things coming our way than we could even imagine!

May 30, 2023 08:44 AM
Jim Paulson

You are so right Brian England I get so much joy by helping others, I can't even begin to comprehend the void selfish people must feel.

Jun 17, 2023 03:30 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Jim, sounds like you had a solid WHY, and a very good reason, and sorry to hear about your wife.

May 30, 2023 09:09 AM
Jim Paulson

Thank you Joan Cox.  I heard a great saying a while back . . . 
"I always thought I would spend the rest of my life with my spouse.  However, I realized they spent the rest of theirs with me!"

Jun 17, 2023 03:32 PM
Joan Cox

Jim Paulson sounds like you both were very lucky you had each other!

Jun 17, 2023 04:03 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Jim- I remember some of your posts about your wife and I know that whenever I read them, I could feel your commitment and passion that comes with whatever you do.  I have always loved "The Dash" and what it means. Thank you for your commitment and for inspiring us to think about ours. 

Jun 03, 2023 12:52 PM
Jim Paulson

Kathy Streib thank you my friend!  I was and am blessed.

Jun 17, 2023 03:33 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jun 03, 2023 06:52 PM
Jim Paulson

I appreciate the Feature.  Thanks Kathy Streib 

Jun 17, 2023 03:34 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Jim. You "dash" so far is filled with more experiences than one typically has in a lifetime and you have made the most of it, Simply amazing. You will have many pondering from this post! Enjoy your day.

Jun 04, 2023 05:01 AM
Jim Paulson

Greetings Wayne Martin.  Yes, I am blessed to have already done way more in my life and seen more places than most ever will.  When it is time for my dash to be completed, I will not be remorseful.  Make it a great weekend and year ahead!

Jun 17, 2023 03:36 PM
faye schubert
Retired - Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

What an incredible gift you are giving to those who know their time is coming to an end in their bodies. I can feel the passion in your words, as having to go through the pain in your own life. Thank you for sharing YOUR WHY.

Jun 04, 2023 05:47 AM
Jim Paulson

Thank you faye schubert It definitely helps if you can empathize.

Jun 19, 2023 12:58 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

What a heartfelt post. The dash of our lives is what is important, and yes, we need to LIVE. Thank you for sharing.

Jun 04, 2023 05:48 AM
Jim Paulson

Kat Palmiotti you at least know me well enough to realize I am pretty candid with my thoughts and feelings.

Jun 19, 2023 01:00 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

I love this post for many reasons. As a two-time major tumor survivor, I resonate with the living for-today attitude. So happy you possess this wonderful outlook. #LIV2DAY!

Jun 04, 2023 07:14 AM
Jim Paulson

Congrats on your successes Dr. Paula McDonald! Enjoy each day.

Jun 19, 2023 01:01 PM